Would you rather die before or after your lover?

After to ensure they received the burial they deserved

 

I agree completely with your second point. I would prefer to die after my boyfriend/husband. I think I could handle the pain and I definitely would feel bad if he goes through it because of me.

I think that's the only reason I have right now.

 

After, I guess. Some partner I'd be if I wished the pain of losing me onto them. But I don't currently have a partner, and I have no fixed plans to get one. Maybe I never will.

 

After.

But I agree with Hexagon, not sure if "lifelong partner" is what I want, ever

 

It depends on the circumstances, for me.

If my partner is somebody, I have been with, for quite some time, bonded with, and we were faced with a devastating situation... I'd probably risk my own life, to make sure they had a chance, to get away. If we were both being executed, I would volunteer insist upon going first. I would want to demonstrate to my partner, to be strong, and to not show fear. If I were stricken with a deadly illness, I would want to go first, so that my partner would have time to grieve, but eventually move on, to experience new tomorrows.

But outside of those kinds of situations, I would probably want to die after. For the same reasons that have been mentioned here, but also, if they were indeed a lengthy and significant part of my life, they would become another reason to continue onward. To live life, and to incorporate them into my actions and ambitions. I know that sounds right out of a comic book, but... anyone who is involved in my life, and in such a manner as what this thread implies, will definitely have influenced me. But more importantly, they will have shown me, even someone like myself, can be capable of receiving love. That, alone, is worth carrying on for.

 

Am I the only one who doesn't care at all..?

 

After, i dont want them to have the pain of it. ^.^

 

After. They'd most likely have more hardships in their life than me, so that's one less thing they'd have to deal with.

 

Before. I don't recover from trauma as well as most people, and while I wouldn't want them to have the pain of losing me, I just couldn't bare to lose someone I loved that much.

 

After. I want to give them everything they deserve. With a tombstone like those huge obelisks in cemeteries. Then just pray my death follows soon.

 

Before reading this, I was thinking I'd rather die before them because I couldn't bear the thought of living on with the pain of loss. I realize it's selfish because that just means I'd rather have my future partner carry that pain instead of me.

So, after reading your reasons, I'm steering towards after.

 

This is an impossible question for me to answer. If possible, I'd like us both to die together after having lived a full life.

 

It doesn't matter to me, to be honest.

 

If I was with my soulmate, I would want to die with them. Honestly, even if they passed away before me and I was still alive, I would be dead as well. Any amount of time that I am alive afterwards, would be like my soul being trapped on this earth alone like a ghost that is extremely miserable and suffering and hasn't passed on. So in that sense, I would be dead as well and there would be nothing left and nothing to convince me to stay. :/ I don't really think I will ever find my soulmate or such everlasting happiness, so perhaps this question doesn't apply to me, but if it did, no matter what, that will always be my answer and that will always be the end result of that. So a dark answer for a dark question. How fun!

 

i would like to not die, ever, so after

 

Together.. forever.. and ever... and ever..

 

Before. Honestly, my answer is a bit selfish in a sense because the death of a lover is not something I could handle. I wouldn't die, but I would most likely never recover. I'm not much of a crier but I love hard. I hate to think that way but... I just do. I know there's a possibility they'll hurt when I die, but I want them to live happily. I know for a fact I'd never be the same.

I would much rather my future lover hate my guts than die because I'll be ok as long as I know they're still in this world.

 

I don't really think it'd matter at that point...