Coming out and cutting hair

Hey Storm. You gotta do what's right for you. I love when women wear like bobs and pixies. I *think* you want this, get what you want. Stereotype? Who cares? I won't judge you. (*hug*)

*if* this is a symbol, let it be a symbol. Let it go? xD

 

i did this and never felt uglier in my life

however if u have a sliver of self esteem it will be cool and hair grows back which is really cool so do it ☺

 

You're trying to break the sexy scale, I see. Hm... well, do what you like, but make sure you rock it.

As for why some women might enjoy cutting their hair, following coming out, it's kind of a way of announcing a sort of personal freedom. They're severing ties to hetero-normative society, and with gender roles and expectations. It's a rebellious way of feeling good.

 

Perhaps they feel that getting a different haircut would fit better with their newly discovered identity or perhaps they feel less pressured to be feminine. I've had all kinds of short haircuts in the past 6 years. Before I had long hair pretty much through all my teenage years and early twenties, so I was bored of it and wanted to experiment with different haircuts. I never wanted to look butch, I know that's not me. Although I have wondered at some point if women would find me more attractive if I was and would I get noticed more.

You can probably tell which haircut is you and which totally isn't. Short hair can be very nice and feminine looking depending on how you style it. Once you get used to having short hair, it's kind of hard to go back to long. Every time my hair grows to shoulder length I want to cut it again, it basically starts getting in the way.

 

Do what feels right. I kept my hair long for a long time, but eventually I got it cut short and haven't looked back. It's very liberating.

 

Chin-length bobs are cute! OMG, stereotypes - I wanted to be a make-up artist/hairstylist for awhile. LOL

 

For me I cut my hair because I'd wanted to for so long, I hated long hair even though I was wearing dresses and everything; my hair was the part of my physical body I most hated, and not because it looked objectively bad: i just felt I was swimming in it. But I asked guys if they'd date a girl with short hair and so many of them said no that I kept it but was so angry about it: like "well i'm keeping this hair long so that guys will like me but if every single guy doesn't like me then what's the point!!" (my self-esteem was nyet so great...)

So pretty much the week I came out, I gave my friend a pair of scissors. It wasn't the best idea, but I felt like I was a block of marble and someone had just started carving the real me out. In fact my first few short haircuts were eh but I've since learned to get the look to work for me. I also took a while to get used to it; i'd spent years trying to be more feminine and the change, plus the inevitable concurrent rejection of societal norms, was huge for me. So to partially answer your question, it was both a product of coming out and because I wanted to, but I learned from fulfilling both reasons (if that makes sense).

My advice is look online, on pinterest, on websites; get a cut that suits your face shape and not because some celebrity has it; and don't be too attached to it if it doesn't come out perfect. Also, don't put too much stock in conventional advice: when I first cut my hair I saw articles online about how women should wear more makeup and have good skin if they have short hair, etc etc, and I gave myself major anxiety thinking that if I had a single blemish people would think my short hair was weird. And I'm not so much a female now anyways so it doesn't matter to me. Anyways, in the end, you have to rock it the way YOU want to.

As for what other people think: plenty of women chop their hair in their 30s (and before, of course); people might not necessarily associate it with sexual orientation unless you go for something really alternative. If you're going that route, go to an LGBT-friendly salon.

In any case I recommend trying chopping off your hair once, just to see what it feels like. Ya never know! And (I know this is easier said than done, but) it's just hair. It'll grow back. It could be a mistake, but luckily fall/winter/hat season is coming up so this is the time to do it.

Last word of advice: It doesn't matter if you're doing this for your own personal reasons or because you want to be more visible/stick your middle finger in society's face. It can be some combination of the two, or neither. But if you want to do it, do it. Don't judge yourself so harshly.

 

Just don't go breaking any hearts, with your sexy new look.

 

im not sure, just felt like it was time for a "change" because yeah i was starting to come out at the time ( ": i.bet yours will rock

 

Short answer - Go for it. Hair will grow anyways.

 

I really, really wish I could have short hair. For so many reasons! It's easier to manage, it's less feminine. But it just does not suit me and I can't afford the cost of trims. Maybe one day I'll not care that I think it doesn't suit me, haha.

If you think it suits you, go for it! As people have said, hair grows

 

Good luck with that! I hope that you feel so much better with short hair (I feel better when my hair gets cut :lol. If you don't like it, it'll grow back!

 

Woop, good luck!! Yes I've been tempted ever since I saw your post My original aim was to have really long hair, I've never had it. But, wow, I forgot the energy that takes, and it's not even as long as I want it. Oh well, I'll see how I feel.

 

Good for you Storm! xD We'd love to see the results, if you feel like sharing. (*hug*)

 

I really want to get mine cut because then when i get my binder, i can actually pass as a guy. I'm kind of leaning towards the hair Gerard Way had when it was short and bright red but darker...pfft i don't even care anymore i just want short hair