Want to become a T-Girl?

Well you can't just become transsexual, it's something that you're born as and it probably wouldn't be good to try to force yourself to become something you're not just for a relationship. Being trans comes with a LOT of it's own problems anyways, I'm not sure how much it would help. And guys that are exclusively looking to date transsexuals probably aren't interested in the personality, but just the body (There's a lot of "chaser" guys that fetishize trans girls and that's not a good thing). I'm not trying to tell you what to do but personally I think unless you really feel like a woman inside, it wouldn't be a good idea.

 

Well maybe some of them do, but for a lot of guys it's just a fetish.

 

Okay, I'm not going to argue with you guys on c****rs, and I really hate saying that word. And yeah, one does not simply want to be a trans woman. Either you are or you aren't. They go through way too much.
Just because you are fem does not mean you are trans woman. Transphobia is a lot bigger issue then femme phobia. There are trans women out there who are butch lesbians. Their are some out their that want to be drag KINGS. The question you need to ask yourself before transitioning is if you are a woman in a man's body, or you are a feminine man, that is comfortable living with the gender you were assigned. Also, your identity is about who you really are, and you should not change simply to increase your chances of getting a partner.

 

Gay guys like men who are masculine? ... No. I love feminine guys (but I am one). I would never even touch a manly man.
Not every gay guy likes masculine men.


Anyways to the point. You don't seem trans. A transgender is someone who has the wrong gender to their body.

I'm a transsexual who was born female, but am a feminine gay man inside. Maybe that will show you that femboy does not equal trans, and vice versa?

 

No, no, no and NO.

Never change yourself just to please others.
You won't be truly yourself, and as such, they won't be able to love you for who you really are.

All they will love about you are your tits.
Don't reduce yourself like that to please others just because you're desperate.

No matter how lonely life may seem, there ARE people out there who will appreciate you for who you are. Finding them is just a question of time and chance.

 

Living in a wrong body for pleasing others is very destructive. Suicide rate of transpeople is very high. Suicide attempt rate is about 40% debending on the source. You really don't want to live in a wrong body. I know what loneliness can do to people but this is not a solution.

 

You're playing with fire if you aren't distressed by testosterone and want to transition, especially if you do it primarily with others in mind. I won't say it can't be done because that isn't true, but you should seriously explore (preferably with a good gender specialist) and be very, very cautious. Living in a gender/sex you can't cope with is viscerally distressing, almost moreso than being romantically alone. And as others have said, there is no guarantee you are expanding the pool of men who will be interested in an LTR. All these thoughts, you must give a serious, thorough runover.

Now my question is, you say 80% comfortable with your gender, what is the 20% you are uncomfortable with?

 

Well, it's definitely not a good idea. But it seems no one can convince you.So in the end, it is your life you're ruining.

 

Slow down, and take your time. It's OK to not be in a relationship. And, honestly, the way I see it, one's potential dating pool actually increases as one ages, for the most part. I mean, when you are really young, it's rather creepy to be with someone even a few years different in age, mostly because you are at such different points in your life. As you grow older (probably starting around mid-late 20s) you'll find you are at a point in your life that there are a lot more people at a similar point. Also, it's much easier to travel, so the range of available people increases. Don't be in a big hurry.

 

Alright, I'm sorry but that is the stupidest reason in the world to transition. "Oh, I'm lonely and I want dick so I'm going to be a trans woman." By that logic, I shouldn't have transitioned to male because then I could've attracted straight guys.

Do you not realize what you'd be putting yourself through? Being trans isn't something you get to just do for fun and stop whenever you feel like it. Imagine if you go on hormones. Yeah, it wouldn't be nearly as drastic for you as it would be if you were Ftm, but hormones are powerful and not easily reversible. You're not trans. Hormones have an incredible affect on your brain chemistry and if you're not trans, you'll end up feeling worse.

Plus, I want you to think for a moment about what trans people go through every day. Job and housing discrimination. Increased risk of assault and violence. You can't just act like being trans is a game. Yeah, things are starting to get better but it's not because of people like you who transition for the wrong reasons.

Don't be an idiot. Only transition if you're actually trans.

Plus, you're too desperate to be in a relationship. It'll happen. If you go into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship, it's not going to end well for you.

 

If you did that you would probably feel terrible and out of place in your own body, just like lots of trans* people do before their transitions. Also tons of gay guys like femmes.

 

Don't fucking transition then if you're not actually trans. Be your damn self and you'll find someone who appreciates femmes.