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  1. Randomcloud

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    So a cousin of mine posted this long paragraph status on how he felt like he was a woman trapped in a man's body. It sounded completely genuine and his mom and sister also commented that they "loved him no matter what" etc etc. Turns out a friend of his hacked into his page and it was a big joke the whole family found hilarious and played along with.

    I get that "fraping" (as people seem to call it) like this happens all the time but I just don't think it's funny at all and, to be honest, I'm pretty mad at all of them (especially since the friend who hacked him said something like "just kidding, I'm not a shemale" and they nobody even spoke up about THAT).

    Am I being too sensitive and it's all harmless fun or am I right in finding it offensive? :S
     
    #1 Randomcloud, Sep 28, 2014
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    That does seem pretty cruel to me.
     
    #2 Hexagon, Sep 28, 2014
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    I would have found that quite offensive and cruel to me as well, that is just wrong I think to joke around about that particular subject.
     
    #3 Blossom85, Sep 28, 2014
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    I don't blame you, I would be pissed too
     
    #4 Fallingdown7, Sep 28, 2014
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    I find it offensive as well. I see absolutely no humor in any of it, and I wonder how people can enjoy hurting others.
     
    #5 Starfleet, Sep 28, 2014
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    If your cousin didn't leave their Facebook up, it isn't hacking. It's just taking the computer/tablet/phone, and typing something. Now, if they actually did hack, well, there is a basis for a case there. It isn't a major deal to me, but when people call it 'hacking', it is kind of irritating. It'd be like me borrowing somebody's vehicle, and labeling it grand theft auto.

    I don't think any harm was meant, in this situation, but that doesn't necessarily excuse it. Ignorance here, as usual, appears to be the culprit. People often times, are clueless about others/situations they have no connection to, and are even less friendly, or even helpful, towards them. But, you could say the same about other things, with other folks, too.

    To sum it up. No, you aren't being too sensitive. You know this dismissive and ignorant attitude, is one of the contributing reasons, why our community is treated so poorly.
     
    #6 Kaiser, Sep 28, 2014
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    How's it any different than posting on someones account that they are gay?
    Just because they are lying about being trans instead makes no difference.
     
    #7 deadman1204, Sep 28, 2014
  8. Acm

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    I would be mad too
     
    #8 Acm, Sep 28, 2014
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    No, you're not at all overreacting. It's possible you're actually outing someone who's actually trans/gay/whatever or that their parents read it and they're not accepting and/or not in on the "joke".
     
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    Sorry for using the word "hacking", I'm pretty technologically challenged

    Acciocarrie- his family were definitely aware that it was a "joke", my father called them (to offer his support because he thought it was true too) and they were all like "wait, did you really believe it? That's so funny, *cousins name*'s friend posted it on his account to get him back for [some irrelevant thing]" etc etc O_O
     
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    You're fine. I just wanted to mention that. Besides, that wasn't aimed at you directly, but those who just find somebody's Facebook/social media open, and type something, then claim it was a hack.

    (*hug*)

    If one good thing did happen because of this, you have an idea of how people will react to such news. So, it wasn't a total loss.
     
    #11 Kaiser, Sep 28, 2014
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    Um, that is really offensive. I honestly don't blame you. I would be really angry as well :dry:
     
    #12 Candace, Sep 28, 2014
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    I'd be angry too if I was in your place. That's not funny, it's just offensive!
     
    #13 ChameleonSoul, Sep 28, 2014
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    I don't think you're overreacting. It would bother me as well, to be playing with a situation like that. However, I find his family's reaction somewhat understandable because...

     
    #14 MCairo, Sep 28, 2014
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    consider if your cousin actually has friends, and was actually just covering his ass after changing his mind about being open

    low chance but eh, pretty shitty of them otherwise
     
    #15 asdfghjk, Sep 28, 2014
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    Just googled that term you used "fraping". I can't decide what's more disgusting, actually doing it or making light of rape by making a term like that.
     
    #16 Wuggums47, Sep 28, 2014
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    Fraping was so 2010. It was mildly funny then, it's not funny now. Especially when it's about the subject that OP talked about. Not a laughing matter. You have every right to be annoyed.
     
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    You aren't overreacting. The use of the word "shemale" can be really offensive to some... However, if they hadn't said that word, and the person who got hacked wasn't transgender, it seems they were just trying to play a little prank.
     
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    No, you're not overreacting. That was a pretty fucked up and insensitive thing to do. I'd be pissed too.
     
    #19 Steele, Sep 28, 2014
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    Oh yes, to clarify I also find that word deplorable, it's the word my cousin's friend used in the comment box :S

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    I agree with you guys, I guess ignorance is the key thing in this situation. I was taken off guard because we all live in a very progressive city, and the four of them are adults- I really didn't anticipate this immature behaviour from them. One positive thing from all of this is that yeah, at least I can appreciate how open-minded my dad is (he was reading lists about "how to be a good ally to trans people" bless him)
     
    #20 Randomcloud, Sep 28, 2014
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