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Do you have problems with lies?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by iGustavoLeon, Nov 23, 2014.

  1. iGustavoLeon

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    The people almost always say lies, i dont like lies but they say me lies many times that now i think is normal for them.

    I think that i dont say lies, but if you use lies for hide homosexuality i think that is justified (Orientation Discrimination or not ready yet) but should'nt hurt to anyone for hide homosexuality.
     
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    No I have no problem with lies whatsoever.
     
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    Good for you.
     
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    Nah. A lie every now and then is a good thing. The world would be a horrible place if everyone would always tell the truth.

    "That dress looks just wonderful on you."
     
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    Silly lies ("No, no! Of course that dress doesn't make your butt look like an elephant!") are fine. Serious ones are certainly not right most of the time.
     
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    i hate it when people lie :dry:
     
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    I don't like it when people lie, that being said, i don't necessarily have a problem with lies, if they are coming from people who i don't care for. I tend to have this outlook, that everyone lies. Never completely trust something, some random person has said. Plus, it's pretty damn apparent when they lie.

    Close friends however... when they lie to me, when they hide things... it kills me inside. Especially when i fail to notice it in time.

    I do think that everyone should strive to be honest and open, as much as they can.
     
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    Sometimes people withhold truth out of kindness. In most circumstances that can be ok. You do have to be cautious about whether sparing their feelings is doing a disservice to them.

    If we're talking about more serious withholding of truth or outrlght lying, that's a completely different animal. Authenticity is core to any meaningful connection, whether it's a friendship, a business relationship, an intimate relationship. So there, almost any sort of lying (well, other than "Does this dress make my butt look big") is really problematic, and anyone who is OK with it may have issues with their own self-esteem (or with their own authenticity.)
     
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    I think the closer someone is with another, the more they should trust and be honest with each other. But with more distant people, white lies are not a bad thing always.
     
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    I don't have a problem with little white lies, I use them myself. But when it comes to big things/serious things, then I do have a problem with lies. Especially concerning faithfulness
     
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    Sometimes you have to lie... No mom i didn't look up all male all nude. Now if you're lying to hurt someone, thats wrong
     
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    chip and shinji summed up my feelings on it well

    I lie on about a daily basis, at least once or twice. I think most people do if their honest, whether they realize it or not. Rather than doing this I perfer to find ways of expressing my opinion without hurting someone's feelings if they're at risk.

    I think being truthful with people is generally beneficial and the only way you'll be able to end up with the friendships/relationships you want with people close to you. Despite that I tend to lie to my parents alot about things like 'did you sleep' and other minor stuff ;-;
     
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    I think that if you're going to lie to save yourself or someone else from danger or persecution, it's fine. It's also fine if you're trying not to hurt someone's feelings and instead, make them feel good.

    But lying just to lie, lying to get someone in trouble, lying to get attention or lying to make another look foolish for a bit of a laugh is NOT okay.
     
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    If someone tells a lie, because it's 'needed' (in case of death or anything like that), then I don't mind. Sometimes it's convenient to hide a bit of the truth. But other than that, I don't like lies at all.

    I think trust is a very important quality. People who lie, be it to me or others, won't be good friends of mine.
     
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    I lie occasionally, and I'm excellent at it. But at the same time, I have a strong sense of honesty, and I want to live a life of integrity. So... I don't like to do it, and I only do it when necessary.

    Something that amused me when I heard it: "If I always told the truth, I wouldn't need you to trust me."
     
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    All I can say is that I try to live as honest a life as possible.

    Personally, it'd have to be a very extreme situation to make me feel like I have to lie. I think there are other ways of being diplomatic without having to lie or be brutally honest.
     
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    I lie what I call "petty lies"

    "No mum, I did not leave my socks on the floor."

    Although after two seconds I usually confess, having an inescapable honesty.
     
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    The worst is lying to parents, believe me..
     
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    I agree