Cute girl at place I go to for lunch sometimes gives me this vibe

Why don't just ask her ...
I mean awekward moments are needed sometimes ))

 

Why not talk to her and see if you can befriend her/hang out? You could be subtle like start the conversation with "I really like your shoes" (lol I don't know). Then you'll find out eventually

 

If it was me i would find out her name and stalk her facebook page.

 

I have to say that if you feel like things could happen, then go for it!

 

You won't know if she's straight or not unless you ask.

 

Its your gaydar

 

what kind of food place is it

culture tells me, probably wrongly, that if it is a cozy coffee pastry babysandwich type place you have a good chance

give er the ol chloekiss, the ol one two chloe then swing with the one two kiss

 

like a applebees or a starbucks with alcohol or a taco cabana

 

If you want to remove all doubt, ask. But this is really direct, and it can go several ways...

The easiest way to find out about her sexuality, is to get into discussing the topic of sexuality/LGBT issues. Even if she is closeted, you can watch her reaction to certain things, to particular words, or specific terms. In my personal experience, most folks, if you say or do something that they, themselves do, especially secretly, they will lock eyes on the one who said, or is doing, the speaking or doing, for a split second or two. It's not 100%, but it is a damn good basis to go with, at least for me.

And even if you can't figure out her sexuality, you can at least, get her stance on LGBT issues in general -- and this, may or may not, be just enough information you need.

 

I am really bad at telling if someone is flirting and often don't realise unless I'm told directly after the fact. I usually just think people are being nice/friendly

Maybe just striking up a conversation and getting to know her as a friend first will help? You'll either end up with a new friend or potentially find out she's interested.

 

I would actually like to advise you NOT to ask her, if you can avoid it. If she's closeted, you'll make her as uncomfortable as asking her outright to go out if she's straight could make her. Plus, it's none of your business. To me, asking people what their sexual orientation is? Inappropriate. And being someone who is closeted myself, even if I kind of had a crush on a woman who asked me that, the fact that she felt it was okay to ask me, especially not knowing me that well, would bother me. That's just how I see it, and I know many LGBT people don't...but it's important that you know some people would have a problem being asked whether or not they're straight. The only people I'd be even halfway okay with asking me that are people who are close to me, and I think that would kind of be true even if I weren't closeted--let me tell you when I feel the time is right. Otherwise, you might not get an honest answer, which defeats the purpose of asking.

I believe in gaydar and like to think I have it, but I have not had many occasions where I used gaydar on someone and then had if even confirmed or denied. What I do with feminine women is 1) watch how they interact with men and 2) listen to how/if they speak about men. Pretty obvious to me, but so many people never use these incredibly obvious clues. Of course, if she's bi then this might not help much. But if she's a lesbian, it will. Straight women eventually talk about men in a romantic and/or sexual capacity, and they make it obvious they're talking about a man; they're not using gender-neutral pronouns. They talk about crushes or hot male celebs or boyfriends or ex-boyfriends, oftentimes even in general conversations and small talk. This obviously means you need to start talking to her and at least making small talk.

And then her being a bartender is perfect, because she's going to serve men and sometimes those guys will show interest. See how she responds. One thing about my last job--girls who liked men were often smiling in men's faces, and not just in a "customer/server" or "being polite" capacity. They enjoyed attention or approached guys for "conversation." Guys ALWAYS came up to ME, never the other way around, and I always acted like I couldn't care less. Big sign that makes me laugh when I think about how people repeatedly miss this with lesbians. And bonus points if she seems more interested in talking to you or more happy to see you or some other female than she does with pretty much every guy she serves--this has gotten me suspicious with feminine women before. It's not a bad idea to note whether or not she ever stares at guys or other girls, too, in addition to you. I think staring is common in public, so narrow if by seeing what sex she stares at or if it's even not a sex and just YOU.

But first things first, start small conversations with her and get to where you're regularly talking.