How has this year been important to you?

there are 10 reasons as to why this an important year for me

1. The Hobbit 3
2. The Hobbit 3
3. The Hobbit 3
4. The Hobbit 3
5. The Hobbit 3
6. holy shit I need a real life
7. The Hobbit 3
8. The Hobbit 3
9. The Hobbit 3
10. The Hobbit 3

 

1) Started university
2) I actually have good friends, that I feel comfortable telling them the weird thoughts that go through my head.
3) For most things, I don't really care what people think anymore

 

hmmm.
I accepted myself.. and found a little cutie to love (although for now its stinking platonic) and I found this place. I think I've grown a lot as a person this year

 

I agree Hobbit 3 is love, Hobbit 3 is life

 

I came out to my parents, I think I've grown a lot personality-wise, I'm a lot more confident.

 

This year set me on track for what I'll be studying at university. I have a goal, I know how to get there and I'm confident that I will get there.

I've made some of the best friendships I've ever had and dropped the ones that didn't matter. I've started dating (though I mostly gave that up to focus on school) and I've become a lot more confident, especially sexuality-wise.

I've learnt how little sleep I can get by on and how much I really need, as well as my food requirements. That may not seem important, but I feel it's things like that take a harsh toll if not managed well.

 

I graduated college and got my BS in Public Policy.
I was relieved to find out that my grandfather doesn't have cancer and is making a speedy recovery from surgery.
I've formed new friendships on this forum and have met some wonderful people.
I was able to have two new jobs and I will continue enjoy doing both of them
I learned how to cook more, be more responsible, and show that I can live on my own better than 2013.

 

I finished coming out to everyone. I removed a lot of negativity from my life, even if I had to be ruthless. My self-confidence increased a bit, especially the last few months.

I no longer feel like two people who don't get along. Also, the empowering realisation that I can do anything and there are no eternal consequences. That doesn't mean I'm going on a killing spree!

I learned plenty stuff. Now I undrstand how interconnected many things are.

 

This year has been important for me in many ways. Some of them have been good, and some of them have been bad.

The good

I got my letter for T. I also changed all of my documents so that I am now legally male. I also had my name legally changed.

I started T, and have been on it for over 6 months now

I have continued to do well in school, even though there was a lot going on outside of academics.

I have become more confident with myself. I am now in a place where I never thought that I would be.

The bad

My mom was diagnosed with cancer, and has had a few complications that led to her getting a trach.


I'll add things as I think of them

 

I have friends and we are all really close and I love them all! This is so weird considering last year I had pretty much no friends.
I came to terms with my sexuality after 18 months of rejecting myself and questioning.
My sister was sick heaps this year and then finally not to long agao she was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes.
One of my closets friends mums pulled her out of school and she cant talk to us at all. Heart breaking
I told my friends, they honestly didn't care in a good way. Most likely becasue I have 4 bi friends and one of my other friends is transgender. But they are all in different grades then me and my friends in my grade were good. I told most of them in a group skype chat before I was certain myself and when I was still rejecting myself. They were like "who gives a shit if you like girls? Be yourself!"
I have become more open about myself.
Less panic attacks, went from a couple a week to once a month or every other month!
I got a B in math, last year I got C's and D's.
Went on a first date with a guy.
I completed my year 9 hike even though I thought I couldn't. I found it a big spiritual journey and it really helped me.


Amazing roller-coaster of a year!

 

My parents divorced and I'm staying with my mom. It sounds bad but it's actually a great relief, since my father had been treating her terribly. He's also a homophobe and an utter bigot so it's probably a good thing that he was out the door by the time I started to consciously question my gender.

I'm slowly starting to explore my identity, and I'm learning to accept whatever I am and to present myself however I feel comfortable with.

Unfortunately my junior grades turned to shit because of all the family drama, but I'm getting much better grades now in my senior year!

And of course, this is the year I'm applying to college, so fingers are still crossed for my results which will come back in 2015.

And who can forget that Dragon Age: Inquisition, the game I had been waiting for 3 years to play, finally came out and was as fantastic as expected

 

I came out to my parents.
I came out to various other people whom I barely knew.
I joined EC!
I moved to a new town and started at a new school.
I joined clubs at school, so I'm actually not sitting around bored at home all the time...
I began to understand myself and my feelings better.
I'm starting to feel tranquil, despite life becoming more challenging.
I feel more in control of my thinking.

 

1. Lost weight and became super cute, changed my whole wardrobe.
2. Started visiting a shrink, so now somewhat more stable, stopped sometime later.
3. Became pretty confident, yet not as much as I would have liked to.
4. Had my first crush, stuff didn't work out due to him being an idiot.
5. Saw a future for myself, then shortly after lost all hope for said future.
6. Got to know a bunch of people who have literally saved my life.

Pretty much everything there is to it. Sorry that it's not as exciting.

 

The Good

1. I joined Empty Closets.
2. I have been reassured of my likability, especially through this forum.
3. I experienced my first kiss (even if it wasn't on the lips; it was on the cheek), hand-holding, and cuddle.
4. I directly came out to a second person.
5. I have been accepted by financial aid, allowing me to, hopefully, return to school in January.

The Bad

1. I had a failed attempt at therapy (which I had hoped would, maybe, led to a gender specialist), after having not gone in a few years.
2. I alienated further, segments of my father's side of the family, due to some Will-related business.
3. I still believe I am unlovable in the sense of romantic intimacy, however, I can now see that I am not totally deplorable -- a bittersweet balance.

The Ugly

1. I've realized my father's side of the family, will probably never overlook how I used to be, and so I should drop them out of my life. At best, they're just dead weight.
   
2. Despite working on myself for years, anger and apathy are, always, going to be a part of my life. It sometimes feels like, happiness is only a temporary distraction.
   
3. Sometimes, it feels like I'm suffocating the woman inside, because I have to be sturdy, and a pillar of assurance to some, offline, instead of a more gracefully firm nurturer.
   
4. My family, with only 3 exceptions, I could do without, sadly. They are too indifferent or too distant to really provide me with anything, even a simple 'Hey, how are you?' is too much for them.
   
5. My desire for global supremacy (as silly as it seems, there is a very heartbreaking motive behind even such a childish aspiration) is what I've come to believe will, ultimately, allow me the means and resources to, in my mind, absolutely guarantee I will never be mocked, hurt, or subjected to anything undesirable again. Combined with a protective ego, and you have a recipe for high stress and ingested anger, when you simply cannot get to that next step -- that which could kill me, particularly emotionally.

 

This year has taught me a number of things

Odd things
1. Don't try to start a cult
2. Don't try to start a youth communist group
3. I look really good with short hair
4. If I try to laugh while crying it convinces people I'm having a psychotic breakdown

Good things
1. After 3 suicide attempts and years of denial I've accepted that I'm a transsexual
2. I've ended my parasitic friendships
3. I've found a good hobby

Bad things
1. My Newfoundland died after 7 years
2. My great aunt died
3. after my great aunt died we discovered she hadn't payed her taxes in 6 months and was in $300,000 of debt.

 

Well, it has been a very big year for you, eh?

 

Yeah well it's nice to try new things, and it's boring not to have anything happening so I had to improvise:badgrin:

 

1. I finally found a therapist that deals in gender issues.
2. I finished coming out to everyone important, with the exception of family.
3. I've started selling my art.
4. I bought my first bottle of absinthe.
5. I finally broke up with my boyfriend.
6. I planned my next tattoo.

Really, this year seems like a year of baby steps. And I suppose, it really all comes down to,

7. I've started finally taking baby steps towards pulling myself out of the rut I've been in.

 

The Good
I broke away from my bad friends, and found some great new ones.
I found out then accepted I am trans.
I got a great therapist for gender issues.
I'm finally learning to control my anxiety.
The downs only really paved the way for spectacular ups. Looking back... It's actually been a pretty good year.