Hi guys. I'm bi. No one but EC and myself know it. I've never been with a guy but I would really love to meet one who isn't camp (its just not my type of guy.got a few camp friends and I just don't like camp haha). Problem is,the type of guy I am looking for (straight acting) doesn't usually "Advertise" himself. I'd just like to be really good friends with a guy and then see where it goes,but at the same moment I'm scared someone I know might find out (if they see me in a gay club for example) amd that would ruin a few things for me. Any advice on this situation?
I have a gay friend in another city who's involved in a gay recreational sports league. That may be an option if there's one near you.
Hey dude I'm a bisexual guy too! Yeah, I don't think I've ever met an openly bisexual dude but I can tell you that people are more likely to come out to you if you are open about your sexuality. Most people are cool with bisexual people and being open makes you feel a lot more comfortable. I totally understand your situation, I hope you find someone!
It's hard to meet those types of guys unless you're out of the closet. A masculine gay guy is rarely gonna approach or flirt with someone, unless they know (or they can tell) that the person is gay/bi.
If you aren't willing to be out in your operating environment, it's not too realistic to expect others to be either for similar reasons. If they see you out, and nothing bad happening, they will be more comfortable in coming out too, or at least coming out to you. Your best bet is to go someplace where people already feel safer to be out, whether it is a bar, or some social setting where most of the guys are gay, then you know who's who.
The whole "going out of my way to make everyone think I'm straight"-thing gets old really fast. Plus, it's not like you're living in Afghanistan or some country like that. Being bi in the U.K can't be that hard. I don't think anyone is gonna give a shit about the fact that you like dudes. Plus, you gotta do it sooner or later anyway.
Dude there is no acting involved in being gay or bisexual. You are who are, lol everyone assumes I'm straight.
