What do you think about cat-calls?

I find it offensive Tbh, its usually meant in a very sexual way, not as a compliment, if you want to compliment someone, say something nice, don't whistle.

 

I hate it. I absolutely despise it. I've been catcalled more times than I asked for and I just fucking loathe it. Anything from wolf whistling to the loud shouts like 'EY BABE, U GOT A NICE ASS, TURN AROUND' or 'HEY CUTIE, COME HERE, WE JUST WANNA TALK' and basically, you get the idea. Yeah, I hate that. And it's in no way a compliment for me. It scares me, it freaks the fuck out of me, it embarrasses me in front of all those people on the street and it's just nerve-wrecking. Not my cup of tea ...

 

It happens to me and I fuckin hate it,:tantrum:
I hate when they ask me to come over.

 

A very minor form of sexism, but sexism none the less.

 

It's happened to me a few times, I can't stand it. I think the first time, I was only fourteen. That's totally ridiculous, even borderline pedophilia

 

It's disgusting. Catcalling isn't a 'compliment', if it was just a polite way of complimenting my looks, I'd have no issue. It's a way to sexualize women's bodies and in some cases It's a borderline rape threat.

 

Offensive.

 

It's sexual harassment, and any attempt to argue otherwise is MRA bullshit.

 

I've only been catcalled once but it was kind of traumatising.
It was a 25-30 year old man yelling at me, a random 13 year old stranger. A little creepy.
I was actually frightened to leave the house for a while.
As you can probably tell, I do not like catcalling.

 

Errr... I sometimes "Catcall-Whistle" lads?
Is that sexism as well? :eusa_whis

 

Yes specially if you yell at them for ignoring you.

 

Alrite, I usually prefer just approaching them and saying "Hey, you're a very good looking man/woman, may I congratulate you on your looks?".

Is THAT sexist?

Gosh. *Shakes head*

 

It's a means of policing women's behavior in the public sphere.

Additionally, it's also a way for guys to assert themselves free of homosexuality.

It's completely disgusting behavior and should be stopped.

 

Well, I don't mind when it happens just once. When it happens frequently, I hate it. Where I live people don't really do cat-calls though. I've experienced it abroad and it makes me feel very uneasy.

 

I was talking about MEN here.
Is it wrong for MEN to demand respect?
This thread is -not- only about men. Why do you automaticly assume only women get "cat-called". And yes, I realise it happens to them ALOT more.

Besides, I personally don't feel there is anything inherently wrong with cat-calls, provided no one is pestering or being too persistent. It's a sign of appreciation of beauty. Unless you're being a cock about it. I've done it, and I will keep doing - For both men and women. I'm just going to be nice and light-hearted about it.

 

I suppose its because I'm not used to being treated like a "real" woman, so when it happened to me I was kind of flattered and shocked at the time. I was underage and far more androgynous looking then though, so I passed as female a lot more often. Though I admit it was scary too, because if the illusion were dispelled I was afraid they might try to beat me to death to prove their "masculinity"... SO mixed feelings to say the least. I'm less worried about potential rape as outright getting murdered.

 

Here's the thing... this:

Isn't really a cat-call in my mind. There's a fine line between compliment and a cat-call, and it's really easy to cross that line.

Although I will say that I find the quoted line a bit creepy when said out of the blue. Not offensive, but it raises a red flag in my mind about where the conversation will go next. It's a great way to get me to raise my guard.