Ugh, most of my friends aren't against Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual etc people, but I am scared shitless to come out. I have already came out to one friend (via text) and she was completely fine with it (she's bi too) The problem is, I don't want to have to lose friends because of my ladylovingness (as my friend who is bi says) I don't know how to come out without having a full-on panic attack. Please help.:icon_redf
There is no timeline for coming out. I recommend starting with those who have been affirmative to LGBT causes first to get support. Then, you can come out one by one as long as you want. Eventually, you will gain confidence and support. Maybe you have some male friends who you can start with as it will be less threatening for you. Brothers and sisters, cousins etc? Be observant around Thanksgiving and talk about gay issues and see who responds positively. You can dip your feet in without coming out.
Thank you so much: it truly means a lot, I definatley am cancelling out the brother and sister part. They are irritating af, and are too young to understand a lot of real life situations. I think I might tell my guy friend soon, because I have a gut feeling he is bisexual also.
Definitely tell people who are supportive first; it goes a long way towards making you feel safe. One of the first people I came out to let me talk to him for an hour about how scared I was and how hard this was while reassuring me that no matter what, he still liked and cared about me. It meant a lot, especially since I was so nervous that the people in my life would hate me.
