Life so confusing!

[ccdd]

Life is so confusing when you're out to some people, totally boy-crazy with others (not lying, just a half truth ), and have just met others - who you know/suspect are gay - who you want to radiate gay vibes towards. I mean, when there's a group of you, and with one person you're used to talking about girls, and for another you've become the person they talk about boys with, what do you do???

OK, you come out -that's what you do. I'm not so much asking for advice as venting my frustration at the whole predicament. I don't want to sound like I'm lying to one group, but then if I come out, it's like I've been pretending (although I could say "It never came up"), and when you're with someone who talks about boys with you and someone else you quite fancy and think is gay, you don't want to talk about boys because then they'll think you're straight....

Nevermind, I know the solution. Just needed to vent after spending ages trying to negotiate discussions with mixed groups of friends, without wanting to make an "I'm bisexual" scene.

Basically: I want to radiate gay vibes, but it's hard when other friends insist on talking about boys to me! And it would be really odd to just suddenly say, in a public place with lots of friends, "Actually...."

[ccdd]

OK, it just got more confusing...just met a guy - a GUY - who sent my heart completely aflutter. I am clearly crushing on everybody at the moment . Or at least, finding a lot of people attractive. Must be my hormones or something...

Ohhh dear! Make sure you control those hormones before they control you!

[Astaroth]

Hello dear! I haven't talked to you in ages. Glad to know you're still doing well, although the crush thing is a bummer, eh? I had a few of those earlier this year. Anyway... my advice is to not worry about feeling like you 'lied' to anyone if you come out to them later on. That's kind of the point of coming out. It's like... 'Hey, I'm not going to lie anymore!' to those you care about. And I'm sure they'll forgive you for talking about boys. In fact, there's no reason you couldn't anyway. You do consider yourself bisexual and you even just said you had a sudden, strong attraction to a guy, right? Then it's not even lying. Ahhhh, gotta love loopholes!