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  1. iHeartYouu

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    So I stumpled upon a local forum and posted there, but an admin from the page private emailed me and he told me about his story, and he wants to meet up with me, I rejected the meet up and said we can text, I have not given him my number yet, should I?
    And I told him what school Im in, and my name. Is that dangerous?
     
    #1 iHeartYouu, Dec 4, 2014
  2. Andrew99

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    I wouldn't have done that if I were u and no don't give him your contact that could lead to some bad things.
     
    #2 Andrew99, Dec 4, 2014
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    How do I tell him in a nice way?
     
    #3 iHeartYouu, Dec 4, 2014
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    What's his story anyway?

    This smells fishy.
     
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    Given your age I think the wanting to meet up is pretty suspicious. I'd say stop talking to this guy immediately. Also if you give him your number and he turns out to be some creep he may use it to harass you or worse, so that's a bad idea as well.
     
    #5 kageshiro, Dec 4, 2014
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    He's an admin? I don't see why not. Maybe he's just being nice!
     
    #6 MusicislifeXD, Dec 4, 2014
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    Never give out your last name or school online. Very dangerous.
     
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    You don't just ignore him completely if he won't leave u alone then leave the forum completely.
     
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    Not all admins are good people. What kind of site is this again? +o
     
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    Given your age, it's inappropriate for an admin on a site to simply message you and ask for all kinds of personal details so that he can meet up with you. It's good that you rejected the meetup offer.

    Don't give him your contact information, or any personal information. If he sends you another message, I'd say ignore it. :slight_smile:
     
    #10 Mirko, Dec 4, 2014
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    You shouldn't give out personal information such as your school, full name, personal email, or anything like that online it wouldn't be hard for someone to find you with that information it they really wanted to. Like someone said earlier not all admins are safe, especially if they are trying to meet up with you.
     
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    Its an lgbtq+ forum for local people, and he emailed me to tell me that Im not alone and he felt sorry that Im feeling this way, he had been through the same. So far he only know my age, name and school.. he had been talking about texting each other and gave me his number a few times in his email. I always ignore that part and just chat with him. If I just kept emailing him and not giving him my contact is it still dangerous??

    ---------- Post added 5th Dec 2014 at 07:07 PM ----------

    He asked for my school uniform because he is a cross dresser sometimes and he has a fetish for girls uniform too and if i can give him after I graduate, he said he can even wear it for me to see.
     
    #12 iHeartYouu, Dec 5, 2014
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    Okay, that last part is a little bit scary. I would cut all contact if I were you.
     
    #13 Silver Springs, Dec 5, 2014
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    I wouldn't give him any more info than you already have, and I would stop contacting him privately. Don't worry about being impolite. If his intentions are good, he will understand.

    If he gets insistent, rude, tries to lay a guilt trip on you, starts to make you uncomfortable, or tries to blackmail you, please tell your parents or a trusted adult about this.
     
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    I was reading this post and thought that maybe this guy's harmless after all...
    Then I got to the bolded part. :eek: All I have to say is that it's very alarming. I would cut all contact if I were you.
     
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    just make an online texting account on textnow and give him that number and if he turns out to be a creep delete the account
     
    #16 riptide226, Dec 5, 2014
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    Nah.
     
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    This sounds like a good idea lol i will consider

    ---------- Post added 6th Dec 2014 at 12:32 AM ----------

    I think I should ignore him if he email me back, but right now he didnt reply me for a few hours already. What if he kept harassing me?
     
    #18 iHeartYouu, Dec 5, 2014
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    The part about wearing your uniform is very odd and very creepy. That is a red flag. We certainly don't have context, but he sounds like someone I would avoid. Just because he is an admin doesn't mean he is harmless. If he tries to use his position of power to harass you to continue contact to him, please tell the higher up admins if their is any. If they do nothing, leave the forum. It's obviously run by bad people, if that is the case.

    There is simply so many other good people around who will be happy to talk to, relate to, and share your life experience with, and not push for information you are uncomfortable about or say nasty things, that I would dump him. Plenty more fish in the sea; it's not even worth the risk of trying to figure out if he is normal or not. Listen to your intuition!
     
    #19 Austin, Dec 5, 2014
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    I agree with others. He sounds suspecious. And he shouldn't be asking someone who is underage for contact info. Inappropriate. Don't answer his private messages. Ignore them. And don't give him any info. Be safe! :slight_smile:
     
    #20 bicomplicated, Dec 5, 2014
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