real lesbians don't want kids?

I don't see myself as having a child right now, that could change if I met the right person though.. I don't think someone can assume that every lesbian doesn't want kids or call lesbians who do want kids 'not real', cause that is invalidating them as a person and their choice of wanting or not wanting kids based only on their sexuality.. There may be many reasons why people don't want kids and I don't think it is a very fair assumption that it's cause they are in a same sex relationship.

 

A real lesbian is someone who enjoys sex with and/or is romantically attracted to other women.

She can do whatever she pleases and nobody may tell her that she doesn't qualify because of her choices about family, sexual acts or behaviour.

 

Real lesbians? ha. I have to agree with Aussie792.

Maybe some people think that having a family and kids is kind of 'heterosexual thing'? for some lesbians I know it's... but I would have to disagree. Some people want it, some people don't. No matter what is our sexuality, we are all people.

 

You should become a "fake lesbian" and have kids. Seriously, that's not an argument. I could just say only people with blue hats can be real gays.

 

i could have kids but later of course im bi and never went out ot had sex with a girl T_T i will never taste the forbidden fruit of the same physical sex

 

Only a true scotsman...

But yeah. I'm with everyone else.
Call blueshit

 

It's ridiculous. As others have brought up, lesbians are exclusively attracted to other women. That's the only criteria for definition. Anything else is just personal choice. Being a lesbian isn't a philosophy.

 

That's not true for everyone, some do. It's just more difficult for lesbians to have kids. I don't want to and I have my own reasons for that, not because I'm gay.

 

This is the first time ,I'm hearing this.

 

Yes. It's in chapter 7 of the Real Lesbians Handbook.

 

Straight after the passage forbidding the use of dildos.

 

And right before the one about hating men.

 

OH hell No !!! No dildos, come on they are not taking away my dildos , keep your hands off my dildos I paid a lot of money for that . Damnit I don't even have a girlfriend to do other things Stupid handbook doesn't care about single horny lesbians .:tantrum:

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Tell It Aussie :tantrum:

 

I'm calling bullshit. There is no handbook or test for being a lesbian; if you're exclusively sexually attracted to women, you're in. No one can tell you how to live your life otherwise.

Does this mean gay men who have kids with their husbands/boyfriends aren't real gays?

 

Right On ! (!)

Anyone feel that it's like prejudice against lesbians who slept with men in the past before they knew they were gay ?

 

Personally, I think that's wrong and based on her own experiences. I know of many lesbian couples with children, both biological and adopted; I know I want kids some day, whether it be through surrogacy or adoption. I don't think it makes me less gay.

 

Can you maybe extend on this.. I would like to know why or where she heard that from.. I know you say she wasn't being extremely literal but still.. She must be getting that or heard it from somewhere to have some kind of belief in it enough to emphasize the 'true' part.. I mean how can anyone assume someone is or isn't a true lesbian.. What are the 'rules' your girlfriend goes by in determining whom a 'true lesbian' is.. I am not trying to be critical and I am certainly not offended at all, I am just trying to get an understanding of why people say those kinds of things.