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Have social anxiety?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by potofsoup, Nov 21, 2014.

  1. potofsoup

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    Hi guys,

    Any of the members here have social anxiety?

    I have SAD.

    I would like to know more about the members in this forum.

    Maybe we guys can form a group and help each other out. :slight_smile:
     
  2. Cap’nSerious

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    A little. When I was younger, it was more prominent. Though, as time as gone by, I become more comfortable in social situations
     
  3. Rawrzilla

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    Used to have it, wouldn't call it that now but I can still feel a faint hint of it in the back of my mind whenever I'm out and about. Some years ago I got sick of it and started putting(/forcing) myself out there despite knowing that I would likely fuck up and make a fool of myself. The surprise wasn't that I didn't embarrass myself (I did, a lot), the surprise was that no one gave as much of a fuck as I thought they would. If you are anything like me, the quicker you realize that you are not as important as your overly-worried brain makes you think you are, the more comfortable you will feel stumbling out of your shell, making mistakes and getting better at the social game. I can still be pretty awkward with strangers in social gatherings, but I'm not scared of that awkwardness anymore.
     
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    I do. I have had it for a long time. And I hate it so much.
     
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    I have it but it's not as bad as it used to be
     
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    I didn't have it in the past, then somehow it hit me in my teen years.

    So recently i decided to seek professional help. Several visits later, 300mg 5-HP daily and forcing myself to simply not give a f**k about others.

    I now consider myself, cured.

    That is not to say i don't still feel anxious and occasionally in social environments, but i now see the causes and have a way to battle them.
     
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    Yes, I have it, but it was largely due to me being in the closet and so deathly afraid of having to talk about relationships/personal stuff.
     
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    Technically, I do. Like another poster said, I feel it sometimes at the back of my mind. But nothing like a year or so ago when I couldn't even leave the house without having a panic attack. I owe my progress to medication and cognitive behavioural therapy
     
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    Oh HELL YES! I'm really socially awkward, shy, and am better than what I used to be. I feel really bad and horrible whenever I say something irrelevant, odd, or something that no one will get :S. I hate it. Absolutely hate it.
     
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    I was diagnosed with social anxiety,
     
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    I can't tell. I do experience anxiety at social situations, but I think I deal with it well enough that I couldn't have a real disorder. That didn't used to be true, though.
     
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    The first step to getting over social anxiety is to accept yourself as a shy person. To understand that 90% of the problem is not the social anxiety but your inability to accept yourself and to demand from yourself, that you be some sort of soul of the party. When I accepted that I was a quiet thoughtful person and that nearly everything I had achieved had been because of I'm like how I am. Then I started to get over my social anxiety.

    Is "better than I used to be" a good term. No. I am more confident and more in control but that is due to my maturity and experience. Once I understood that I'm a quiet thoughtful person with a lot to give, I was able to speak up when I needed to.
     
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    I struggled with sa for like 6 years after I turned 11. A coupld of failed suicide attempts. Only in the past few years have I really improved.. And you wouldn't think I struggled with it if you met me today. But it's still there and yes it still affects me. But not as much as it use to. :slight_smile:
     
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    Severely!
     
  15. JackAttack

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    I do but I have gotten better with it over the years. I try and force myself to talk to people and use the phone (still dont like doing it).
     
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    I had it really prodominant at the begining of the school year but I talked to my doctors and got some med's and i'm doing alot better now.


    sorry i suck at spelling
     
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    I had it, the entire time I was in the public school system I was completely incapable of making friends because of it. Actually I think it's connected to abandonment disorder in my case.

    At any rate, in university I was in my first relationship, it was abusive, I lost all my friends. When I ended that relationship it was like a sizable crack appeared in the dam. I was still super anxious to talk with or approach anyone, but I forced myself to do it. Now, I've had lots of people laugh at me when I tell them I'm shy. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    No, I do not have nor had social anxiety.
    A bit of the opposite, though. :lol:
     
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    its not a contest but ive never met anyone who has it worse than me
     
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    I've had social anxiety all my life, and am seeing a psychologist for it. Like Kageshiro, I haven't met anyone who has a more severe social anxiety than I do, although that's probably common for people with social anxiety because we're no as likely to meet each other.

    I have to give a presentation in front of a 30+ person class in a week and a half, and am anxious just thinking about it.