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i'm not a touchy person

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by JayR, Oct 21, 2014.

  1. JayR

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    I don't know, i flinch whenever someone touches, hugs, taps me etc.. I'm not comfortable with it. I feel like my personal space is being invaded. I'm not an anti-social person, i have lot of friends. Whether it's my family or someone. I don't know why? Am I the only one? But on the other hand, i wouldn't mind my crush touching me, only if he would. Haha
     
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    You're not the only one, I'm like this as well. My friends have learned hugs are the opposite of comfort for me and respect that. I can tolerate a hug if I know it's coming but otherwise I tend to jump back or scrunch up like I'm bracing for impact. On the other hand if I'm really into someone (like you and your crush) it feels a bit different with them, like they are "welcome in" when others aren't.
     
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    Yep, I'm the same. I don't like being touched. I don't know why, it's just the way I feel. It's weird, other people's hands feel different on me and I don't like it. It's not like I don't want to be touched, it's just that I want to be touched only when I really want it, not when I least expect it. Sometimes I've even screamed like 'JUST DON'T FUCKING TOUCH ME YOU KNOW I DON'T LIKE IT' and curl into a ball of anger and frustration >з<
     
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    I am also very sensetive to others touch. Usually flinch when someone touch me. Probably because I've been touched the "wrong" way when I was a kid. Especially hate touching my brother in any kind.

    With my cats or crush/boyfriend I love touching them. Probably biggest give away if I am interested in a person or not is checking if I am touching them.
     
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    I think for me, I'm just not used to getting touched by other people but it's also because we weren't a touchy family.

    When I was with my long distance ex-bf, he complained how I didn't initiate much of the hugging or cuddling but I wasn't even aware of it and when the first time we ever met on the airport, he felt really upset that I only gave him a handshake and not a hug.

    In my mind I do love the idea of getting touched by people that I like, but when that time comes, I feel uncomfortable/really new to it.
     
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    I used to be like that, but then i started loving hugs.
     
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    I'm like that too. I don't like to be touched, and I flinch when someone touches me. I can hug someone if they don't grab me suddenly to do it. It has to do with years of abuse, which I'm still working through.
     
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    I am often scared when someone hugs me or touches me in a friendly way. I prefer to choose if I want to be touched or not, and be prepared. I told my friends and my coworkers. Mostly they are OK with it.
     
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    I like being touched and hugged. Really dislike it when other men are so homophobic that they only want to shake hands at arms length and be very formal.
     
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    He he come to Turkey then. Our regular greeting is shaking hands, hugging and kissing on both cheeks....:grin:
     
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    I am am exactly the same, I despise being touched. Unless it's an attractive male.
     
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    I'm the same way. The only people I don't mind physical contact with are people that I feel very close to. I know some people adore physical contact. I've had co-workers and acquaintances that always feel the need to touch the person they're talking to, but I just loathe it.
     
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    Nah, I love being touched. I'm a very touchy-feely person. I had a friend of mine the other day jokingly caress my shoulder. Even though he was doing it to creep me out, I actually really liked it. I also had a friend in high school who used to tousle my hair all the time. I liked that too. I'm such a weirdo :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    But no, you're definitely not alone. I'm finding that I'm a bit of the odd one out.
     
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    Only a few people can get away with hugging me. I don't really like physical contact, but like you said, for sone people it would be welcomed :grin:
     
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    I also don't like it when people touch me at times. I just find it awkward and weird.
     
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    I don't like being touch either. It may come from the fact that I grew up in a "non touching" family.
     
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    I used to detest being touched as a child! I hated it. Now I love being cuddled and touched!
     
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    You love my hugs right, hugs (*hug*).
     
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    I don't like being touched by most people, either. Like a couple of other posters on this thread, it has to do with bad touching throughout my life. The few people I don't mind touching me are a few close friends, but that's because they respected the fact that I didn't really like being touched in the close friend. Because they respected my boundaries, I came to trust them enough to allow them to touch me, and there are even times when I'm having a bad day that I seek them out for a hug, which is a HUGE deal for me.
     
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    I don't like being touched by most people, either. Like a couple of other posters on this thread, it has to do with bad touching throughout my life. The few people I don't mind touching me are a few close friends, but that's because they respected the fact that I didn't really like being touched in the first place. Because they respected my boundaries, I came to trust them enough to allow them to touch me, and there are even times when I'm having a bad day that I seek them out for a hug, which is a HUGE deal for me.
     
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