Lesbian U-haul /lesbian "merging" stereotype?

"Holds any truth" in what sense?

A stereotype is a blanket statement made about an entire group of people. Do you actually mean to ask if all lesbians are U-Haul lesbians? Certainly not.

But if you mean to ask "are *some* lesbians U-Haul lesbians", then the answer if "of course...otherwise the stereotype wouldn't exist."

I think it's a good observation, however, that straight people do exactly the same thing...and usually the woman in the relationship. So very likely, this stereotype isn't about lesbians at all, but about women generally. And there, we shouldn't be surprised...women are more likely to get emotionally attached more quickly.

 

I'm not like that at all. I'm a very distant person that takes things slow, gets irritated if my partner wants to spend so much time with me, etc. Does the stereotype exist for some people? Sure, but not everyone.

 

My poor wife had to date me for years before she moved in. However, it does seem that Lesbian realationships move very quickly for many women. Two emotional people and who can understand each other better than the opposite sex, make for quicker pacing.

 

Sounds like relationships in general to me.

 

Yeah, I would definitely say that I've seen quite a few lesbian relationships move quickly but I can also say the same about many straight and gay relationships I've seen. One of my friends is female and she moved in with her boyfriend after 3 months together. And another friend I used to hang out with, he moved in with his boyfriend after 2 months.

But I do think some lesbian relationships do move quickly but trust me not everyone is like that. I'm not like that all. I like to have my space and hang out with my friends. I am also an introvert to the core so I like having some alone time. When I was with my ex, we didn't hangout everyday or dress the same, we definitely had plenty of boundaries and space to grow so it's not everyone. Just avoid the girls that move too quickly. You'll usually be able to tell who they are right away.

 

If both people want to move in together as soon as possible, why not. I wouldn't move in together right away, but I don't think it's bad when both people want it. As for spending a lot of time together, nothing wrong with that either if it makes people happy. I'd like that very much actually. I'm an introvert and could be content with having one person in my life. At my age making friends is very difficult because everyone has their own family anyway, so having a partner be my best friend is ideal for me.

 

I don't know - sounds like a stereotype to me. And my relationship with my ex (male) was like that, so it isn't necessarily only a lesbian thing. In fact, a lot of my friends' first few relationships were a bit like that (gay and straight). But I can imagine that sometimes with women things can move fast and be a bit intense. But it all depends on personalities and previous experiences etc.

 

So thats what a "U-Haul lesbian" means!

I honestly thought it meant they have a preference for driving vans! :eusa_doh:

 

So, I saw this awesome post a while ago and I'm just gonna quote it here. I'd just post a link, but it's from Tumblr and I don't think that's allowed, so...

(Bolded the important part(s) + I thought the graph was interesting!)

 

I do agree.. My best friend has found herself in a relationship with a woman, always considered herself straight before but none the less, she is very happy.. She has always been a bit of a free sprit, however her now fiancée is very much into the hippy lifestyle and my best friend has really adapted her own lifestyle to suit her partners as well. They are very busy and my best friends partner does have two kids from a previous heterosexual relationship but I have found that since my friend began pulling away from me a little since she got with her, more so before she had officially come out to me, I guess when she might have been concerned about my reaction about it all. It was never an issue with me accepting her though, but I do feel like I have lost my best friend to an extent now she has a female partner who does pretty much everything together as a couple and as a family.

 

Its based on that is a tendency that is more recurrent on lesbians couples than male gay or straight, but is not an universal truth. The reason it happens is that there are many women who quickly develop emotional attachment, get attached as soon they have psysical intimacy with someone or even before that, its obvious that because lesbians couples are formed by 2 women, this tendency have more chances to develop than other kinds of relationships, but this merging can happen between 2 guys or in a straight relationship, it just is less common.

 

I can merge pretty hard when I'm with someone ,but lately I like having my own space more . I don't think it's true for every lesbian ,but there are some that fit that stereotype to a Tee ; personally ,I don't like living with other people and would prefer just living on my own .

 

I've heard this stereotype, too, I'm glad to see that some are saying it's not necessarily true as I'm a pretty independent person and like to have my space. I haven't been in a lesbian relationship nor do I know any lesbian couples so I don't really have any experience in this area. I'd agree with the sentiment though that this can happen in straight couples pretty easily, too, and I have definitely witnessed this, especially in younger couples who have more of a tendency to get totally wrapped up in a relationship and disappear from other friendships. In my previous relationship with a guy I was probably the one who "set the boundaries" more than him, so I think personality is going to play a factor in addition to gender, here, too.

 

I had to go to Urban Dictionary too.

 

Case closed, imo.

 

I agree with the others that say straight couples do this as well. One of my friends abandoned me for her boyfriend, and moved in with him in less than a month of dating. I'm extremely independent and space needy, and one of my crushes (although we never became a couple) was very introverted and space needy as well; if we became a couple I couldn't ever see this happening because of our personality types. I think the only reasons It's linked to lesbians is because women get emotionally attached and start daydreaming of love/marriage quickly. As others have said, It's more of a woman stereotype than a lesbian one, but we get the heat more because we have two women in our relationship

 

I wouldn't move in that quickly, especially since I like my space. But for my girlfriend and I, we were friends and roommates before we started dating, so we skipped the whole Uhaul thing! We both work different shifts too so I get my personal space...but maybe too much of it lol.

 

Teehee hee *giggles*