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Why do you say "straight?"

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  1. Quiet Raven

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    When one is attracted to the opposite sex, many people say they are "straight". I don't like that. Never have. Because it implies that anyone different is crooked. And that is not the case. We are all normal. We are all straight. That is why I say "heterosexual". I am very surprised to see so many people hear still say "straight". Considering you are calling most of the group crooked. Including yourselves in some cases. I know you don't mean it offensively, just using the word you hear most often i guess. But I just find it odd you would, considering what the word does imply.
     
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    I don't think it implies anything negative towards those who are not heterosexual. Gay is gay, straight is straight, people need to stop looking for offensive meanings in everything.
     
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    I don't think it does either .:confused:
     
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    Honestly, I say "straight" because I say "gay".

    Why call a straight person heterosexual when we call ourselves gay, queer, and lesbian?

    Is doesn't seem right to call people heterosexual when we ourselves, don't say homosexual As often as gay, lesbian and queer.

    It's too scientificky (if that's a word)
     
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    I really think you are overreacting.

    Personally, I don't think we should really use ANY labels to define ourselves. How did something as mind-numbingly simple as a word come to define something as mind-bogglingly complex as a sexuality?
    That's just me. Say what you'd like.
     
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    maybe you you shouldn't but the rest of us are pretty find using it .
    Talk about hypocritical:lol:
     
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    I don't look for offensive meanings. But some just jump out at me. I mean... The opposite of straight is crooked. You are saying that heterosexual is correct and homosexual is not. I know that is not what you mean. And maybe I am over thinking it. It doesn't really matter, because what matters is what we mean. I am not going to try to convince you to stop. I just figured i would point it out. And ask if you ever thought of it that way before. But I am still not going to use it.
     
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    I've always wondered if straight didn't come from the british slang 'bent' or 'bender' for gay men, which would in my opinion be a little bit dodgy.

    I have no idea if that's the actual etymology though
     
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    I've never heard of that slang before actually. But that would make a lot of sence.
     
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    I'm so glad you said that! I think this all the time. Labels can be useful but they can become restrictive when we identify with the label rather than just using the label descriptively.
     
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    IIRC, it is meant for "gay" guys who choose the socially acceptable "straight" path of heterosexuality.
     
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    Because they lack fun curves? :grin:
     
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    I don't like it either. But it's what people understand.
     
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    I don't know how that term came into being. I also don't like it. I don't like it because LGBT status would then crooked, as was stated in the OP. However, I've also "straight and narrow" which means someone who is a goody two shoes and doesn't do anything they shouldn't. Could they possibly be related? Some, not all, straight people can be narrow minded.
     
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    Could everyone do at least a little research into the etymology before jumping in with strong opinions?

    Although Wikipedia is not the world's most reliable source;
    Heterosexuality - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
     
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    I get what you're saying. I wouldn't doubt there are alot of homophobic people out there who apply that 'straight is right' meaning to it so yeah I do think this viewpoint is relevant. I try not to take offense to it and rather look at it as meaning 'default' as opposed to more elaborate sexual preferences. But to answer the title question I'm fine using it since for whatever reasons it stuck and everyone knows it. trying to change it now seems pointless and impractical i guess
     
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    LOL.

    Interesting. Gay slang went mainstream on this one. This notion reminds me of the word "breeder." I think that, while everyone now uses it to some degree, it is used more among LGBT folks who don't have kids. BTW, "breeder" is somewhat offensive, too. It harkens to someone who raises pedigree dogs to make puppies and make money.
     
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    convenient, understood, one syllable
     
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    The Online Etymology Dictionary supports that as well:

    "probably suggested by straight and narrow path "course of conventional morality and law-abiding behavior," which is based on a misreading of Matt. vii:14 (where the gate is actually strait), and the other influence seems to be from strait-laced."