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A question for yall - Are we all born asexual?

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  1. Reptillian

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    What do you think of the statement that "we are all born asexual" much in the same way that we are all born an atheist?
     
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    Sexuality isn't a belief it's a physical reaction to stimuli, I say stimuli because it is a huge field that we don't yet understand. So no I would say we're all born with predispositions on our sexuality. Saying we're born asexual implies that it's a choice to be lesbian, gay, straight, bi, etc. Which I am sure is not your intention. We grow into our sexuality.
     
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  3. Reptillian

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    It doesn't really imply that. The point of the statement that we are all born asexual is to state that we have no concept of sexuality, and we have no idea of what sexual attraction is when we are born. Thus, we develop our own concept of what sexual attraction is over the years. This doesn't negate the fact that we all have some predispositions on our sexuality. It just means no sexual feelings at birth means we are technically asexual at birth.
     
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    I wouldn't say everyone is born an atheist. When you're born you have no knowledge of religion whatsoever so there isn't a way for you to be born an atheist
     
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    Well I mean I guess if you wanted to put it that way. I believe that I was born gay, my sex drive didn't kick in until later, bbut nothing could have made me anything else. It's tomato tomaato.

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    By the same concept we are born unemployed, uneducated. It's am interesting concept, but babies are just born pure. Adult labels don't apply to them.

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    By the same concept we are born unemployed, uneducated. It's am interesting concept, but babies are just born pure. Adult labels don't apply to them.
     
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  6. Chip

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    I don't think either is true.
     
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    You mean you don't think you're burn LGBQA etc.?

    If so why?
    "In a study by Stanford University, if one identical twin was gay, the other was also gay 50% of the time. If they were fraternal twins, they were both gay 22% of the time. And if one was adopted, the chances fell to 11%."

    There have alalso been studies that the more males born into a family the more likely (through each successful generation) that one will be gay. Which makes sense for me being the youngest of 5.
     
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    If I'm not mistaken, I think he was referring to both the asexual and atheist thing.
     
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    I see probably should have figured an EC moderator would know that anyways lol *fades away*
     
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    I think I was born a lesbian , I've been kissing girls since age 8 and when the older girls came when I was a toddler I would always say " up " and raise my hands and the girls would say " do you want me to pick you up ? " I'd nod my head then then they would pick me up and I wouldn't want the girl to put me down .
    Not to mention the hot girls that use hug me when my cousin use to take me to school to show me off they would Yell "She has dimples oh she's so cute "
    Oh God did I love it I was still in kindergarten but I loved it when those older girls would just hug and kiss me up and hold me oh soo close . :icon_redf

    I had some good years as a toddler .:icon_bigg
     
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    Definitely not.

    And you're not born an atheist either. Religious and cultural beliefs are something you're born into, born with.
     
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    We're not all born feeling sexual attraction, if that's what you mean.
     
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    I think our sexuality is just not "being activated" when we are born but it is still within us.
     
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    If I had any sexual feelings for anyone I never recalled them until I was in grade school. As far as being an atheist, I thought the definition of an atheist was someone who had heard about God and rejects the idea of Gods existence. (an agnostic being someone who wasn't sure if there is one or not) How can you actively reject something you never heard of?

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    Sounds reasonable.
     
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    This

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    I accidentally ended up seeing this older girl naked and I kinda learned I like chicks , I also ended up spying on the girls when they changed after this experience when I was a little girl .
    I kept thinking why do I feel all tingly down there at the site of naked older girls .
     
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  16. Miles16

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    I think we're all born nasty and tiny and gooey and with a propensity for shitting our pants and we later grow sexualities/religious convictions/metaphysical outlooks on life in much the same way that we grow boils on our faces from wiping too much greasy fried chicken on them, thanks a lot popeyes, your food is sweaty and sexless and other not-gonna-get-me-laid things
     
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    I don't think so.
     
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    I honestly don't know. I think that could possible
     
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    Baby I was born this way.........queues lady gaga *music starts playing*



    *breaks into dance routine*
     
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  20. Martin

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    The biggest mistake society tends to make regarding sexuality is that it is something that tends to occur at later stages of the life course, typically during puberty. The reason for that is our understanding of sexuality is somewhat skewed and narrowly focused, and many people tend to take specific characteristics of sexual development and apply it across the life course. If you've seen our LGBT Parents section, there are occasions when parents make this mistake when their child is only about 5/6/7 years old, and they're flustered by the whole situation because they're measuring their child's sexual development based on much later stages of sexual maturity. It's nobody's fault that occurs, as society itself tends to have a rather timid view of sexuality, so it's no wonder we're not really understanding earlier stages of sexual development when it's contentious enough just acknowledging and teaching it amongst our populace who are maturing into adulthood.

    With that in mind, the question is both yes and no. It's 'yes' to the extent that a baby is asexual in the way that we understand sexuality and expression at our particular lifestage, as they're obviously not in a position to engage and consent to sexual activity or be capable of such attractions. However, that doesn't make them instrinsically asexual, as their life stage actually has some of the most important aspects to sexual development that play out at later stages. Sexuality for babies and infants is very much about how they form emotional and physical attachments and bonds to their parents, family members, friends etc. If this doesn't occur, they're at risk of finding it difficult to achieve this later in life when they reach sexual maturity and start having intimate relationships. It's also a key moment in which they begin to understand how their bodies work, and slowly start developing social awareness of their gender identity (think about the toys and colours attributed to males and females etc). It's often very subtle, but it's all about laying the basic foundations for later stages of sexual development, and it's a very slow process that begins in the womb. It is why, for example, there's research highlighting that babies and infants can recognise the pleasure from genital stimulation. I suspect there are males on here who can remember childhood when they'd get the most random erections in the world, and there's even studies that have shown that this begins during the final stages of pregnancy.

    So, yeah, they're certainly not asexual in the way that we know people to be. They're just infants, so what constitutes sexuality to them is drastically different to our sexuality. It's all essentially a clean slate for them, so it's all just waiting to be activated and/or socialised at various points in their life, starting from before they're even born.
     
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