Giving up sexuality?

This sounds like a game from Saw.

I don't quite understand the question...

 

um, do you mean like- wait what do you mean, like you can not just "give up" your sexuality, that sounds like your saying its a choice

 

I love my family, but... I mean. If they can't be okay with me liking men...

But. I'm pretty sure they know and they're just waiting for me to admit it.

 

When I come out to my family, if they aren't accepting I won't be willing to pretend like I never came out. I am who I am and they'll have to learn to accept me for me.

 

Depends on if I was financially independent or not.

 

I would leave them, yes. If they have the audacity to try and stop me from getting GRS after all I've done for them and after all we've been through then they don't deserve to be my family. If they can't love me as is, then there's no reason why I should love them back. It would hurt deeply and I would probably need a year or two to recover from all of it and get myself back on the right path but I would because it's not their decision, it's mine.

 

Oh ok now that you have said that, hell no its a part of who i am if they cant accept that then they cant be apart of my life, thankfully i wont have to ever say that

 

I plan to leave when I come out. I now realize, I can't hide for them. It's just impossible for me. I would eventually be outed in some way. I wouldn't be happy. It's just something I don't recommend. I've really thought about it for a long time. I think I've come to the right answer after finally accepting myself.

 

Being bi I sort of lead a duble life. I change depending on who I'm with

 

The latter. I'm extremely grateful my family don't care what sexuality I am but hypothetically I just can't see myself going back into the closet and living a life that would be anything but miserable

 

It depends on how much they are against it. If they would harrass me every single time, or if they would make rude comments (often), it might be better to leave. That applies for family (direct) to me. With friends and relatives, it's much easier to leave them.

Never.

 

Hard as it may be for family and friends to accept your sexuality, accept it they must. If (given time) they refuse to come around to the idea, then you must decide if an ongoing negative relationship with them is in your interests. I think the only realistic answer to that question is no.

Absolutely not. In fact, you just can't do it. The 'real you' will not go away just because you are maintaining some pretence of being straight. It will be there forever and will ultimately consume your every waking thought. Whenever we try to suppress our feelings they return with even greater strength until we have to confront them and learn to live with (accept) them.

When people refuse to accept us it is very painful and the idea of cutting all ties with them is extremely distressing, but you simply can't maintain a facade and try to please people in this way. It will destroy you, if you do. It may be difficult to imagine, but you gain far more by being true to yourself.

Life is for living.

 

That's a one-way ticket to self-imposed hell.

 

As I plan to leave my family anyway, their possible disgust at my sexuality doesn't really come into play.

Even in a hypothetical situation I would never pretend to be straight, though. That could lead to some pretty messed up stuff.

 

I would definitely cut ties with any "friend" who couldn't deal with my sexuality. A relative outside of my immediate family could also easily be "left." I would have a harder time dealing with my parents or sibling, however.

Provided I were financially independent, if they were really unbearable about it (always making comments, or asking me to leave the person I care about, or insulting me), I would also have to cut ties, even though it would really hurt.

I'd rather do that than live a lie.

 

I will wait to come out to my family until I am financially independent & then leave if that doesn't work out...