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How did you learn about sex?

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  1. QueerTransEnby

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    Other than the internet and EC, how did you learn about sex? I will be honest that I learned most of what I knew through friends, Love Phones(it was a radio show), and Loveline(TV/Radio). The internet for me didn't have nearly the information I needed as a pre-teen and teen in the mid 90's, and I had limited access to it.
     
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    I knew about sex from a very young age, or rather, I knew that it existed. I learnt what actually constitutes sex when I started with sex-ed, though I can't remember which year that was.
     
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    When I was young, I would go to the library. I has a fascination with medical books and learned a lot about sex and STIs and other reproductive issues. Later on, I explored the more adult-themes sections of the library and even browsed gay educational books. I will shamefully admit that I sometimes did get an erection at the library when I was a teenager :lol:.

    Also, the Internet did help a lot. I got my first computer around middle school and I did use Netscape Navigator and dial-up to look up carnal knowledge on the Internet :lol:.
     
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    I learned most of my information about sex from Sex Ed, which started when I was 11. But even at my school in a very liberal area, homosexuality wasn't mentioned at all. I didn't find out about anal sex until later (from a friend) and I was pretty shocked by the idea of it, that's for sure -_-

    My parents also sort of gave me the same information about sex when sex ed started; maybe they just wanted to have the first word on it :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I was very young, I know that.

    I remember knowing that sex was something two people did, while naked, in elementary school; so, 6 or 7 years old. But the positions and techniques, those sorts of things came later, when I was about 11.

    As to how I learned. Public school, what else? You want your child to learn curse words and sexual vulgarities, send them to public school. Now, where everybody else learned from, I can only speculate. Probably a combination of pornographic magazines/websites, catching their parents in the act, or just having a fucked up early start in life.
     
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    When I was younger, my dad and I would sometimes use each other's shorts and pants. One time I put on a pair of his shorts, put my hand inside the pocket and found an empty condom wrapper. Ewww.
     
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    Awkward...wow.
     
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    Sex education at school and then also talked with mum about it when I got my periods for the first time.
     
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    I learned most of it from medical books that my mom had saved from her college days. At least I saw anatomically-correct illustrations of human anatomy and read scientifically correct descriptions of the process of conception to development to birth. I didn't learn about the emotional side of sex until I was probably in my teenage years, but as for the biology of human reproduction, I was one of the lucky ones considering I went to a snobby charter school whose official policy was absolutely no sex education and to leave that responsibility to the parents. Since most parents get all hot under the collar when their 6-year-old asks where babies come from, much less actually having "The Talk" with their kids when they need it most, I'd say half of them didn't get the information they needed until they got to high school, provided they got any sex education through the public school system, but that's a whole different can of worms.

    Having a doctor for a mother, I knew the anatomically-correct terms at a young age. As far back as I can recall, I knew it was called a penis. I also knew that a baby grew in the uterus and my mom made sure to show me the pictures of fetuses at different stages of gestation. I remember being in 3rd grade and we'd all look up the words "Penis" and "Vagina" in the dictionary, and I remember being in 4th grade in late 2004, right after Massachusetts first legalized gay marriage, and we were sitting at a table trying to figure out what "gay" meant and what it had to do with marriage. Of all my classmates that were in that small group that day, I think I was the only one who discovered they were gay later on in life.

    As for gay sex, well that was kind of hit-and-miss. I learned most of that through experience, and scholarly research second. That said, I think that whatever we do, we must make LGBT sex education as accessible as possible for young people especially if the schools aren't going to teach it. As for that, I'm glad we have the internet.
     
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    I went to catholic school so I didn't have much sex ed. My parents gave me a "Whats Happening to my body" book which basically covered sex when I was 13 and left it at that. I got my own computer and internet connection (AOL) at 15 which filled in all the gaps.
     
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    i learned about sex from my cousin who thought it would be fun to try it, i was like nine so we didn't try it, thank god. also late night porn taught me alot about sex and finally school life orientation(south african equivalent of sex ed) my parents didn't really teach me much about it other than do not have it of course
     
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    My mom, she believed we should know what is is at a young age so that if any person tried something with us, we'd know what it was and that is was wrong, other than that, um my best friend and some movies.

    And same as poster above, Life Orientation xD even though that just mainly teaches you to have Safe Sex and how to avoid getting HIV
     
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    Friends at school and sex ed. And the internet.
     
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    I think I had some idea of what happened pretty young. I learnt the rest from the internet, and hearing friends talk. Oh, and there was this one lesson on reproduction. After I learnt what I needed to, naturally.
     
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    Mostly I learned from the Internet but other than that It was just a Sex Ed class. When i was younger my friends would say something and I'd have to go home and google the word to now what they meant. :grin:
     
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    I had actually guessed about it on my own, I figured people had sex by just interacting with genitals in anyway shape or form. When I was taught it was a penis in a vagina by my parents and sex educators, I was mad and refused to believe them. I never changed my original definition and have even educated people to change theirs to the 'any genital contact' definition, so I was mostly right all along and didn't need to learn.
     
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    In fifth grade the boy who sat across from me told me and my friend "sex is when the guy puts his penis into the girl's vagina." I was incredulous, sounded disgusting even then :lol:. The rest I gleaned from sex ed (which was more about puberty than actual sex) TV, and friends/classmates. Much later I learned (very little) of what gay sex is, and only recently how lesbians *actually* have sex.
     
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    I had an extremely vague idea of sex in general from overhearing discussions at school, but it always seemed so surreptitious and naughty that I didn't pay a lot of attention. When we had the sex ed talk in freshman biology, I assumed sex was something that happened when people were asleep, without being fully aware of it, because I thought, why on earth would anyone do that CONSCIOUSLY? I had a hard time getting my arms around the idea that guys actually WANTED to have sex with girls, and eventually figured that there was something wrong with me because I wasn't interested. I did have crushes on guys (and did plenty of creative gay things alone in the shower!), but it never really occurred to me that it was an option.

    I do remember being at a bookstore when I was 16 or 17 and reading through a book by an ex-hooker on how to please a man, which was clearly written to give guys a thrill. But although I didn't fully realize it until somewhat later, I was mentally reading it much more from her point of view as the one doing the pleasing, than that of the guy being pleasured. (And I have to say that my brain absorbed it all like a sponge, even though it was many years before I tried any of it out!)
     
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    I was pretty oblivious as a kid. My parents certainly didn't tell me much. It was pretty much the little bit that they told me plus 2 sex education classes that led to me figuring out basic intercourse around age 13. I didn't discover porn until I was 18, when I received my first personal computer, and didn't learn how gay sex worked until maybe a year or so after that (again through the internet)