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  1. Kaiser

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    Pretty straight forward.

    Do you tend to initiate things in your life, be they a simple conversation with another or getting things rolling along, like maybe a group assignment?

    Or, do you tend to respond to things in your life? You wait for others, or kind of guide or push others to make initiation, then you respond?

    I suspect some folks are an 'it depends' hybrid, and that's fine.


    Unfortunately, I won't be able to go into much more detail. I've got some errands to run, so I'll have to answer this much later.
     
    #1 Kaiser, Dec 20, 2014
  2. Clancularius

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    I'm a initiator.
     
    #2 Clancularius, Dec 20, 2014
  3. Ryujin

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    It depends
     
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    I'm fairly shy, but for most things I initiate.
     
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    mbanema, I think that's a forum record, sextuple posts. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Holy shit, I have no idea how that happened. :lol:

    Ah well, all cleaned up. :grin:
     
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  7. Kaiser

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    Forum lagged for a few minutes. It tends to do that, a lot, between 5-6 PM CST (Central Standard Time; my time).
     
    #7 Kaiser, Dec 20, 2014
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    Initiate.
     
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    Definitely respond. I get extremely nervous when talking to people, so I tend to try and go with the flow. (~u vu)~
     
    #9 Raceme, Dec 20, 2014
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    I really does depend. In fact I doubt anyone here saying otherwise, does so with complete honesty.
     
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    Finally, got around to this!

    I prefer to respond, but I tend to initiate.

    What do I mean?

    Well, basically... when I'm around individuals, I keep it very basic. I work off what is given, but most of the time, people seem to run out of steam or things to talk about. It amazes me how easily folks let that awkward silence infiltrate their company. I know it happens sometimes, but so quickly?

    Sometimes I notice somebody being shy or, they feel alone in their feelings. So, I have to do or say something to work the conversation to their favor. I've also been known to sway the conversation towards a particular direction, just to set up for something.

    You initiate too much, people start to depend on you too much. They expect you to start or move a conversation now. The problem is, a conversation doesn't feel authentic when folks are expecting one person to carry it. But that's what tends to happen, so, I have to balance between the two. Still, in terms of conversation, I prefer to respond... though I am fairly decent at initiating.

    Now, with everything else. I'm opportunistic -- if I need to initiate, I do. If I need to respond, I will. I'm flexible.
     
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    I like to wait. Especially when it comes to people because I have this constant fear that people hate me. But once I am assured they don't, I can initiate things a little more comfortably.

    But I can rise to the occasion. Especially with things like my goals. I tend to decide what they are and I'll go at it pretty hard with no further motivation from others.
     
    #12 Notlad, Dec 28, 2014
  13. Miles16

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    I do what I'm doing to this thread. Respond
     
    #13 Miles16, Dec 28, 2014
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    Usually I respond, because social anxiety got me bad.
     
    #14 Mickz, Dec 28, 2014
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    Respond. I'm such a shy person.
     
    #15 Tabitha, Dec 28, 2014
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    I really tend to respond, especially in social interactions but not only. I wish I didn't, but I do.

    Socially... I'm both shy and introverted, so I can understand being more the "responding" type, and it doesn't bother me that much. Many of my friends are also the shy type, actually, and with them I tend to initiate, mostly because I dislike awkward silences. Those aren't a problem when I'm with someone a lot more outgoing than I am.
     
    #16 Lyana, Dec 28, 2014
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    Respond.
     
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    I'd say respond. For example, when it comes to forums like these, I always reply to threads rather than start them. I always get this fear that whatever subject I start a thread on is going to be really boring to everyone else. :frowning2:
     
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    Socially, I tend to respond. I'm very shy and have a difficult time starting up conversations, even with people I know well.

    In other areas I take more of the initiative. Especially with work, but also in other practical issues, too. Much of my work is very self-guided and requires a lot of discipline and initiative on my part to keep going. I'm a planner and if something's slow-starting (or not starting) I will give a nudge to get it going. I also enjoy starting up projects of my own "just for fun" on the side.
     
    #19 TheStormInside, Dec 28, 2014
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    I tend to respond, but I wish I were more the type to initiate.
     
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