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9th Oct 2008, 08:56 AM

Someone recently told me I wasn't their type. Has this every happened to you and/ or how do you feel about this?

Vector · 9th Oct 2008, 09:04 AM

Hasn't happened to me, but if/when it does, I'll just have to take it in stride. Attraction is a two way thing, and if it's not happening mutually, you have to build a bridge, move on, and find the next person.

Jerr · 9th Oct 2008, 09:32 AM

I've had a guy tell me that. Was my best mate actually. He went on to tell me my flaws... Oh... we have issues...

You see every word dripping with bitter hatred that can only bloom with love. haha

9th Oct 2008, 01:08 PM

No thats never happened to me. I've been called ugly before.

EmperorNero · 9th Oct 2008, 02:50 PM

Never been there, no. Although I've been told my breath smells bad.

Micah · 9th Oct 2008, 04:49 PM

Happened to me while I was in high school...Actually...it happened around the time when I had first joined EC :|

Yeah it sucks -.-

9th Oct 2008, 04:51 PM

Never happened to me, I usually tell others that though =S

littledinosaurs · 9th Oct 2008, 05:13 PM

It's never happened to me, and i've never used that phrase, but it happens.

Daniel · 9th Oct 2008, 05:27 PM

There is apparently a member of EC who finds me to be flat out ugly. And fat.

I find him to be as deep as a puddle.

Brandon · 9th Oct 2008, 06:17 PM

Been told by millions of people that I'm not their type, their loss, I already found my partner so no need to hook up with people who will find me unattractive and ugly, fat, you name it.

9th Oct 2008, 06:51 PM

It hasn't happened to me, but I guess the only thing to do in that situation is to just move on, and start trying to have fun again to kick it out of your mind hehe.

jazzrawr · 9th Oct 2008, 07:17 PM

It happens.

Some people have prefrences in who theyre attracted to.
I just suck it up and try to move on, find someone whose type I am.

9th Oct 2008, 07:41 PM

yeah its not that big of a deal. some people just arent attracted to other people as much. atleast they arent lying and leading you on.

WhiteFox · 10th Oct 2008, 02:13 AM

Sigh I was jus told this by my bes friend who ive been fooling around with. Its like we share all the common interests and love eachother (brotherly way) and yet he says im not his type...I dont understand cus if i found someone that shared all coomon interests and we got along isnt that a shoe in for (being the right type?) ever since then I find him extremely shallow. I still love him but shallow. yea it sucks

jbb1236 · 10th Oct 2008, 10:01 AM

I haven't ever had anyone say that to me, but I've told someone else that, the guy actually wasn't really happy about it and I got a pretty nasty email after I did. I more or less told him because he wanted to go in a different direction than me, so I thought I would tell him how I feel, but I kind of backfired.

Psychedelic Bookmarks · 10th Oct 2008, 10:37 AM

I haven't ever been told that but I think I'd accept it if I was. There are some types of people/styles that I'm just not attracted to... eg that "spikey dykey" look just turns me off even though about 75% of lesbians seem to do that X( So if someone told me I wasn't their type, that would be sad, but it's life. You can't expect everyone to like your look. Although I understand how it could be discouraging and painful.

elitechris · 10th Oct 2008, 06:05 PM

no one has told me that...
but the best you can do if it happens is to move one cause you might be someones typr

10th Oct 2008, 06:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Daniel

There is apparently a member of EC who finds me to be flat out ugly. And fat.

I find him to be as deep as a puddle.

How rude! Just brush it off and don't let it get to you

Anyways, the whole "not my type" thing? To be honest, I think it's ALL a bunch of nonsense.

11th Oct 2008, 06:54 AM

Hahahaha thanks you always put a smile on my face...like it hurt, but I think I'm over it now. It still doesnt make sense to me.

Quote:

Originally Posted by SqueakyBubbles9

Quote:

Originally Posted by Daniel

There is apparently a member of EC who finds me to be flat out ugly. And fat.

I find him to be as deep as a puddle.

How rude! Just brush it off and don't let it get to you

Anyways, the whole "not my type" thing? To be honest, I think it's ALL a bunch of nonsense.

Mikeyy · 11th Oct 2008, 06:58 AM

I've used it.

Mind you... it was to a girl. So I think it was justified...

9th Oct 2008, 08:56 AM	#1
BitterEdge Guest Posts: n/a	not my type? Someone recently told me I wasn't their type. Has this every happened to you and/ or how do you feel about this?

9th Oct 2008, 09:04 AM	#2
Vector Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family, Friends, and anyone that asks Location: Bendigo, VIC - Australia Age: 23 Posts: 122 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: not my type? Hasn't happened to me, but if/when it does, I'll just have to take it in stride. Attraction is a two way thing, and if it's not happening mutually, you have to build a bridge, move on, and find the next person.

9th Oct 2008, 09:32 AM	#3
Jerr Pirate! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: If I have to say, I, my friends, am homogay. Out Status: All but family Location: Hot Springs, Arkansas Age: 22 Posts: 2,149 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: not my type? I've had a guy tell me that. Was my best mate actually. He went on to tell me my flaws... Oh... we have issues... You see every word dripping with bitter hatred that can only bloom with love. haha __________________ My Koolaid's Flavor is Fierce! Fierce Koolaid is filled with Vitamin Gangster! That's right. I'm gangster. I'm so gangster I practically sweat Awesome.

9th Oct 2008, 01:08 PM	#4
Loveless Guest Posts: n/a	Re: not my type? No thats never happened to me. I've been called ugly before.

9th Oct 2008, 02:50 PM	#5
EmperorNero Lost in insanity Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: -sexual Out Status: Mostly everyone Location: Sweden Age: 22 Posts: 239 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: not my type? Never been there, no. Although I've been told my breath smells bad. __________________ Why bother being straight/gay/lesbian/bisexual/whatever? Just fuck the ones who turn you on and marry the one(s) you love. It doesn't have to be this hard.

9th Oct 2008, 04:49 PM	#6
Micah ^_^ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to All Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 23 Posts: 2,532 Join Date: Feb 2005	Re: not my type? Happened to me while I was in high school...Actually...it happened around the time when I had first joined EC :\| Yeah it sucks -.- __________________ 　／l、（ﾟ､｡７　l、 ~ヽ　じしf_, )ノ

9th Oct 2008, 04:51 PM	#7
Midnight Angel Guest Posts: n/a	Re: not my type? Never happened to me, I usually tell others that though =S

9th Oct 2008, 05:13 PM	#8
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: not my type? It's never happened to me, and i've never used that phrase, but it happens. __________________ Âllo Là

9th Oct 2008, 05:27 PM	#9
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: not my type? There is apparently a member of EC who finds me to be flat out ugly. And fat. I find him to be as deep as a puddle. __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

9th Oct 2008, 06:17 PM	#10
Brandon Gamer Bear! Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: California Age: 27 Posts: 195 Join Date: Mar 2005	Re: not my type? Been told by millions of people that I'm not their type, their loss, I already found my partner so no need to hook up with people who will find me unattractive and ugly, fat, you name it. __________________

9th Oct 2008, 06:51 PM	#11
Defender Guest Posts: n/a	Re: not my type? It hasn't happened to me, but I guess the only thing to do in that situation is to just move on, and start trying to have fun again to kick it out of your mind hehe.

9th Oct 2008, 07:17 PM	#12
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: not my type? It happens. Some people have prefrences in who theyre attracted to. I just suck it up and try to move on, find someone whose type I am. __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

9th Oct 2008, 07:41 PM	#13
ppreston9 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: not my type? yeah its not that big of a deal. some people just arent attracted to other people as much. atleast they arent lying and leading you on.

10th Oct 2008, 02:13 AM	#14
WhiteFox Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but some family Location: Az Lake Havasu Age: 22 Posts: 231 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: not my type? Sigh I was jus told this by my bes friend who ive been fooling around with. Its like we share all the common interests and love eachother (brotherly way) and yet he says im not his type...I dont understand cus if i found someone that shared all coomon interests and we got along isnt that a shoe in for (being the right type?) ever since then I find him extremely shallow. I still love him but shallow. yea it sucks

10th Oct 2008, 10:01 AM	#15
jbb1236 Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone but Parents Location: Boodocks, Iowa Posts: 150 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: not my type? I haven't ever had anyone say that to me, but I've told someone else that, the guy actually wasn't really happy about it and I got a pretty nasty email after I did. I more or less told him because he wanted to go in a different direction than me, so I thought I would tell him how I feel, but I kind of backfired.

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10th Oct 2008, 10:37 AM	#16
Psychedelic Bookmarks Helena Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Close family and quite a few friends Location: UK Age: 18 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: not my type? I haven't ever been told that but I think I'd accept it if I was. There are some types of people/styles that I'm just not attracted to... eg that "spikey dykey" look just turns me off even though about 75% of lesbians seem to do that X( So if someone told me I wasn't their type, that would be sad, but it's life. You can't expect everyone to like your look. Although I understand how it could be discouraging and painful. __________________ "I refuse to recognize the terms hetero-, bi-, and homo-sexual. Everybody has exactly the same sexual needs. People are just sexual, the prefix is immaterial." (Morissey)

10th Oct 2008, 06:05 PM	#17
elitechris i am who i am Full Member Gender: homme Orientation: homosexual Out Status: everyone Location: somewhere sunny, california Age: 18 Posts: 210 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: not my type? no one has told me that... but the best you can do if it happens is to move one cause you might be someones typr __________________ "The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts" - FoQ

11th Oct 2008, 06:58 AM	#20
Mikeyy Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 176 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: not my type? I've used it. Mind you... it was to a girl. So I think it was justified...