were are all the butches at?

Wait your saying there are femmine lesbians in your state ?
Man I really should move

 

i don't know if i'm butch or not but I certainly dress like a dude... I know zero other butch women. So hey there! *high five*

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Ahahahaha NYC is chockfull of lovely femmes!

 

same, i don't know where they are in my city, either butch or femme... may i should move abroad, or keep searching in my area, but i feel a bit weird having to do so, i never were into going to disco, bars and so on, but i guess where else could i find someone interesting that could be interested in me aswell?
and i'm more butch-like than femme, i've always been a tomboy.

 

internet dating sites

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or it may just be texas, in which case my answer is "texas"

 

I like butch women a lot too. Have you tried looking online, you might be able to find some.

 

blue, do you find a lot of resistance to the term "butch" either within yourself or from others? I feel like it encompasses a narrow range of masculinity, a very old-fashioned one, and I feel like just feeling dudely isn't enough to be butch; it involves a whole lot of stuff I don't really identify with, like fixing things (i suck at that) and being big and strong (i'm strong but small) and being all chivalrous (i'm not looking for someone who wants that kind of boy/girlfriend) and never crying. I feel like in general the queer community doesn't like the term either, but maybe it's just me?

 

I too like butch women (not exclusively, though), but I'm a feminine lesbian lol. My city is kinda small, but we have a fair amount of teen butches in my school. I know other girls who look butch but may not actually be queer, so there's that, too. I'd start with the femmes and see if they can lead you to butch girls, and if all else fails, you could try either 1) a big city or 2) online websites that aren't solely for dating-- like tumblr, say.

Happy searching!

 

It's times like this I wish I owned a car :icon_sad:

 

Blue, it is nice to see a baby Butch who gets it.

I have never heard that butches should not cry, and that is just as silly as saying men should never cry. Everyone has emotions and they should feel free to show them. I am married to a wonderful OFOS Butch and am 100% Femme. However, I fix my own machinery, and what I can't fix, she does. I just do it in pink, and with nail polish on! LOL

 

That's not odd at all. I know there has been a tradition of sorts to have one butch and one femme, but can you actually think of a reason why all relationships must be that way? We like what we like.

 

That is a good question! I am a feminine lesbian and am very attracted to butches as well. However, here in South Carolina, they are no where to be found! When you find them, tell me!

 

You sound f---ing awesome I give you a million high fives! I don't mean I think like that, but I mean that butch tends to be associated with old school masculinity. There's probably a hundred ways to be butch. But as I don't know any young people who identify as butch I assume that's the reason? Anyways I think old school gender dynamics are icky regardless of either party's gender so let's keep messing that up! I would love either a butch or a femme or even a guy who "out-butchers" me without making me feel like I need to be feminine. I just couldn't care less if I'm the butch or femme one. And I paint my nails too thank you very much!

 

Also I don't know if there's any winning; I know a friend who is a femme into femmes and has a hard time in her home country, but she comes to the city and she goes nuts on all the femmes here. Meanwhile I can't seem to find any women on the masculine side up here. Plus most of the LGBT people in the city seem to be of the artsy hipster variety, with whom I have very little in common, so I don't know... there are slim pickings no matter what "type" you are and no matter what your "type" is...

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a Butch digging another Butch or a Femme another Femme. Anyone who says there is is not someone that is worth your time hanging about. Blue, you should never feel odd for loving who you love. I dated Femmes at first when I came out, but the zing was not there for me as with a Butch. If I had met one that I loved, I would not let anything stop me from keeping her. My Butch wife dated a Butch cop, but it did not work for her either, however, her BFF is also a Butch and she found another Butch to share her life with. Our youngest daughter is Tomboi Femme and she is only attracted to other Tombois. She is really not into Butches at all.

That is one aspect of the LGBT culture that I am very glad is changing.