Women have a harder time figuring out their sexuality - True or False

Hmm, my theory is opposite really. I've seen more men on here personally, but I think women can often tell more easily, since they are more in tune with their emotions. Of course they have doubts! Tons of people do! Doubt is a part of figuring out, and questioning yourself is quite healthy really, as long as questioning yourself does not lead to self-loathing. However, it's really the enviroment you live in that decides if you hate yourself or not (in my opinion). Alot of people live in or are around enviroments which tell them their way of life is wrong, and when they come to terms with who they are, whenever that may be, it is often self-denial and self-hate they feel before they can accept themselves. However, I think overall women have coming to terms with it easier, certainly individuals are all different and everyone has their own set of difficulties with it.

 

Yes but I think it's because of how women are raised that's why we are told this from little girls .

1. You're suppose to please men

2. Not think of yourself

3. Ignore your own feelings

4. Don't have an opinion because you'll make your husband angry

5 . Women don't have a sexuality

6. Women don't like sex

7. you're the giver not the receiver

8. You're worth is base on if you can attract guys

9 you're suppose to be innocent and pure you don't experience lust , like men do .

10. Men have a higher sex drive than women

All these not true .

I think these things contribute to why women have a harder time . I can list more but it's too long
The reason more straight girls ask bi curious question than straight guys is it's more accepted for women to be bisexual in fact it's encouraged .
Women are taught to be more reserved sexually than men , women aren't natural more reserved than men . Men's sexuality is okay as long as it's straight .

 

I don't think young women have lower sex drive than men , I don't know the girls you know but the girls I went to school with and knew were far different .
We are told we have lower sex drive than men ,and we only function emotionally I don't think it's true for all women maybe some ,but not the majority of women .
It's all hug wash if you ask me , we're taught that it's bad for us to be sexual and have a sex drive or a sexuality . Ever heard of slut shaming it's a way to keep women in line .
Women don't have lower sex drive than men that is a myth .

I use to think I was still straight because I had a low sex drive , but when I was with women I was very sexual with them not with men . My straight females were very sexual with men and I though I just have a low sex drive . It didn't hit me that I'm just not attracted to men til I started exploring my sexuality also discovered my sex drive was actually high but I was trying to like a gender I wasn't even attracted to . That's just my story though .

I know but it's not men's fault it's society I'm blaming it on because it teaches both men and women this .
Also men are taught from young not to be emotional, they are taught not to cry and be weak , that's one of the biggest reasons some men have trouble showing emotion and don't know how to connect with others emotionally . It's not because of their gender but both based on how men and women are raised because this is how society wants us to be and the line they want to keep us in . It has zero to do with our gender and more to do with how we're raised
Heternormality is heavily pushed in society to the point that we control how men and women act and think .

 

I don't think it's really related to gender. People's situations are too unique and varied.

 

Apart from the enormously different ways different people go about understanding their sexuality that make it difficult to say, I would be willing to say that women are denied their sexuality more than men are.

I don't imagine it's any easier to properly figure your sexuality out when you're told it doesn't matter or whatever sexist rubbish is pulled out to tell women that their sexualities aren't real.

Then again, men face a great deal of stigma in coming out about their sexuality; while gay men are certainly acknowledged as existing (as opposed to bi, pan or ace men), it can be really difficult to admit in in the face of social pressure that says we're disgusting or immoral etc.

 

I do think that women are denied sexuality more. It's common for a straight woman to think girls are good-looking or even call them 'sexy', but if you say anything positive about a guy you 'have' to be attracted to him. I see so many obvious lesbians come on EC and wonder if they're bi just for finding a guy good looking and nothing else.

Meanwhile, if a man does anything with another guy he's perceived as gay, while a straight woman can do EVERYTHING sexual with girls and still be seen as straight. I can understand why our ridiculous social standards make things harder for people.

 

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Nope. They just realise it later.

 

i don't believe this is true. first of all i feel like gay/bisexual girls don't receive near as much shit as gay/bisexual men. making it easier for them to explore their sexuality than guys. a lot of people remain unsure of their sexuality until they experience it all.

for example, say a girl decides to date another girl. it's not her thing, so she goes back to men. most men don't really care or want to brag that they turned her back straight. it's a little different for guys. if a guy decides to have a relationship with another man, then decides that it's not for him - there's a very large majority of straight girls that have no interest in that in a guy with that kind of past. a man dates another man and lots of people forever has it cemented into their skulls that he's gay or wants to be with a guy. a woman dates another woman, then goes back to dating a man, everyone just thinks it's a silly phase.

editor's note: the shared viewpoint above doesn't represent my PERSONAL opinion. just an opinion of how i think a lot of american's view this.

 

Yep... I agree - I think it is harder for girls to know their true feelings as to wether they are lesbian or not. It has almost become 'trendy' to be seen kissing another girl now & I think some female celebs don't help by flaunting it too. I think for guys it is a little more cut & dry as it were. I think a higher percentage of girls like to experiment whereas guys seem to either want one or the other. There are always exceptions to this obviously but I think on the whole it is definately harder for a girl to differentiate between just wanting to experiment and knowing she is gay.

 

Biologically, Men -usually- have higher sex drives but that's generally because they have more testosterone (which increases sex drive) and women have more estrogen (which decreases it). However, there are men who have higher estrogen levels (and therefore lower sex drives) and women with higher testosterone levels (therefore higher ones). A lot of lesbians do have higher testosterone levels than average, so yeah....I've met a lot of horny lesbians out there (Apparently a study showed that queer women, especially bisexuals have higher sex drives than straight women on average?)

Trust me, I may be a woman but I definitely have a high sex drive. A very very high sex drive. I actually had to take more estrogen to decrease it because it got out of hand, so figuring out things based on sex was easy for me. It just depends on the person on their hormones, and with gay people there's more of a mixture.

 

I've heard that womens' sexuality is more fluid but I'm sure that's not always the case.