What does it feel like to come out? If you have?

Your life generally begins to normalise. Your sexuality stops being something that feels crushing and you just get on with life.

It feels like an enormous relief, but it can take a while to get used to it. For me, it wasn't that big of a deal. I came out a lot during the space of a week, and after that things felt normal, but freer.

 

I came out to my brother just yesterday. But only him. It felt refreshing just to be able to tell someone. It was strange, I was very nervous to tell him, even though I knew he would be totally OK with it. He wouldn't think any less of me.

And I was right. He told me. "I don't know why you are being so awkward about this, it is perfectly normal".

It feels really nice to be able to talk to him about it.

 

The first time (to my parents) was very stressful just because I was so afraid of how they would react. I was shaking like a little leaf haha and crying and I swear it took me 5 minutes to get the damn words out.

But then the next few times were less nerve-wracking (to random people at an LGBT meet). I still stuttered and all that just because those words on my lips were SO unfamiliar.

After that (from my experience) it gets easier and easier. I guess as time goes by you learn to accept yourself and feel more comfortable with your identity and so telling people isn't such a huge deal as it used to be.

Good luck! One thing I can say about coming out is that although it can be stressful at first, you feel really happy and free afterwards

 

I couldn't have said it better myself. For me it was relief. Knowing that I an accepted and that it is okay to be me. The majority of the people I've come out to have been very supportive. I don't know what it will be like for you though.

 

You don't have to keep pretending to be what everyone expects of you. They start to understand when you make comments or do things that indicate your sexuality (or in my case, gender).

 

It's very relieving and awesome that you can be yourself among your peers and family, etc. However, it may be a little awkward in the beginning due to the fact that everyone, even the most accepting of folk, have to adjust to the new you, granted that they want to.

 

When I came out to my friends, I was a little nervous, but not very, because I knew that they'd be ok with it.

However, it took forever to come out to my family. I knew that they wouldn't care at all, but fear can be pretty irrational in situations like that. You'll be nervous, but if they're accepting, it will go away pretty quickly.

Good luck!

 

Coming out wasn't really a big deal for me , I had just told my mom after she had asked me why I had "never gotten a girlfriend" and she still doesn't really believe me that I'm exclusively gay, but both of my parents are very liberal and were very supportive of me so I guess that's why it's never really been a huge emotional thing for me, just sort of accepted it. My friends were pretty annoying when I came out to them but they were also very supportive. Anyway yes it does feel a lot better because you finally get to be who you are, and you don't have to apologize to anybody, and you can finally be more comfortable with youself, like most social things actually doing it is so much more doable

"The impossible seem just that, until it is done"
--I forget

Anyway best of luck to you and know that everything seems better once you come out the other side
Cheers!

 

To me, it felt like the scariest feeling ever when i came out to my class. But, somehow, i managed to force the words out. The feeling afterwords was spectacular. It was like i had stepped out of the person i was pretending to be, and finally was able to show my true face to the sky, and let the warmth of the sun brush it. It was freeing, and amazing, and simply put, awesome.

 

I thought my world was going to spontaneously burst into fire, actually, but it didn't. Everyone carried on. Nothing changed. Not even my name and pronouns, unfortunately.

In a way, that's okay. I'd appreciate it if they made more of an effort to see me as who I really am, but they need time to get used to it, and I understand, so... yeah

 

I have only really come out to my mum and best friend, however it have an idea my dad and sister 'know' as well.. It was exhilarating at first and then just as a few others have mentioned, it just stabilized and for me, nothing has changed.. I would hope it doesn't when I fully come out either.

 

I am not out to my parents, but my few friends I see everyday know I am not straight. My voice was shaking, but it was worth it. They were ok with it, one friend told me she felt really important because I told her, you know, it's personal thing... she was accepting.

It's a great feeling, you don't have to hide, and you will feel more free.