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When Was Your First Relationship?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by EDMJunkie, Oct 29, 2014.

  1. EDMJunkie

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    Just wondering when most people here have had their first serious relationship with another person. By this, I mean after you've come out about your sexuality, gender, or both.

    Kinda curious because I'm 14, and I haven't been in a relationship as of yet. I'm sad that I can't have the same experiences as my straight counterparts. I'm afraid that I'll be "Left Behind" in a sense and that I'll be completely inexperienced, from how they work to how to function to kissing to sex, all of that. I know it might be a little early to be thinking about that, but I want to be prepared. And I'm not the only one.

    Feel free to share funny stories about past partners, crazy exes, stalkers, etc.
     
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    Still waiting :bang:.
     
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    My first real relationship (that wasn't like "puppy love" or me dating a girl to see if I was really bi and not gay) was when I was 16, almost 17 in an online relationship with a guy who was 19. Him and I talked pretty seriously for about 5 months but never fooled around until one day in late July or early August 2013 when we started getting really flirty with each other. He had an on again off again boyfriend at the time, and they broke up in mid-August and we started like officially being boyfriends. It only lasted for about a month or so, though, for a multitude of reasons. My ex isn't crazy or anything (he's actually really nice and adorable), but he's a bit odd, I guess, for reasons I won't go into. He's dating some other guy now though and I'm happy for him :slight_smile:

    And I've been single since I turned 17, since we broke up on my Birthday. :|

    About the inexperience stuff I wouldn't fret that much. If you get with the right person they'll love you anyways and will teach you if you need to. Your first kiss and first sexual encounter are more than likely going to be somewhat awkward anyways, and that goes for almost everyone. So yeah, don't sweat it.
     
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    Never had one. Unless having pretty guys send me sexy pictures and such things (online friends with benefits?) counts. Haha

    And I'm older than you. Don't worry, you don't need to rush into a relationship. Enjoy being single.
     
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    Thanks! :slight_smile:

    I'm really more worried about certain things in a relationship. How am I supposed to know what to do or what not to do? How do I know if I'm predisposed to something that could end it? I'd like to know what I'd need to improve on in order to maintain a healthy, successful relationship.

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    It might :wink:

    Oh, and trust me, I've had my share of being single. It'd just be nice to know what it feels like to share your life with another person.
     
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    Never had a serious relationship with, or even kissed a woman yet, and I'm 28. So don't panic if you're only 14 :slight_smile:

    The closest thing I've ever had was when I was a kid there was this boy who would hang out with me, and later became my boyfriend because it just sort of seemed the thing to do, if we were hanging out together, to be boyfriend and girlfriend. It was very innocent though as we were young, and of course I didn't fully understand my orientation at the time.
     
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    What's a first relationship?
     
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    In this case, it's the first relationship you had after coming out.

    So, if you were a lesbian, it'd be your first girlfriend. Same thing if you're gay, or if you're trans, then it's your first partner after that, and so on.

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    Thanks for the advice! <3
     
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    In this guy's same position lol.
     
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    I can't speak for him, but I'm pretty sure Ray was being sarcastic there, in which case I'd say the same, heh.

    Haven't been in one and don't see myself in one either for the foreseeable future, so I agree with others that, even though it can feel eh when comparing it to het opportunities around us, don't feel too pressured to jump in one.

    I get that 'left behind' feeling you mention all too well. :eusa_sile
     
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    At the beginning of this year. Since then, I've only had two proper relationships.

    Remember that while romance is often a part of your teenage years, never force it, and expect it to flop eventually when it happens. And don't take it all too seriously; falling head-over-heels with someone and being disappointed in the end is common.
     
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    I was dating my first love (gurl) when i was in junior high.
    8th grade (age 14)
     
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    16 was when I had my first real relationship. It was a with a girl, however, and I was closeted. But it was a real relationship, even if we didn't do anything overtly sexual. I first dated a guy the following year.
     
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    Never had one yet. I'm also at a University where casual sex seekers outnumbers relationship seekers like 15 to 1.
     
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    I see what you guys are saying. I totally understand. I'm just trying to convey some of my fears.

    Thank you to all!
     
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    Tricky, I am bisexual, so do my previous relationships with girls count, when I didn't know about my sexuality (at least, I didn't come out?). If not, then my first relationship is this year, 2014. :icon_bigg At the age of 19.

    If not, I think 12 or something, I don't know it exactly. I've had quite some relationships actually.
     
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    I think it was when I was 12 or 13. Anyway, it lasted for a while o-o'