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hoping · 21st Sep 2008, 05:31 AM

So today i asked the guy i really like if he wanted to do something and he said yes, so we are only going to take it slow and cuddle up and watch a few movies and talk and then after that im not sure, any ideas after that? as in a second date or sorts

beckyg · 21st Sep 2008, 05:34 AM

Good Ryan! Taking it slow and using communication is a great thing! I think you should see how the first date goes before you plan a second. Talk to HIM about what he'd like to do!

**EM68** · 21st Sep 2008, 05:36 AM

I agree with Becky. Take it slow, have fun and enjoy each others company. Since you are the one that asked him out on the first date see what he wants to do for the second date.
good luck!

Derek the Wolf · 21st Sep 2008, 08:24 AM

Enjoy it.

Jeimuzu · 21st Sep 2008, 11:19 AM

For what it's worth, I find dates go better when you have a lot of ideas and no specific plans. =] I met up with the guy who's now my boyfriend for the first time a couple of weeks ago on a date. We ended up going for a walk along the seafront, and then laying on the grass when it got dark to watch the stars come out. It was awesome.

So yeah, less plans, more ideas is my prescription. =D If nothing else, everyone loves a guy who's a little spontaneous, no?

Psychedelic Bookmarks · 21st Sep 2008, 11:49 AM

Have a great time whatever happens.

Pixbadgirl · 21st Sep 2008, 11:55 AM

Enjoy your first date Ryan. I agree with Becky about taking it slow. A movie is always a good place to start in case you're a bit shy with each other at first - and also a great excuse to just cuddle quietly. Just remember that popcorn can give you bad breath...

21st Sep 2008, 09:04 PM

OMG r u serious that popcorn will give u bad breath? what if u wash it down with a coke? or is gum a necesiity

Amy · 21st Sep 2008, 10:34 PM

o, YAY! im happy! im proud! im happily proud! im proudly happy!

Mirko · 21st Sep 2008, 11:13 PM

That's great Ryan! As it was said above, take it slow. Enjoy the first date with him. Watch a movie, and cuddle up. See how it goes. For the second date, and as Becky mentioned, ask him what he would like to do and take it from there. I wish you all the best Ryan.

21st Sep 2008, 11:14 PM

Ah! That's so exciting!!!

skwidge · 21st Sep 2008, 11:30 PM

Like the others have said, I think you should ask him what he wants to do next time. Although, he possibly hasn't really thought about it and could turn the question around on you?

I agree with what Jeimuzu said

My favourite dates are the ones with no specific plans. I really enjoyed a date I had once where we just bought ice creams and went for a stroll around the lake. We were able to chat away with only the occasional passer-by, and it was great being outside too. It always lightens my mood, being outside in an unclustered, relaxed kind of place. You also don't have to face your date when you are talking, and because you are walking it doesn't matter if you're not talking the whole time. You can just enjoy the atmosphere.

Another date idea is a trip to the zoo

it may sound childish... ok it is... but it's really fun! And you can chat, eat, walk, get some fresh air, and take photos together! And you get to see all the lovely animals of course ^^

**Gerry** · 22nd Sep 2008, 12:43 AM

Taking it slow on the first date is definitely the best thing you can do. I'm really glad he is going to spend some time with you this weekend. I think you two will have a great time together. Ask him what he wants to do for the second date and beyond. As you planned the first one and invited him to spend the day with you. Good luck and let us know how it turns out!

pwnorton · 22nd Sep 2008, 03:14 AM

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Originally Posted by skwidge

Like the others have said, I think you should ask him what he wants to do next time. Although, he possibly hasn't really thought about it and could turn the question around on you?

I agree with what Jeimuzu said

My favourite dates are the ones with no specific plans. I really enjoyed a date I had once where we just bought ice creams and went for a stroll around the lake. We were able to chat away with only the occasional passer-by, and it was great being outside too. It always lightens my mood, being outside in an unclustered, relaxed kind of place. You also don't have to face your date when you are talking, and because you are walking it doesn't matter if you're not talking the whole time. You can just enjoy the atmosphere.

Another date idea is a trip to the zoo

it may sound childish... ok it is... but it's really fun! And you can chat, eat, walk, get some fresh air, and take photos together! And you get to see all the lovely animals of course ^^

OMG!!!

i LUV the zoo idea! I am sooo gonna do that when i go on a date (not the first one, cuz that would be weird).

Ryan....GO TO THE ZOOOO!!!!

21st Sep 2008, 05:31 AM	#1
hoping EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: australia Age: 23 Posts: 527 Join Date: May 2007	God yeah i finally asked him So today i asked the guy i really like if he wanted to do something and he said yes, so we are only going to take it slow and cuddle up and watch a few movies and talk and then after that im not sure, any ideas after that? as in a second date or sorts __________________ On to canada in 2012

21st Sep 2008, 05:34 AM	#2
beckyg PFLAG Mom Community Liaison Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone/Yes, parents come out too! Location: Middle of Oregon Age: 50 Posts: 7,572 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: God yeah i finally asked him Good Ryan! Taking it slow and using communication is a great thing! I think you should see how the first date goes before you plan a second. Talk to HIM about what he'd like to do! __________________ "When we're free to love anyone we choose, When this worlds big enough for all different views, When we're all free to worship from our own kind of pew, Then we shall be free" ~ Garth Brooks

21st Sep 2008, 05:36 AM	#3
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: God yeah i finally asked him I agree with Becky. Take it slow, have fun and enjoy each others company. Since you are the one that asked him out on the first date see what he wants to do for the second date. good luck!

21st Sep 2008, 08:24 AM	#4
Derek the Wolf Furry Overlord Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Majority Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 1,325 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: God yeah i finally asked him Enjoy it. __________________

21st Sep 2008, 11:19 AM	#5
Jeimuzu Wreck Cognition Full Member Gender: Heterogametic Orientation: Rawr. Out Status: 99% out. Location: Middlesbrough Age: 23 Posts: 1,744 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: God yeah i finally asked him For what it's worth, I find dates go better when you have a lot of ideas and no specific plans. =] I met up with the guy who's now my boyfriend for the first time a couple of weeks ago on a date. We ended up going for a walk along the seafront, and then laying on the grass when it got dark to watch the stars come out. It was awesome. So yeah, less plans, more ideas is my prescription. =D If nothing else, everyone loves a guy who's a little spontaneous, no? __________________

21st Sep 2008, 11:49 AM	#6
Psychedelic Bookmarks Helena Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Close family and quite a few friends Location: UK Age: 18 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: God yeah i finally asked him Have a great time whatever happens. __________________ "I refuse to recognize the terms hetero-, bi-, and homo-sexual. Everybody has exactly the same sexual needs. People are just sexual, the prefix is immaterial." (Morissey)

21st Sep 2008, 11:55 AM	#7
Pixbadgirl Jazzrawr's Mom! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Ontario Age: 45 Posts: 66 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: God yeah i finally asked him Enjoy your first date Ryan. I agree with Becky about taking it slow. A movie is always a good place to start in case you're a bit shy with each other at first - and also a great excuse to just cuddle quietly. Just remember that popcorn can give you bad breath... __________________ "I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision." "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Rosevelt

21st Sep 2008, 09:04 PM	#8
JayC Guest Posts: n/a	Re: God yeah i finally asked him OMG r u serious that popcorn will give u bad breath? what if u wash it down with a coke? or is gum a necesiity

21st Sep 2008, 10:34 PM	#9
Amy DFTBA Full Member Gender: Somewhere between female and I don't know Out Status: Open, not out. Location: Northern California, United States Age: 18 Posts: 2,380 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: God yeah i finally asked him o, YAY! im happy! im proud! im happily proud! im proudly happy! __________________ "The opposite of love is not hate, but fear" Forrest Church

21st Sep 2008, 11:13 PM	#10
Mirko Molitva Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about Location: British Columbia, Canada Age: 35 Posts: 10,052 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: God yeah i finally asked him That's great Ryan! As it was said above, take it slow. Enjoy the first date with him. Watch a movie, and cuddle up. See how it goes. For the second date, and as Becky mentioned, ask him what he would like to do and take it from there. I wish you all the best Ryan. __________________ ~ Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are ~

21st Sep 2008, 11:14 PM	#11
ColbieMarie Guest Posts: n/a	Re: God yeah i finally asked him Ah! That's so exciting!!!

21st Sep 2008, 11:30 PM	#12
skwidge Kiwi kid =] Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Parents, brother and some friends. 20 in total. Location: New Zealand Age: 21 Posts: 70 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: God yeah i finally asked him Like the others have said, I think you should ask him what he wants to do next time. Although, he possibly hasn't really thought about it and could turn the question around on you? I agree with what Jeimuzu said My favourite dates are the ones with no specific plans. I really enjoyed a date I had once where we just bought ice creams and went for a stroll around the lake. We were able to chat away with only the occasional passer-by, and it was great being outside too. It always lightens my mood, being outside in an unclustered, relaxed kind of place. You also don't have to face your date when you are talking, and because you are walking it doesn't matter if you're not talking the whole time. You can just enjoy the atmosphere. Another date idea is a trip to the zoo it may sound childish... ok it is... but it's really fun! And you can chat, eat, walk, get some fresh air, and take photos together! And you get to see all the lovely animals of course ^^ __________________ "Smile... it makes them think you know what you're doing"

22nd Sep 2008, 12:43 AM	#13
Gerry We're all a little mad! EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Las Vegas Age: 24 Posts: 5,542 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: God yeah i finally asked him Taking it slow on the first date is definitely the best thing you can do. I'm really glad he is going to spend some time with you this weekend. I think you two will have a great time together. Ask him what he wants to do for the second date and beyond. As you planned the first one and invited him to spend the day with you. Good luck and let us know how it turns out! __________________ "Everybody's journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality".-James Baldwin

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