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-Michael- · 14th Sep 2008, 03:59 AM

First day of college (2 thursdays ago)
i had a fag. (cigarette, i understand how the terminology can be mistaken)

I had totally forgot i had given up.
Back the usual 20 a day

Oh well, i only give up because it made me look unsociable.
But now the 2 feelas that like me smoke

.

We can die early....together.

Just thought id inform you people on another failure in my life.

14th Sep 2008, 04:13 AM

Aw, Michael!!!

Tut, Tut, Tut.

BeautifulStranger · 14th Sep 2008, 05:19 AM

I semi-failed when I got to Germany

I vowed never to smoke since I'm a singer... but I was incredibly drunk the other night, someone offered me a cig and I took it without hesitation...

I'm so ashamed of myself... =[

14th Sep 2008, 05:47 AM

There's no way someone will EVER make me smoke,my both parents are smokers and I hate that bad habit...and they wouldn't even stop for me

I'll never allow it to myself.The strong will keeps me from it!

beckyg · 14th Sep 2008, 05:57 AM

Michael, you gave it up once. You can do it again.

**Ben** · 14th Sep 2008, 05:59 AM

Do give it up, Michael! you'll stay in good health

14th Sep 2008, 06:12 AM

Michael, I can empathize. I quit smoking a couple months ago. You're young, you'll be able to quit easily again. Just don't give into peer pressure. It's all about will power.

-Michael- · 14th Sep 2008, 07:40 AM

nuh,

theres a lot more pressing matters in my life than health.

I think health is so down on the ladder it cant see the top.

dont worry...ill give up....later

**Ben** · 14th Sep 2008, 07:49 AM

Noooo! Health should always come at the top of the ladder.

Daniel · 14th Sep 2008, 10:07 AM

You die of lung cancer and I can die of liver failure and we will never have to worry about parts starting to sag.

Jeimuzu · 14th Sep 2008, 10:14 AM

I'm not going to try to tell you how to live your life. If you're a happier man because you smoke, go for it. If it makes it easier to be sociable, then by all means, be sociable that way. After all, plenty of people drink purely to ease conversation and the like, and that causes damage too. I'd not presume to order about someone who drinks, simply because it's gonna damage his liver.

Hypothetically, someone might drink one day and get the courage to talk to someone who he'd always liked, and maybe that one time might give him someone to fall in love with. Who knows? I even dare to say that it has happened hundreds of times before.

Why couldn't this happen with cigarettes? It'd be less direct than that, but maybe you'd get closer to these guys because you both smoke, or someone else. And surely that's one of the things that life is about when you're young, isn't it? It's about friends and lovers. It is for me, along with seeing new things.

I couldn't care worth a damn about the future. What I want is a boyfriend - coming along nicely on that front right now - and a lot of close friends, and I want to see things while I'm young. I could spend years being careful and bored to make sure I'd have a good future, and then get hit by a car when I'm finally old enough to enjoy the fruits of my labours. What's the point in wasting one day worrying about another one? Just try and enjoy each day as it comes.

But keep this in mind, Michael; when you want to give up smoking, when you decide that health is what you want most, we'll support you.

PS: Yes, I do actually think this deeply about everything.

Austin · 14th Sep 2008, 11:51 AM

Umm, congratulations?

Anyways, it'll only make you more sociable with people who don't mind the smoke. I, for one, would avoid being by you when you smoked.

Amy · 14th Sep 2008, 12:27 PM

tut, tut, tut

quit again! keep strong!

im a severe asthmatic, smoke makes me sick.

EmperorNero · 14th Sep 2008, 02:51 PM

As said, quit again! Smoking is for smokers, and you don't want to be one of them, right? Besides, most people I know think of 16-years old people who smoke like pissants with a desire to look cool and mature. No offense.

Derek the Wolf · 14th Sep 2008, 03:26 PM

Smoking isn't as bad as everyone says it is. YES, it is a contributing factor that can lead to lung cancer. However, genetics plays a huge role in whether or not you get any kind of cancer. And a huge part of it is still a mystery. I would say try to quit smoking, but don't make it your sole purpose in life. It's not the most important ting.

Kenko · 14th Sep 2008, 03:49 PM

Don't look at it as another failure, look at it as a speedbump along the way. If you stop smoking again, all isn't lost

14th Sep 2008, 03:52 PM

James smoked, i fuckin hate him 4 that

thats y i'll neva smoke, i dont want eva to do anything the way he would, he's gone now and im moving on

shakerdancee · 14th Sep 2008, 08:38 PM

You know, I think smokers are hot.

Jerr · 14th Sep 2008, 09:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by -Michael-

We can die early....together.

I'm not a smoker but Whatever makes you happy. haha I don't plan on getting old. (Duno how I'll fix that problem but just wait... I'll find a way.)

Just wanted to say don't be hard on yourself. There are far worse things you could do. Like giving up smoking for crack snorting... or fast food binging. Just if you feel like it, quit, if you don't, f

if I care. I'll still be your friend. haha

-Michael- · 15th Sep 2008, 07:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shakerdancee

You know, I think smokers are hot.

ya see....

now i like you...

i dont know why

aha

14th Sep 2008, 03:59 AM	#1
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Jun 2008	I caved First day of college (2 thursdays ago) i had a fag. (cigarette, i understand how the terminology can be mistaken) I had totally forgot i had given up. Back the usual 20 a day Oh well, i only give up because it made me look unsociable. But now the 2 feelas that like me smoke . We can die early....together. Just thought id inform you people on another failure in my life.

14th Sep 2008, 04:13 AM	#2
nodoubtjunkie Guest Posts: n/a	Re: I caved Aw, Michael!!! Tut, Tut, Tut.

14th Sep 2008, 05:19 AM	#3
BeautifulStranger GaGa's Knight in Flaming Armor Full Member Gender: 여왕 Orientation: Boys Boys Boys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Jukjeon-dong, Yongin-si Age: 20 Posts: 1,823 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: I caved I semi-failed when I got to Germany I vowed never to smoke since I'm a singer... but I was incredibly drunk the other night, someone offered me a cig and I took it without hesitation... I'm so ashamed of myself... =[ __________________ Co-Founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club EC's official Diva Extraordinaire Future 'Mr. Kellan Lutz' "Since women have vaginas, they also have drama to fill the void."

14th Sep 2008, 05:47 AM	#4
berileos Guest Posts: n/a	Re: I caved There's no way someone will EVER make me smoke,my both parents are smokers and I hate that bad habit...and they wouldn't even stop for meI'll never allow it to myself.The strong will keeps me from it!

14th Sep 2008, 05:57 AM	#5
beckyg PFLAG Mom Community Liaison Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone/Yes, parents come out too! Location: Middle of Oregon Age: 50 Posts: 7,572 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: I caved Michael, you gave it up once. You can do it again. __________________ "When we're free to love anyone we choose, When this worlds big enough for all different views, When we're all free to worship from our own kind of pew, Then we shall be free" ~ Garth Brooks

14th Sep 2008, 05:59 AM	#6
Ben Was Invisible. EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 3,702 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: I caved Do give it up, Michael! you'll stay in good health

14th Sep 2008, 06:12 AM	#7
Nova713 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: I caved Michael, I can empathize. I quit smoking a couple months ago. You're young, you'll be able to quit easily again. Just don't give into peer pressure. It's all about will power.

14th Sep 2008, 07:40 AM	#8
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: I caved nuh, theres a lot more pressing matters in my life than health. I think health is so down on the ladder it cant see the top. dont worry...ill give up....later

14th Sep 2008, 07:49 AM	#9
Ben Was Invisible. EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 3,702 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: I caved Noooo! Health should always come at the top of the ladder.

14th Sep 2008, 10:07 AM	#10
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: I caved You die of lung cancer and I can die of liver failure and we will never have to worry about parts starting to sag. __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

14th Sep 2008, 10:14 AM	#11
Jeimuzu Wreck Cognition Full Member Gender: Heterogametic Orientation: Rawr. Out Status: 99% out. Location: Middlesbrough Age: 23 Posts: 1,744 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: I caved I'm not going to try to tell you how to live your life. If you're a happier man because you smoke, go for it. If it makes it easier to be sociable, then by all means, be sociable that way. After all, plenty of people drink purely to ease conversation and the like, and that causes damage too. I'd not presume to order about someone who drinks, simply because it's gonna damage his liver. Hypothetically, someone might drink one day and get the courage to talk to someone who he'd always liked, and maybe that one time might give him someone to fall in love with. Who knows? I even dare to say that it has happened hundreds of times before. Why couldn't this happen with cigarettes? It'd be less direct than that, but maybe you'd get closer to these guys because you both smoke, or someone else. And surely that's one of the things that life is about when you're young, isn't it? It's about friends and lovers. It is for me, along with seeing new things. I couldn't care worth a damn about the future. What I want is a boyfriend - coming along nicely on that front right now - and a lot of close friends, and I want to see things while I'm young. I could spend years being careful and bored to make sure I'd have a good future, and then get hit by a car when I'm finally old enough to enjoy the fruits of my labours. What's the point in wasting one day worrying about another one? Just try and enjoy each day as it comes. But keep this in mind, Michael; when you want to give up smoking, when you decide that health is what you want most, we'll support you. PS: Yes, I do actually think this deeply about everything. __________________ Last edited by Jeimuzu; 14th Sep 2008 at 10:24 AM..

14th Sep 2008, 11:51 AM	#12
Austin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people in my life. Location: Orange County, California, USA Age: 19 Posts: 1,789 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: I caved Umm, congratulations? Anyways, it'll only make you more sociable with people who don't mind the smoke. I, for one, would avoid being by you when you smoked. __________________ Can I sail through the changing ocean tides, can I handle the seasons of my life?

14th Sep 2008, 12:27 PM	#13
Amy DFTBA Full Member Gender: Somewhere between female and I don't know Out Status: Open, not out. Location: Northern California, United States Age: 18 Posts: 2,380 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: I caved tut, tut, tut quit again! keep strong! im a severe asthmatic, smoke makes me sick. __________________ "The opposite of love is not hate, but fear" Forrest Church

14th Sep 2008, 02:51 PM	#14
EmperorNero Lost in insanity Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: -sexual Out Status: Mostly everyone Location: Sweden Age: 22 Posts: 239 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: I caved As said, quit again! Smoking is for smokers, and you don't want to be one of them, right? Besides, most people I know think of 16-years old people who smoke like pissants with a desire to look cool and mature. No offense. __________________ Why bother being straight/gay/lesbian/bisexual/whatever? Just fuck the ones who turn you on and marry the one(s) you love. It doesn't have to be this hard.

14th Sep 2008, 03:26 PM	#15
Derek the Wolf Furry Overlord Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Majority Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 1,325 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: I caved Smoking isn't as bad as everyone says it is. YES, it is a contributing factor that can lead to lung cancer. However, genetics plays a huge role in whether or not you get any kind of cancer. And a huge part of it is still a mystery. I would say try to quit smoking, but don't make it your sole purpose in life. It's not the most important ting. __________________

14th Sep 2008, 03:49 PM	#16
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: I caved Don't look at it as another failure, look at it as a speedbump along the way. If you stop smoking again, all isn't lost

14th Sep 2008, 03:52 PM	#17
JWAD Guest Posts: n/a	Re: I caved James smoked, i fuckin hate him 4 that thats y i'll neva smoke, i dont want eva to do anything the way he would, he's gone now and im moving on

14th Sep 2008, 08:38 PM	#18
shakerdancee Oom-pah! Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not sure Out Status: Anyone who asks Location: California Age: 19 Posts: 304 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: I caved You know, I think smokers are hot.