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Psychedelic Bookmarks · 13th Oct 2008, 10:07 AM

Have any of you experienced this? Ever since I accepted that I like girls, I notice them more and more. In particular, I always used to be very prudey and was annoyed whenever guys talked about girl's legs or their busts or whatever, but recently I've found that I can admit to myself that I notice it too. It feels so liberating to see a bikini-clad girl and instead of thinking "grrr those guys are probably ogling her >repressed jealousy<" be able to freely realise "wow! She's so curvy....*hotness overwhelms*"

Maybe you know what I'm talking about. I'm sure you gay boys could empathise too, right?

edit: maybe it's just because I'm at the peak of adolescence. Yeah, that could be it, now I come to think of it... lol

Derek the Wolf · 13th Oct 2008, 10:39 AM

Agreed, I experienced the same thing. Before I accepted who I am, I avoided looking at guys. Now I notice them more. A lot more...

ccdd · 13th Oct 2008, 10:42 AM

I agree with you entirely! Ever since I admitted that I kind of liked other women, I'm always noticing when I find someone attractive! Not in a pervy way, but in an appreciative way. And it's completely natural. Before this, I hadn't really noticed anyone, and always found it strange when my female friends would start talking about some guy they had noticed, because I never noticed him!

But yes, definately, I notice other women a lot more now that I'm out to myself!

spellbound118 · 13th Oct 2008, 11:06 AM

Yep definatly know what you mean, now that i have admitted it to myself i notice girls a lot more. But now my mum knows so i find it weird when i do notice them! So i do but i try not to as i feel super conscious of it.

heatqueen · 13th Oct 2008, 11:42 AM

Yeah!! These days I'm like, 'Wow she's really fit!!!'

jazzrawr · 13th Oct 2008, 12:14 PM

I definately notice them more. Now when a cute girl walks by, I'm like 'damn...she's cute.' ... In my head of course. XD
Apparently I can be quite obvious sometimes, because my mom always laughs at me when I do it. XD
But yeah, since I accepted myself I can admit when I find a girl really attractive.

pirateninja · 13th Oct 2008, 12:22 PM

I guess it's because I used to tell myself "No, your not staring at her perfectly formed, twitching, round, perky buttocks." And just used to deny when I did notice, then when I finally said to myself, "Okay, you can look at girls, because you actually DO like 'em, despite your many protests... idiot", I sort of... noticed that I was noticing.

Did I make any sense there?

Apocalypte · 13th Oct 2008, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by pirateninja

I guess it's because I used to tell myself "No, your not staring at her perfectly formed, twitching, round, perky buttocks." And just used to deny when I did notice, then when I finally said to myself, "Okay, you can look at girls, because you actually DO like 'em, despite your many protests... idiot", I sort of... noticed that I was noticing.

Did I make any sense there?

Yeah, I noticed pretty much exactly the same thing when I first admitted to myself that I wasn't straight. It felt kinda liberating actually to be able to say to myself "It's ok to look at them and think they're hot, you don't have to think of it as just looking at the clothes...".

BlakeHarmony · 13th Oct 2008, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by ccdd

I agree with you entirely! Ever since I admitted that I kind of liked other women, I'm always noticing when I find someone attractive! Not in a pervy way, but in an appreciative way. And it's completely natural. Before this, I hadn't really noticed anyone, and always found it strange when my female friends would start talking about some guy they had noticed, because I never noticed him!

But yes, definately, I notice other women a lot more now that I'm out to myself!

I'm not going to write anything because that describes me perfectly as well!

Julien · 13th Oct 2008, 01:19 PM

same with me but they are usually straight

EmperorNero · 13th Oct 2008, 02:19 PM

Same thing here. I've always been able to think other guys are good-looking, but not in that hot'n'sexy-way. A hot afternoon on a sunny beach filled with sexy people. It's better than heroine! Not that I've ever tried heroine, but my point remains clear. If I ever had one, that is.

Pixbadgirl · 13th Oct 2008, 02:35 PM

I think that it is healthy to be able to appreciate the beauty of both sexes, regardless of whether you are gay, straight or bi. There is something liberating about accepting that you can find either a man or woman attractive without having to fear your sexual orientation. I am sexually attracted to men, however, I often find myself thinking... "is that woman ever attractive."

One of my greatest hopes is that someday inner beauty will become more important than outward appearance. I don't mean this in a holier-than-thou way, I include myself in that hope.

Johanna

silentsound · 13th Oct 2008, 02:39 PM

yeah, the hormones probably *do* play a little part, but I think it is more that once you let yourself look and don't feel guilty or confused about it you *let* yourself notice more. I'm in the same boat, enjoy it! Enjoy the half glances and enjoy being ok with who you are!

Nodnarb · 13th Oct 2008, 04:38 PM

Yeah, definately something I noticed.

Before, if I ever thought "That guy is hot", I'd say to myself "What the hell is wrong with you?!?". Now its just natural to think that when I see a cute guy

Also, right after I came out to my parents, if I was watching TV and there was a really hot guy or if I noticed that I was being too obvious when I saw a cute guy when we were out somewhere, I would feel really awkward. I guess wasn't comfortable with them knowing what I was thinking.....but I've gotten used to it, so it isn't a big deal anymore.

Cheese Love · 13th Oct 2008, 05:13 PM

Ahh I've so been there. I remember in ninth grade english class I used to stare at this girls chest and nothing has ever made me feel more perverted in my life. At that point I still had no clue I was gay >.>

13th Oct 2008, 07:00 PM

Yeah, I feel so much less weird for me noticing a girl's chest (i'm a boob fan). Well, I still feel a little weird, but not in the "i'm straight, why do I keep noticing this girl's boobs?" kind of way. Now it's more of a "ok, i'm attracted to girls and this girl has a great rack" kind of way. But I have recently been more able to notice attractive girls, and it feels nice.

Miaplacidus · 13th Oct 2008, 09:27 PM

Yup. When I was younger (like 14 lol) I was closeted even to myself, and I didn't really look at guys other than some select ones who really turned me on... Now I basically check out every guy 17-25 who is near me... (the hot ones get more checkout time, obviously)

epiphanies · 13th Oct 2008, 09:32 PM

Yep, I catch myself looking at some of my friends in a different light, and actually checking them out. Then I chuckle, because they don't know. :-)

13th Oct 2008, 10:01 PM

I'm checking out girls all the time now. Especially in my classes, which are like 80% girls because I'm an education major. I wish I had gaydar.

Starshine16 · 13th Oct 2008, 10:04 PM

That goes for me too.I am always checking out girls in my classes and I think that gaydar would be very helpful to me so I don't make a fool of myself in front of them.

13th Oct 2008, 10:07 AM	#1
Psychedelic Bookmarks Helena Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Close family and quite a few friends Location: UK Age: 18 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Oct 2007	Noticing girlies more and more Have any of you experienced this? Ever since I accepted that I like girls, I notice them more and more. In particular, I always used to be very prudey and was annoyed whenever guys talked about girl's legs or their busts or whatever, but recently I've found that I can admit to myself that I notice it too. It feels so liberating to see a bikini-clad girl and instead of thinking "grrr those guys are probably ogling her >repressed jealousy<" be able to freely realise "wow! She's so curvy....hotness overwhelms" Maybe you know what I'm talking about. I'm sure you gay boys could empathise too, right? edit: maybe it's just because I'm at the peak of adolescence. Yeah, that could be it, now I come to think of it... lol __________________ "I refuse to recognize the terms hetero-, bi-, and homo-sexual. Everybody has exactly the same sexual needs. People are just sexual, the prefix is immaterial." (Morissey) Last edited by Psychedelic Bookmarks; 13th Oct 2008 at 10:09 AM..

13th Oct 2008, 10:39 AM	#2
Derek the Wolf Furry Overlord Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Majority Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 1,325 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Noticing girlies more and more Agreed, I experienced the same thing. Before I accepted who I am, I avoided looking at guys. Now I notice them more. A lot more... __________________

13th Oct 2008, 10:42 AM	#3
ccdd Procrastination Queen Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 30(ish) friends, but mostly closeted. Out to mum Location: UK Posts: 1,009 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Noticing girlies more and more I agree with you entirely! Ever since I admitted that I kind of liked other women, I'm always noticing when I find someone attractive! Not in a pervy way, but in an appreciative way. And it's completely natural. Before this, I hadn't really noticed anyone, and always found it strange when my female friends would start talking about some guy they had noticed, because I never noticed him! But yes, definately, I notice other women a lot more now that I'm out to myself!

13th Oct 2008, 11:06 AM	#4
spellbound118 Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: England Age: 20 Posts: 55 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Noticing girlies more and more Yep definatly know what you mean, now that i have admitted it to myself i notice girls a lot more. But now my mum knows so i find it weird when i do notice them! So i do but i try not to as i feel super conscious of it. __________________ If you don't try you fail by default - JKR Differences of habit and language are nothing at all if our aims are identical and our hearts are open - Dumbledore GOF.

13th Oct 2008, 11:42 AM	#5
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,704 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Noticing girlies more and more Yeah!! These days I'm like, 'Wow she's really fit!!!' __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

13th Oct 2008, 12:14 PM	#6
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Noticing girlies more and more I definately notice them more. Now when a cute girl walks by, I'm like 'damn...she's cute.' ... In my head of course. XD Apparently I can be quite obvious sometimes, because my mom always laughs at me when I do it. XD But yeah, since I accepted myself I can admit when I find a girl really attractive. __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

13th Oct 2008, 12:22 PM	#7
pirateninja EC's Sailor Uranus Full Member Gender: Biologically Female Orientation: Heterosexually Challenged Out Status: Most people Location: Bath, England Age: 21 Posts: 5,853 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Noticing girlies more and more I guess it's because I used to tell myself "No, your not staring at her perfectly formed, twitching, round, perky buttocks." And just used to deny when I did notice, then when I finally said to myself, "Okay, you can look at girls, because you actually DO like 'em, despite your many protests... idiot", I sort of... noticed that I was noticing. Did I make any sense there? __________________ Holly the Pirateninja Ars Longa, Vita Brevis.

13th Oct 2008, 01:19 PM	#10
Julien Well Known Regular Member Gender: Transgender - FtM Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Some people Location: Colorado Age: 23 Posts: 224 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Noticing girlies more and more same with me but they are usually straight

13th Oct 2008, 02:19 PM	#11
EmperorNero Lost in insanity Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: -sexual Out Status: Mostly everyone Location: Sweden Age: 22 Posts: 239 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Noticing girlies more and more Same thing here. I've always been able to think other guys are good-looking, but not in that hot'n'sexy-way. A hot afternoon on a sunny beach filled with sexy people. It's better than heroine! Not that I've ever tried heroine, but my point remains clear. If I ever had one, that is. __________________ Why bother being straight/gay/lesbian/bisexual/whatever? Just fuck the ones who turn you on and marry the one(s) you love. It doesn't have to be this hard.

13th Oct 2008, 02:35 PM	#12
Pixbadgirl Jazzrawr's Mom! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Ontario Age: 45 Posts: 66 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Noticing girlies more and more I think that it is healthy to be able to appreciate the beauty of both sexes, regardless of whether you are gay, straight or bi. There is something liberating about accepting that you can find either a man or woman attractive without having to fear your sexual orientation. I am sexually attracted to men, however, I often find myself thinking... "is that woman ever attractive." One of my greatest hopes is that someday inner beauty will become more important than outward appearance. I don't mean this in a holier-than-thou way, I include myself in that hope. Johanna __________________ "I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision." "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Rosevelt

13th Oct 2008, 02:39 PM	#13
silentsound Flaming Thespian Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: most people Age: 18 Posts: 2,253 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Noticing girlies more and more yeah, the hormones probably do play a little part, but I think it is more that once you let yourself look and don't feel guilty or confused about it you let yourself notice more. I'm in the same boat, enjoy it! Enjoy the half glances and enjoy being ok with who you are! __________________ ...and I can't wait to figure out what's *wrong* with me, so I can say 'this is the way I [used] to be'

13th Oct 2008, 04:38 PM	#14
Nodnarb Notoriously Homosexual Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people Location: Ames, Iowa Age: 20 Posts: 3,875 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: Noticing girlies more and more Yeah, definately something I noticed. Before, if I ever thought "That guy is hot", I'd say to myself "What the hell is wrong with you?!?". Now its just natural to think that when I see a cute guy Also, right after I came out to my parents, if I was watching TV and there was a really hot guy or if I noticed that I was being too obvious when I saw a cute guy when we were out somewhere, I would feel really awkward. I guess wasn't comfortable with them knowing what I was thinking.....but I've gotten used to it, so it isn't a big deal anymore. __________________ Better to be hated for who you are, than be loved for who you're not.

13th Oct 2008, 05:13 PM	#15
Cheese Love EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Totally out, except for extended family Location: Minnesota Age: 20 Posts: 314 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Noticing girlies more and more Ahh I've so been there. I remember in ninth grade english class I used to stare at this girls chest and nothing has ever made me feel more perverted in my life. At that point I still had no clue I was gay >.>

13th Oct 2008, 07:00 PM	#16
ColbieMarie Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Noticing girlies more and more Yeah, I feel so much less weird for me noticing a girl's chest (i'm a boob fan). Well, I still feel a little weird, but not in the "i'm straight, why do I keep noticing this girl's boobs?" kind of way. Now it's more of a "ok, i'm attracted to girls and this girl has a great rack" kind of way. But I have recently been more able to notice attractive girls, and it feels nice.

13th Oct 2008, 09:27 PM	#17
Miaplacidus Cheshire Cat Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayer than not Out Status: Everyone who asks Location: Atlantida, Uruguay Age: 22 Posts: 5,093 Join Date: Feb 2007	Re: Noticing girlies more and more Yup. When I was younger (like 14 lol) I was closeted even to myself, and I didn't really look at guys other than some select ones who really turned me on... Now I basically check out every guy 17-25 who is near me... (the hot ones get more checkout time, obviously) __________________ We are all mad here.

13th Oct 2008, 09:32 PM	#18
epiphanies Well Known Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: More gay than bi Out Status: All important people. Do ask, Do tell. Location: VA Age: 24 Posts: 199 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Noticing girlies more and more Yep, I catch myself looking at some of my friends in a different light, and actually checking them out. Then I chuckle, because they don't know. :-)

13th Oct 2008, 10:01 PM	#19
ColbieMarie Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Noticing girlies more and more I'm checking out girls all the time now. Especially in my classes, which are like 80% girls because I'm an education major. I wish I had gaydar.

13th Oct 2008, 10:04 PM	#20
Starshine16 One Day At A Time Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but grandmother and uncle Location: California Age: 26 Posts: 563 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Noticing girlies more and more That goes for me too.I am always checking out girls in my classes and I think that gaydar would be very helpful to me so I don't make a fool of myself in front of them.