the box

The other day I got this box from my best friend’s mom. She gave it to me at his funeral. She said that he had put it together before he had died. She said that it was full of stuff he wanted me to have. I assumed that it was stuff he didn’t want her to see. When I opened it there was a letter on top that said “read this first”. So I did. It was a goodbye letter. It was really nice. It was kind of like Randy Pausch's Last Lecture.

There were a lot of random things in the box. As I was going thru the box, I wondered why he gave me these things. Then I pulled a copy of the Kama Sutra out of the box. I immediately knew that this wasn’t random junk; everything had a story. Everything brought back so many memories, the good ones and the bad ones.

You’re probably wondering why it took the Kama Sutra to make me realize that the stuff was more than just junk. Let me explain, a few years ago when I was sad and depressed, he took me to Borders. To cheer me up he took all the porn magazines and put them where the Christian magazines were and put the Christian stuff where the porn should be. Then he took Chippendales calendars and hung them up in the men’s restroom. At this point the staff was on to him. So when he was spotted carrying a stack full of Kama Sutras to the religious section he was asked to leave. He tried to convince them that he was buying them for himself. This went on for about an hour, by the time it was all over he had bought six copied of the Kama Sutra. It really meant a lot to me that he was willing to go to that extent just to make me happy. I never got to tell him that.

I sat in my room for hours going thru the box. With each item I pulled out it made me realize that he might be gone, but I will always have the memories of him and all the times that we have spent together.


Other things from the box:

The 8th grade final exams in math, science, history, English, and Spanish that I took, but he used to get an ATV from mom. She still thinks that he took them.

Ticket stubs from The Exorcism of Emily Rose, the first movie that we got kicked out of.

The 1st place trophy from the 6th grade science fair, he signed up for it as a joke and won.

Chop sticks from Chicago’s Chinatown; he talked with a Chinese accent the whole time. He said herro to everyone. We got dirty looks, or should I say rooks, from all the Chinese people.

A picture of us in the elevator at the Soldier’s and Sailor’s Monument; the smallest elevator I’ve ever seen. It’s about 3’x2’ in size. We went there to celebrate my 15th birthday, that day was so much fun.

A book from the Bodies exhibit, we went all the way to Cincinnati to see it then it came to Indy like a week later.

Thanks for sharing your story, it sounds like this box will help you to heal from your friends death. I'm glad that the things from the box helps you to remember good times. It sounds like the two of you had an awesome friendship.

Keep smilin.

Hugs.

x

[biisme]

wow, he sure went to a lot of trouble to make sure they were objects that had a lot of fond memories attached (i especially like the barnes and noble story ).

he also sounded like a really great person, and i think you're so lucky to have known him.

[Fiorino]

I'm sorry for your loss, but at least you got to have all those
great memories with your friend before he passed away.

[musicgirl112233]

Aww! I'm sorry your friend died.

[EM68]

Friends like that are hard to come by. You are vey lucky that he thought of you. He sounds like a great friend.

You're very lucky to have had someone like him as a friend. My sympathies goes to you and his family.

[Derek the Wolf]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. He was a great friend to have. Try not to miss him too much, but be thankful for the time you two had together.

[Vampyrecat]

I'm very sorry to hear you've lost someone so close to you - I hope you're coping okay. I think it was really lovely for him to make a box for you to remember him by - that must have been difficult for him.

*hugs* he sounds like a fantastic friend.

[vampireboy56]

awwwww
how did he die?

[Nixon]

Sad

i am SO sorry for your loss but it seems like u 2 had a lot of fun together

Originally Posted by vampireboy56

awwwww
how did he die?

He had leukemia.

[Pixbadgirl]

I'm so sorry that you lost such a wonderful friend. I have received this in emails several times, so you may have read it before, but maybe it will help give your soul some peace...

"People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, is real. But only for a season.!
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant."
Peace and blessings Spencer - to you and your friend's family.
Johanna