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How did you learn about 'gay?'

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  1. NDark

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    Recently, I tried to read this book (Boy Meets Boy) in which a boy learns about gayness when he is five and immediately knows that he is from the get-go. I laughed at the notion of learning about it so soon, but now I'm curious to know when others learned about it.
    So, at what age – and how – did you learn about the concept of gayness? Some of my bros told me about it when I was in grade six but I didn't fully understand the concept until I was thirteen. What about you guys?
     
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    The internet and people at school. Same with everything puberty related...Gee, thanks parents!
     
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    Sadly I grew up in the south in the middle of the bible belt no less. It was preached that it was a sin, and those who are will go to hell. That is how I learned about it most certainly not my view.
     
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    From really ignorant people. My childhood was riddled with mortifying gaps in my knowledge. Embarrassment. :eusa_doh:
     
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    I remember first hearing people use "gaylord" and "gay" as insults when I was 8. I had a vague idea of what it meant. It wasn't until I was 11 that I realized that I thought other boys at school were cute, and that's when I connected the word "gay" to myself.
     
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    Ignorance from my parents my dad would say when women became extremely horny and couldn't find men to sleep with they slept with other women , I was also told that it was a sin as well and women were only suppose to be with men .
    my mom said lesbians were scary women that tried to turn other women gay like them .
    I was also told in general that gay people were sick and not well .
     
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    7th grade health class. I was like "wait a minute...my teacher might be on to something important here..." and then I considered it...
     
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    I don't remember the exact moment but it was sometime in 3rd grade or before for me
     
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    Wow, I guess I learned it in a half-decent way after all... XD
    Also, Acm, don't think about the dog park. :wink:
     
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    I actually really don't remember, but I know when I seriously learned about it as a concept that might actually, realistically apply to me is when an online creeper suggested it after I was totally NOT CRUSHING (crushing) on my math teacher in high school........
     
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    I heard of the word "gay" in 5th grade when guys used it to describe Justin Bieber. I didn't really understand until late 6th/early 7th grade when a friend of mine came out as bi-. By then, I reflected on 5th grade and didn't understand why it was use as an insult.
     
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    When I was 9 (wow...I'm old...that was in 2003), a girl told me that "gay" was a cuss word so I called a kid I hated gay, and that girl then told me what it actually meant lol
     
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    Friends, I pretty much learned everything from friends, two of them specifically :lol:
     
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    Heard it as an insult before 7th grade health class. I considered it but I was in serious denial at the time. Still trying to escape denial, but it's difficult. <sarcasm>thanks for telling me about it early enough...and paying so much attention to me...</sarcasm>
     
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    The Touhou fandom. :lol:
    "Wait... girls with girls is a thing?"
    "Maybe it's only a 2D girl thing."
    "Wait what's a waifu?"
    *intermission of hearing girls at school be disgusted by a certain Katy Perry song"
    "Oh. Well, waifus are 2D girls so.. I guess it's okay? I mean they're only 2D girls so.."
    "I guess Sakuya is my waifu kinda..>_> <_< It's okay right?"

    I didn't really fully connect it to me (even when I had a crush on my best friend) until I saw something on the news and confirmed that it was a thing and that thing was part of me.
    Younger me loved complicating things in my head.
     
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    I knew from a very early age. I can remember other kids calling others "gay", as far back as second grade. I put two and two together, and a few years later, found out, for sure, by looking in a dictionary.
     
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    When i was in like third or second grade because my brother's favorite insults were to call me gay or a fag at first i didn't know what it was then he explained it to me and after that the insult always really angered me (i didn't know why) so he used it all the time
     
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    My older brother and sister taught it to me when I was about 4 as a joke and I proceeded to charge around the house yelling it over and over while they were laughing. My mum made me to stop and told me what it meant then, I think. It is one of my earliest memories :lol:.
     
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    I don't remember the precise moment when I learned about the word 'gay', but I think it was quite early. I guess I heard that word from other people.

    I knew I was gay when I was 12 or so. I just realised I was attracted to boys. At first, I was in denial though.
     
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    I remember being relatively young at the time. It was at some point in the summer. My brother and his friends threw the word around as an insult. I somehow caught on that it was something feminine. I don't know when it was that I fully understood what gay meant.