Your Dream Wedding

[MeskElil]

So...tell us all what your dream wedding would be like.

Mine would be in winter, and my bride and I would both wear white wedding dresses with either light blue or sparkling silver snowflakes on them. Hopefully it will be snowing. And we'll have poinsettias instead of conventional bouquets, with holly garlands lining the pews. *sigh*

So...what's yours?

[Wander]

My dream wedding is one that does not exist. Too much of a legal and financial hassle, and at the moment there's no one I really feel like I love enough to want to be connected to them for life. Of course, marriage no longer has that type of seriousness, divorce is just a step out the door, but still...

[chrisb]

Wow it's so funny this was brought up, so i used to never think about getting married but the more failed relationships i have the more i just want to be an adult, and find someone i can be with the rest of my life, and be able to marry.

First i would go in a semi unconventional fashion by having me a Best Woman, whom would be my cousin Audrey. Then i would have two or three more groomswomen whom would be my sister Jackie, my best friend Kim, and possibly my other friend Tammy but she may not even be with my cousin Joe by the time i get married so i dunno.

But anyway i would obviously want alot of input to come from my girls, cause for a gay guy i really know nothing about wedding design lol, i would obviously want to have alot of blue, as it's the most popular color for boys, and it's also my favorite color. I would want alot of flowers colored to be blue, or any possible natural blue flowers. i'd like to have a blue shirt under my tux, and i would definitley keep my piercings in, and they would be blue : ) i know many people take them out for weddings and such and i think that's dumb, be yourself if you wear them everyday in real life don't take them out just to get married. I would deffinitley have my hair cut the day of the wedding, they wouldnt have to do much, just make it pretty for my wedding day lol.

Keeping with the whole women thing, i would only want my mother to walk me down the aisle no one else. If my future husband wants men invovled on his side that's fine, if not that's fine to....

I would let my guy cousins and brother do whatever they wanted, whether be escorts for the women, or whatever it's there decision but with it being very gay i'd be totally fine if they just we're in attendance and not doing anything.

Also as for the groomswomen and best woman they would obviously be in dresses, i would love it if they wore there favorite colors, so Jackie wears green, Kim wears pink, and Tammy if shes in it wears Orange. But my best woman sis would be forced to wear blue as she would need to match me lol....

I would want an awesome photographer, but i'd also wan't everyone in attendance to be given a camera and be ordered to take pictures throughout the wedding, and at the after party and all that.

Also as for the place, i think it would be best to done outside. i just have never been a church goer so i would feel weird all of a sudden having a wedding in one, espeacially one that was against my views for the most part......

Anyway i've went on to much lol

[gentlegiant4]

Hmm... me and my man in simple but elegant black tuxes, nice white shirts etc... not too sure about flowers... probably something like Washington lilies.

I'd have my best friend Will as my Best Man and my girl Nicole be my maid of honor type deal... I'm not quite sure how that'd all work out in a gay wedding, actually, lol. but I'd definitely push for that.

Good, soft alt indie music, maybe. My closest friends... good food, good drinks. hah,
Maybe somewhere like at a resort in the mountains, overlooking a forest...


but a man can dream.

I want to get married in the church I grew up in (and currently attend). I would want my old youth pastor to perform the services.

For sure, my older brother will walk me down the aisle, which will be so cute I think, because my "father" has never been a part of my life.

I'd like a floor length, strapless, white dress. Nothing too fancy.

My maid of honor would be my best friend, Tessa. The bride's maids would be Alyssa, and Elly. Maybe my 'baby' cousin, Hollie, could be a junior bride's maid (she's 5 now).

But really, I'm no where near ready to get married. I've never even been in a relationship. Most likely I will marry a man (altho it's hard to say for sure).

I would LOVE to get married in the bahamas or somewhere with that type of water. clear blue water wedding on a pier, blue tuxs for me and my man, we would have sweet vows written for each other. we would take at least a 10 second kiss, longer than most str8 ppl when the pastor dude or girl says u may now kiss the groom. oooh i hope at least SOME dreams come true. and if we could somehow attract dolphins to the pier during the ceremony i would like get the biggest happy high EVER!!!

[shakerdancee]

I want to be in San Francisco 2004, waiting days to get married in front of protesters and news cameras and it sounds a lot of fun.

[Nugget]

In the Spring, in the evening, and in a large garden with a bridge over a tiny stream. The only thing lighting it up would be candles and fireflies. My dress would be white with light blue lacing everywhere, holding a bouquet cornflowers. I've imagined my girl wearing the same dress only with the color of her choice (primairly pink) carrying a bouquet of carnations. A fancy violin would slowly play in the background.

♥♥♥ *sigh* ♥♥♥

[Amy]

if i got married right now, my maid of honor would be my cousin, marin. im her only normal named cousin, and we grew up together. shes 5 months, 3 weeks, and 6 days older than me. the other brides "entorage"(i might just put a guy in there someday.) would be brinda, maybe my cousin chelsea, and crystal. maybe a rylarian or two. lccao

im a total nerd, so i have it planned out perfectly. weather wise, that is. the cerimone will start a little after 4, take about half an hour, recieving line until a little after 5(my family is huge), and there will be a little gathering for all of the guests until 6. its a tradition in my family to give my druncles* time to drink before the speaches. at 6:45, dinner will be served. 7:15, speaches will start. im not very excited about that part, they always make me tired. the par-tay will start at 8:15, giving peple time to dance and socialize before leaving(those are the boring ones). at 9:15 the garter/bouquet thing will happen. not sure what one would do at a lesbian wedding, though, but it will start at 9:15. the boring people can leave after that.

then the real party starts. boo-yea!

i would like late fall/early winter. snow would be awesome.


*druncles - a word marin and i came up with when we were 10; drunk uncles(now expanded to all relatives)

[EmperorNero]

Like Wander said, my dream wedding is one that doesn't exist. I don't believe in weddings at all. Religion shouldn't be mixed up with I-don't-remember-the-word-but-it-has-to-do-with-laws-and-such.

[Tim]

I just don't really want to get married per say, maybe because the idea of a wedding has never made me feel good, it's always full of feelings of awkwardness and nervousness, which I'd rather avoid =P

Sad I live in California I feel like I'm gonna waste it :S

[jazzrawr]

Hmmm....I don't know if I want to be married right now, but I think I will in the future.
If i find someone who I care for that much.
I would love a winter wedding...but a summer one would be fun as well.
My close freinds and family would be there, and it would be a small, more intimate kind of thing.
And my sister would be my maid of honour. ^.^

[pirateninja]

I don't mind aboot little details of my own wedding. As long as I can wear a tux, and be marrying the person I want to spend my life with, everything else will seem a trivial matter

(I absolutely despise dresses )

[Lexington]

I don't have a dream wedding.

I've seen at least two women end up extremely unhappy due their steadfast belief in an ultimate "dream wedding". For over a year, they tracked down flowers in precisely the correct shade of blue. They fretted over whether to replace Susan as a maid of honor, since she'd gotten kinda heavy as of late. They auditioned their friends' children to be flower girls or ring bearers, looking for that perfect "cute" look. They argued rice vs birdseed, guitar vs harp, two layer cake vs three layer cake, chicken dance vs hokey pokey. There were fights, tears, and meltdowns.

And then, the wedding finally came. Something tiny went wrong - it always does, things aren't ever absolutely perfect. The flowers were a bit droopy, the priest flubbed his lines, the flower girl tripped coming down the aisle, the best man's speech was dull. And they obsessed over this. About these people "ruining" their perfect day. And then, the most horrible thing happens.

The wedding ends.
And the marriage begins.

The wedding is one day.
The marriage is (hopefully) forever.

I can understand wanting to make the day a nice one. I can understand wanting to look beautiful, and having friends and family share the day. But to obsess over it, to get hung up on minutiae, to focus far more on the wedding than on the guy you're getting married to...this is never a good sign.

I've been to plenty of wonderful weddings. And they always have one thing in common - the bride and groom are happy. When things go wrong - as they will - they either laugh it off or wave it off. They share secret smiles during the ceremony, they dance like fools to dumb songs at the reception, they say "I'm so happy you could make it." Because they are. And people don't say "What a beautiful wedding." They say "What a beautiful couple."

And that's what you're going for.

Lex

[EM68]

If I got married, which is a BIG IF right now, I would make it small with only close friends and family. I probably would not want have big reception but just go out someplace nice for dinner.

It's funny that this came up because on Sunday my family were talking about weddings. My sister said if she could do her's again she would have made it smaller and used the money towards a down payment for a house. I know a few people that have gotten married and spent thousands only to be divorced a few years later. A guy that worked at my job got married in July he spent almost $80k and went to Borneo for his honeymoon. A few weeks later he was let go. Now he is in a panic.

Originally Posted by Wander

My dream wedding is one that does not exist. Too much of a legal and financial hassle, and at the moment there's no one I really feel like I love enough to want to be connected to them for life. Of course, marriage no longer has that type of seriousness, divorce is just a step out the door, but still...

My feelings exactly.

[pwnorton]

i want to get married in the Caribbean to the man with whom i am deeply in love. I don't want anyone to wear tuxedos...i want to wear what the guy in this wedding is wearing (plus sandals)



I don't want a harp or guitar or even bagpipes (like my friend's dad's wedding). I want like 3 people on steel drums playing Bob Marley's "Three Little Birds." (That song got me through a lot when i first came out)

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I don't want there to be a long ceremony. I want it to be short and to the point. Then the celebration really starts. There will be a full Caribbean band playing popular music. I don't want the party to go late either, maybe like 9. My new husband I have a lot "to do" after the wedding.

[BeautifulStranger]

My dream wedding involves marrying Mike and having our first dance to 'At Last' by Etta James

Nothing else matters but him

[biisme]

My dream wedding would be probably in the summer or spring. i always thought it would be cool to have one of those ridiculous dresses with the huge train, but all i really want/need is my honey, and my friends and family.

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

Your wedding sounds lovely, pwnorton

I have never really obsessed over weddings. Like Lex, the important part for me is just my partner. But I did have one fantasy about getting married in a beauitful stately home near my house. It would be lovely to hire it out and give it to all my friends to own for a day. I don't want to be given away, because that's a piece of patriachal crap. But otherwise, I'm easy.