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Do straight people ever question their sexuality?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by essie, Dec 11, 2014.

  1. essie

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    First of all, I don't know if any other similar thread exists and I would like to apologize if it already does.

    Many of us have gone through a period of questioning. I remember thinking that there was something not quite "right" with the way I felt and behaved.

    Watch These Straight People Answer A Question Gay People Have Been Asked For Years

    Watching this video made me realize that many people just naturally assume that they're straight (and even think that everyone else has to be as well) and have no doubts about it.

    Do straight people ever think that they might be gay at some point in their life?

    Don't you think that taking a moment (meaning by moment spending days and night thinking about it the way some of us has done) to question your own sexuality actually means that you're not entirely straight?
    Have any of you ever written "questioning" as your orientation and then changed it to "straight" later on?

    I hope that this thread makes sense.
    Thank you! Bye!!
     
  2. White Knight

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    Not in my experience. Not talking about myself of course.

    My best friend never felt or think about having something sexual about a women according to her words.

    Most men I've had sex with never identified themselves as gay or bisexual. They just looked the thing as sex... So they were very firm they were straight and had no doubts.
     
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    I think that what you told me is quite the opposite of what I was asking.. I mean: don't you think that people who start to question their sexuality are never straight because just asking yourself that question means that you are not entirely straight? What you described are people who "act gay" but don't think of themselves as gay, I think. Sorry for the misunderstanding. Have a pleasant day!
     
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    Rarely. The fact that someone questions at all tends to suggest they aren't straight.
     
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    To my knowledge, not really. There are people who are more comfortable with their sexuality (such as willing to receive hugs and stuff without being called gay), but this tends to mean that they're comfortable in their own skin.
     
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    Some do some do not. Not all gay people question their sexuality, some knew instantly. You also don't hear straight question their sexuality because they ashamed by it. Sexual Phases do exist.
     
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    I'm going to disagree with others and say that it can happen, but not always. Some straight people are confused or go through 'phases where they think they are gay' and decide they aren't. Some gay people -never- questioned their sexuality once or thought they were straight.

    It's something I relate to personally; I grew up raised as a cis woman and questioned whether or not I was FtM last year, until coming back to the conclusion I was cis. Being a majority group shouldn't take away how I felt at the time nor should it mean I'm 'in denial' or not the gender I say I am now.
     
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    Good point.

    I've often wondered about the question posed in the OP.

    They say that in almost every straight person's lifetime, whether early or later, they will run across someone of the same sex they are fascinated by. It wasn't explained any further. I wondered if it was some sort of envy or admiration of something they were lacking, or simply a chemistry they couldn't explain.

    I do believe this assertion to some extent.
     
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    I think some do. My brother confided in me that he had briefly questioned his sexuality. However, I asked him if he couldn't get his mind off a guy after he left his sight. He said no, but he recognized if a guy is good looking in general. Then I asked him the same regarding girls, and he said that many times he thought of them when they weren't around. He would stumble across gay porn while looking for straight porn and says it did nothing to sexually arouse him.
     
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    I'm going to hazard a guess that more straight people have questioned their sexuality than would care to admit it. If simply questioning your sexuality meant you were definitely not straight it would make finding the answer to that question much simpler. I don't know how many people go through a serious, lengthy period of questioning only to realize they are absolutely straight, but I've seen more than one sitcom do an episode or a joke where a character thinks "what if I'm gay?" Humor can mirror reality and those jokes come from somewhere. I doubt there are *as* many straight people who question for as long as a gay or bisexual person does, though, because for a straight person there is a lot less to question.

    I do have a friend who confided in me she thought she might be gay for awhile, but I wouldn't call her 100% straight, either, even though she does seem to heavily prefer guys now. When we talked she also wondered how many straight women might fess up to having a "girl crush" in the past. So far it's just been her, but I've got another straight guy friend who has admitted to guy crushes. The very nature of sexuality being a spectrum rather than a binary system lends itself to some blurred lines and I would suspect many people who consider themselves straight might have some very minor (maybe even just once in their lifetime) same sex attractions. That sort of thing can definitely lead to some questioning.
     
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    After I came out to one of my friends in my grad program, he told me that his freshman roommate at college was gay and he enjoyed hanging out with the guy and his gay friends. He questioned his sexuality briefly until he went to a gay club, danced with another guy, and didn't find it appealing.
     
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    Some do I've seen a few straight women and men doing it but it's usaually for things that aren't even considered gay