My bf is a bisexual?

A lot of bisexual people have greater attraction to one gender or the other, as sexuality isn't just black and white; gay, straight or bi. It's more a spectrum of who you're attracted to, myself for example, I'm more romantically attracted to guys then girls but more physically attracted to girls but I'm still bi (pan technically, but that's a whole other pile of socks). Also, he's no more likely to cheat on you than any other guy, at all.

I hope that helps, just ask me if you have any more questions.

 

What's wrong with him being bisexual I don't get why it would bother you , he loved you enough to tell you the truth he probably doesn't want to sleep with men because he only wants to be committed with you .
If it were I would think he wouldn't be worried . What I think you should do is just take his word for it .
bisexual does not = cheater

and a bisexual man does not = gay men can be bisexual two and like both sexes
also maybe he could be a bisexual person that's into women romantically and sexual but just men sexually .

 

I've always found it interesting how women feel "threatened" when their boyfriend is also attracted to guys, while men don't give two shits about their girlfriend being into women, because they don't see women as competition.

 

I agree with stocking. Women in general have a hard time with accepting a bisexual partner (even women with female partners), but the fact of the matter is being bisexual doesn't mean someone is unfaithful, will leave you for a man, or you won't be good enough. And there are bi guys who prefer women too.
He probably said he didn't want sex with men because he doesn't want to cheat; if he was single his answer was probably different. I honestly think he feels ashamed and worried because of his orientation right now.

I agree, I think It's extremely sexist and implies that men are superior partners on both sides.

 

You an know who you're attracted to without having to be in a relationship. Else, how would you know to start a relationship?
The same thing could be said of a straight person who's never had a relationship, how can you know you're straight when you've never been with someone of the opposite sex?

 

Being bisexual does not mean just a girl or just a boy will not satisfy you. We might like a girl or a boy, but we still like that boy or girl. Don't feel like you can't "fulfil his desire for masculinity".
Your profile says you're curious. Does this mean he doesn't fulfil your desire for femininity? Sure, he might be attracted to men while being in a relationship with you, but he would have been attracted to other women anyways. This doesn't mean you're not good enough.

 

He probably means he doesn't want to have sex with them while dating you , and probably would if he were single and wasn't in a relationship that's how I see it .
I've never been with a woman ,and I know I'm a lesbian so I think he would know .
You see you don't need to have sex with someone to know what you are . Same way you always knew you liked men before you started having sex with them . Or you knew you liked your boyfriend before you slept with him .
Not all bisexuals are 50/50 some prefer one sex over the other , some only like having relationships with one sex and not the other .

 

This is the Kinsey Scale
It's very over simplified but it's a start to understanding that sexuality isn't ternary but on a spectrum

 

Yeah because if this was her he wouldn't feel threatened and in fact he would be encouraging her to have sex with women , either with or without him .

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The problem I have with the kinsey scale is it implies that all bisexuals are 50/50 which most us know is not true .

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Your welcome

 

It does the exact opposite....
One through five....

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To quote Kinsey himself, "The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects"

 

3 is the only listed as bisexual .

 

Actually, the term bisexuality isn't used at all. Only, "Equally Heterosexual and Homosexual"

I'll stop here, we're getting off topic.

 

I agree with Stocking; I think he meant that while he's willing to have sex with men and has attraction to them, he wouldn't have sex with a man while he's involved with you. And he might simply be more attracted to women than he is to men.

And he knows because he is attracted to men. That logic would mean that people wouldn't feel sexual attraction until after they had sex, which is obviously not a reasonable thought. I'm sure you felt attracted to men before you slept with one.

 

Just remember that because we are Bisexual and we swing both ways, that doesnt make us unfaithful. I know it wasnt brought up however its a point most people dont seem to understand.

 

I agree it's not used at all on the scale , yeah I'll leave it right here .

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This bisexual just means having attraction to both sexes it doesn't mean more likely to cheat .

 

Hi, I'm a bisexual and I'd just like to make a few things clear. Bisexuals are attracted to both men and women, but that doesn't usually mean that we want to be with both at once. We generally want to be with either or. For example if I was in a relationship with a woman, my thoughts would be on her. I would be perfectly happy having sex only with her, and even if I did still have some fantasies about men, they would be just that. Fantasies. Also it might seem confusing that your boyfriend says he doesn't want to have sex with men. There are two good explanations that I can think of, and the first is that if he never admitted it to anybody, there is a chance he never really admitted his sexual attractions to himself. But another explanation that I think is a bit more likely is that he really only feels romantic attraction to men, but with women he has sexual and romantic attraction. It might seem confusing, but sexuality isn't always black and white, as others have pointed out. Romantic and sexual attraction can in many cases be separate, and some people will be only be able to be either sexually or romantically attracted to a particular gender.

 

Biphobia in general is so fucked up. What l'd like to know is what gave society the idea to stereotype bis as cheaters, though l can guess it was either, a. incidental and/or b. misinterpreted/overblown/etc