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Breaking the ice...what do YOU do?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by QueerTransEnby, Sep 19, 2014.

  1. QueerTransEnby

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    So, you see someone across the room that you find attractive and they nod back, how do you break the ice with them? I don't want to hear about what experts say, what do YOU do?
     
  2. NingyoBroken

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    Go up to them and compliment them haha.
    The last time I talked to a hot guy, I said "You're totally gorgeous"


    Perhaps I'm a bit too.. Straightforward?
     
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    I would ask them a question. But, usually I get analysis paralysis and give up.
     
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    Usually an ice pick for one of us, and the other, their bare hands.

    LOL.

    I suppose you want something semi-serious. Mm. Well, keeping it simple is the best advice I can give. I'd say to be yourself, but if 'yourself' is a shy and nervous wrecked personality, that isn't very helpful advice. No, instead, keep it simple. Just find something genuine to talk about:

    Look at their articles of clothing. Do you see any band logos? Television show images or phrases? Movie images or phrases? Do they have an awesome color in their hair? Do they have piercings, and you really want one, so maybe compliment and ask them about it? Are they carrying a music device, maybe ask them what they're listening to, and go from there.

    One of the easiest places to break the ice, is a book store. Wait until you see somebody in an area, that you like or are just well-rounded in, and offer some company. Hell, you could even wait until they pick up a book, then waltz in and provide a honest opinion of the book they have. Some book stores sell music as well, so, just repeat this formula there.

    You can get super fancy with it, but unless you've been around this person long enough, that is going to come off as super desperate (not sexy), or super creepy (not cool). Just being simplistically complimentary, is the best way.

    Oh, and it doesn't hurt to laugh at yourself. You beat them to the punch, then you have the power over potential rejection/dismissal. You look like you're having a good time, and everybody will want to be around that good time.
     
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    Hey, what's up?
    I've seen you around and you seem cool. Nice to meet you.

    Ideally, I would do that. But when anxiety overrides, I'll just give them a smile.
     
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    If you have them nod back, you might just go over and say Hi, I'm ...

    Why are you in this place ? Birthday party, school, ... There should be topics enough to start a conversation. Do you also study .... are you a relative of (the girl that has her birthday)...

    You might have a further look here, if you haven't already:
    http://emptyclosets.com/forum/sexual-romantic-orientation/146045-flirting.html#6
     
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    That sounds like really good advice, I am one of those shy types that just doesn't know now to initiate conversation with someone I might like in person either, so that advice is really helpful even to me. I would have never thought to take notice of clothing etc and then compliment or ask questions from there. You are very intuitive and always answer with very helpful and wonderful advice.
     
  8. asdfghjk

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    I don't : , )

    *lurks this topic for some HOT ACTION advice*
     
  9. Kaiser

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    You're right. You don't break the ice - you melt it, because you're so hot!
     
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    Just watch Thaw Thor together and that's what will happen to the ice :wink:
     
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    ahhhhhh kaiser lmao! that is not what happens besides i dont want to flood the room!!!!
     
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    I just go up and start a conversation. Just talk about anything and see where it goes. If they are mean to me or tell me to go away then they are clearly not worth my time anyway.

    Happy days :slight_smile:
     
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    I actually don't do anything lmao. I usually wait for them to say anything and I go along with that conversation.
     
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    The only occasion when I have contact with strangers is when I'm out and I dance with random girls. I walk up to them and stick out my hand, if they take it we dance if they don't take it I walk to the next one :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: When I see two guys dance or flirt I have to stop myself from staring too much scared any one would notice but for some reason it's hard to stop looking :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Glad I'm not the only one doing this!
     
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    I sit by them and moan as loud as possible. :thumbsup:
     
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    Probably blush shyly and hope they come over... I'm not very good at the face to face first move yet :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: Online though I'm a bit of a smooth talker xP
     
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    :roflmao:
     
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    Well, if it was a guy or transguy, I'd put my head down and blush with a cheeky smile. If it was a girl or transgirl, I'd walk up to them and say "what's up?" :wink:
     
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    Give them a high five. High fives for everyone. Works like a charm.

    Usually it just confuses people but who cares.