Healthy thoughts?

Pretty much everyone i know has these feelings lol.

 

The intensity of those feelings is more important than their existence alone. To be moderately enamoured with and in awe of a celebrity is perfectly normal and healthy. To expect to be sexually/romantically involved with them, to stalk them, and, as sometimes happens subsequently in an obsession, to feel resent and anger at their lack of interest/total ignorance of your existence, is a big problem.

But it doesn't sound like that, so don't worry.

 

I have lots of crushes on a lot of celebs, but I guess what you need to do is just be happy with the crush as it is and know it is only ever something in your fantasizes or dreams.. I know someone who loved a celeb that much that she began to hate his wife and couldn't stand her even though she is a lovely woman and a celeb in her own right.. I think when you have those kinds of feelings and it comes off as being negative thoughts towards their other half, that is when you need to start reining it in and think that person is married or with someone else, or for other reasons is out of reach and can only be something you could ever be with in your own mind. You also don't know who that person really is, you see their public persona and for some people.. That is realistic, like Jensen Ackles, Jared Padalecki and Misha Collins.. I think they are all their true selves whilst in public, but others might not, so you are possibly only falling for their public persona, not whom they really are.. So that is something else to think of as well if you wish to break free of a celeb crush.

 

I think as long as you don't only live within your hop and your fantasizes and you realize that it's a crush and not to I guess compare a potential partner to the celeb you are crushing on, then I don't see it as being an issue.. I often have different fantasizes of romance etc involved with Celebs, but it is a place for me to visit occasionally, not live there in that fantasy world the whole time.

 

Just make sure you don't waste months or even years longing after people you might never meet. It could take away your interest in actual potential partners if you spend too long and take too seriously fantasising.

 

The whole concept or idea that you can 'have' someone is totally preposterous. Take it from someone who has been in love many times.

 

I have tons of crushes on fictional characters. The only real actor crush I have is Nathan Fillion, probably because he's been wonderful in every role I've seen him in.

 

It's normal! Everyone does it but you have to keep your feet on the ground. There are people who are only good to look at and fantasize about but there are also those who are worth your time and your love like people who are actually around. People who know you exist. They could be around but you don't notice them because you're too preoccupied with your fantasizing.

Sometimes, you don't need to look too far. And sometimes, it's better not to look for it at all. It'll come.