Well... If you state that control is an illusion then you have automatically surrendered yourself to the whims of the universe by claiming that you have no control anyway. In reality, there's no real way to do that. You cannot remove control from yourself, you control your actions, your words and your thoughts to some extent. I would say, embrace the freedom you have to make the choices you want to, instead of letting everyone else choose for you.
Control isn't always an illusion, and indeed, thinking that you have none tends to lead to less of it. True, you can't control everything, but as Ryujin says, you can control yourself. So do that, and when things happen that you can't control, accept it. It's about seeking a balance, not surrendering. Also, research Stoicism.
