Vent: Hurtful comment at party

You all were sounds like drunk... It sounds like in the state she was in she may have heard something that was never even said. Or you could have said something that was just drunk talk as i like to say

 

I'd say smile... relax... you just might have told her you didn't hit on her but simply wanted to dance... well now you know, you could simply do that next time
Its not good to pent up emotions... I'd say just talk about it and move on...

(*hug*)

 

It's really ridiculous that straight people have to be SO insecure. I had girls think I would hit on them too and they got all defensive. I was just all "Honey, I'm pretty damn picky when it comes to finding women attractive to begin with so what makes you think you'd be any different?"
She got so pissed off and was upset I didn't find her attractive. Figures; they get so paranoid over gay/bi people like we're diseases and then get offended when we think otherwise.

 

It's really ridiculous that straight people have to be SO insecure. I had girls think I would hit on them too and they got all defensive. I was just all "Honey, I'm pretty damn picky when it comes to finding women attractive to begin with so what makes you think you'd be any different?"
She got so pissed off and was upset I didn't find her attractive. Figures; they get so paranoid over gay/bi people like we're diseases and then get offended when we think otherwise.

 

Yep, therefore it might be advisable to see it relaxed... remain firm but polite and simply say you want to have a good time and tell them to relax, too...


(*hug*)

 

I would be pissed off and hurt aswell! What a BITCH. Also that guy was a wanker. I don't understand straight women.. Everything about them is weird most of the time. They seem to think every lesbian/bisexual wants them. We aren't attracted to every woman we see! Oh my god get over yourselves is all I think!

Next time you see her call her out on it. Let her know you don't like her that way and that YOU think it's weird that SHE is straight. Make her feel how you felt. Fucking tool.

So you could be overreacting but guess what? I don't blame you. I almost feel like I went overboard on this thread but fuck it.

 

It's okay, bicomplicated. If they don't want to dance with a lovely young lady, fine, I will! That just means less competition!

Lol.

 

Instant asshole, just add alcohol......that sums it up I think .

 

I'm not out to most people and I wasn't out to anyone in HS but most had their suspicions. Well this one classmate wrote in my year book "If you're straight great, if your gay stay away". I wasn't friends with this kid but had friends that were friends of his...

One of the most annoying things I hear when straight guys find out a guy is gay "Better stay away from him unless you want to get rapped"

Why do homophobes assume just because someone is gay they automatically would hit on or want to have sex with EVERY guy. Straight guys don't go around raping every girl they see...

 

Winebandit, it's homophobia. Sometimes, it also their repressed feelings towards guys. They secretly wanted to get bottom (not in rape) but will never admit it to themselves. I know because I was like that myself in my denial days.

 

Sometimes people can be the worst. They have this idea that all bisexuals are attracted to absolutely everyone we see, when that's certainly not the case. It's ignorant at best, and a form of homophobia at worst.

 

Yeah, I always get worried that straight guys will worry about me finding them attractive. Luckily that hasn't happened yet, but it's still something that bothers me. The idea that I'm going to find every guy I see attractive is completely fucking ridiculous.

But honestly? In addition to the whole "gays aren't attracted to every guy/girl they see" thing, what bothers me is, even if I do find a straight guy attractive, why is it so terrifying for him? I'm not at all creeped out by the thought of a straight girl finding me attractive and, in fact, I find it flattering when a straight girl finds me attractive. The thought that I might be creeped out by it never even crossed my mind until someone brought it up. So why is it so terrifying for straight people to be found attractive by a gay person?

If you're a straight person who's paranoid that all gay/bi people will find you attractive: In the event that a gay/bi person does find you attractive, as long as they're not harassing you or trying to convert you, take it as a compliment and get the fuck over it.

 

I know exactly what you mean. Not everyone even knows, but I'm guessing most have some suspicion.
Meanwhile, I have seen a number of straight guys slap or grab each other's butts in public as a form of greeting.

 

Women have done this to me for over 3 decades and often for doing far less than dancing. As a man, simply smiling or saying hello to a woman can earn a rebuke. Some people simply perceive niceness as a ploy to get them in the sack. Its strange but some people are more self centered than others. Luckily though most people aren't this way!

Also, lets be honest, men are WAY TOO aggressive so I see why women might react tersely considering the constant advances. Maybe this person thinks we LGBT are predators!? :eusa_doh:

Hurtful? Yes, its hurtful but its based on others arrogance or ignorance, not anything you did wrong!

Oh, and when this girl hits on you in a month you can loudly proclaim... ""ohhh no, I'm not into that shit, I don't do that. sorry"" She is straight after all, right?

 

So, some straight people freak out if THEY think someone of the same sex is hitting on them; but then they also freak out if you tell them no you weren't

I always find it so comical in my head when a female thinks I am somehow interested and then gets an attitude because she thinks I am flirting when I am just talking normally.

 

Don't let it get to you darling, some people are just immature and they think the entire world revolves around them. Alcohol made it worse I think..