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Anyone who is gay/lesbian have/had occasional opposite sex attraction?

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  1. Alder

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    Or just to anyone attracted to the same gender- in the past ever had some type of attraction to the opposite sex before realizing you were gay/lesbian?

    Any type of attraction, like brief crushes (real or fictional or celebrity or anything) or even a few fantasies about the opposite sex before realizing it wasn't what you wanted and that those feelings were different than the feelings you get for the same gender/sex?

    It's hard to phrase it, but I think you understand what I mean :slight_smile:

    Or even after realizing you are gay/lesbian, any times where you occasionally do feel some type of attraction to the opposite sex/gender?

    Just wondering :slight_smile:

    Obviously I think for bisexuals with or without gender preference it's different, but any insight would be great (*hug*)
     
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    I can tell if a guy is handsome or if a guy was kind to me I dated him and thought I liked him , I would even take a bum on the street if they were nice to me to prove I'm not shallow . I did like two guys once because they were handsome but our relationship was so platonic never really fantasized about kissing them or dating them .Just wanted to see if I can get them to like me after that I really wouldn't know what to do with them . hope this makes sense :confused:
    The only Male celebrity I liked was Nick Cater from the backstreet boys he's a very handsome man, I always thought if I dated him I could boast to people that he was my boyfriend and say I'm dating a celeb I tried to fantasize about him but it really didn't last long I would get bored , it's like it kinda never took and it was very forced .
    Hope this helps
     
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  3. C06122014

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    Well I have been attracted to the opposite sex, but it's because I crave an emotional connection and any opportunity I get to have that emotional connection I take it, but it's never in the sense of oh "I want to date you" it's more of a "you seem like a good friend I want you around me because you seem like a wonderful supportive and full filing individual" I know haha I'm weird but that's just how I feel :slight_smile:
     
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    I've always had a relatively strong attraction towards the opposite sex, and it often used to confuse me.

    But later I realized that my attraction towards girls was purely sexual. While my attraction towards guys was both sexual and emotional.
     
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    I had a celebrity crush on Robert Pattinson and sometimes I can feel some kind of physical attraction towards men, but that's nothing compared to what I feel toward women. Also I don't have the desire to be or do any sexual thing with guys.
     
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    When I was 12, a girl told me she liked me online and I was shaking, the same way I would if a guy told me now.

    We were girlfriend/boyfriend for a few days and in those days, I felt into it. I didn't question my sexuality then I suppose.
     
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    I would turn straight for Felicia Day.
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    But not really, not "attraction".
    I'm 100% gay :grin:
     
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    There has probably only been one guy I was actually attracted to (not just "he looks nice" but actually attracted to) and that confused me a lot because it never happens, it's always girls. Then again the thought of doing anything more than kissing or holding hands with him is not exactly appealing to me lol...it's complicated but it's kind of like "if for some reason I HAD to marry a guy, I'd be ok with him". So I guess it's more romantic/emotional attraction over sexual attraction. Eh
     
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    Wow she's hot.:icon_redf
     
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    I actually dated guys before but it was never really attraction, it was more like 'They asked me and they're a really good friend' or 'I feel like I can learn something from dating this individual'.
     
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    Hot and nerdy. She's just so adorable :icon_redf .

    To answer mackenziesr's question, I'm still not absolutely confident "lesbian" is the best label for me, but yes I have had romantic attractions to males. I have had a few guy crushes, though I think a couple were sort of forced one of them felt totally genuine. I also crush on Oz from Buffy, haha. Very occasionally I find a guy sexually attractive, but it's so rare and so minimal compared to what I feel for women that I'm more inclined to say I'm gay rather than bi. Generally speaking even if I find a guy attractive I still don't usually want to do anything physical with him. Sexuality is a spectrum, some people fall very firmly on one side or the other, but many of us are a little in between somewhere.
     
  12. Fallingdown7

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    It's common.

    I've never had a boyfriend or done anything physical with a guy, but I remember attractions and crushes back when I was young. I think It's just social conditioning.
     
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    I think so too that it's social conditioning society tries to brain wash everyone to think their straight not saying their aren't any straight people but those of us who aren't straight definitely got conditioned .
     
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    "Anyone who is gay/lesbian have/had occasional opposite sex attraction?"
    Not really, no, that's the definition of being gay :grin:
    I've admired girls sure, if they take good care of their appearance for example, but nothing that could be called an attraction at all.
     
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    Do you know I did, but I have none anymore. Fully signed up gay now.

    I knew I always liked guys by a measure as much as....................................................................................................this so I did label early on I was "Gay". Easier that way too. I didn't ever have "those" feelings for a girl, even trying to get off on straight porn was difficult and any success wasn't female based. I did think I liked this older female in my college class (Shes 27), but then I did the "Would I want to measure....Wake up beside her, put my dick inside her..."

    And back to normal.

    I admire female fashion, and style, and a good body but above that, no. Disco pants are hot. I like shiny things.
     
  16. edgy

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    All the time

    It's never sexual
     
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    Yeah, I used to like the idea of being with a girl, especially if she was pretty. But note that I'd consider girls to be 'pretty' or 'good looking' and never 'hot' or 'smoking.'

    Also if a girl showed any interest in me, then I would reciprocate it. But for all that, I've only ever had one straight relationship and it was a shambles.
     
  18. XenaxGabby

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    I would without question get "hot and heavy" with Matt Bomer (Neal Caffrey)

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