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Do most people sexually fantasize about their crush?

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  1. Sepulse

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    The last time I had a crush on someone I didn't really sexually fantasize about her. I was fourteen, so maybe I was a bit young. Sex was still scary and foreign for me. I mostly just fantasized about going on dates or being in a relationship. I can fantasize about sex and enjoy it, but I find it hard to think of fantasies or find material that I like. I sometimes find stuff that I like, but I get tired of it. Does this mean I'm kind of asexual or just repressed?
     
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  2. ZestyLion

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    Of course not! I try to sexually fantasiZe about my crushes too but I can't. I don't know how many people do, but personally I can't.
     
    #2 ZestyLion, Dec 30, 2014
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    A crush is a fantasy about love and not sex
     
    #3 Cherry Wright, Dec 30, 2014
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    I don't think that necessarily means you're asexual. That would be a matter of whether or not you enjoy actual sex, because even though masturbation can be an indicator, masturbation is not sex. Some people enjoy one but not the other.

    As for crushes, I've never really sexually fantasized about them. To me, there are better things to think about than sex. I would prefer to think about what being with them as a couple would be like, and that provides better feelings than masturbating to their image.
     
    #4 Glalie, Dec 30, 2014
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    I do.
     
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    Some people do, whilst others don't. I would say it is 50:50.
     
    #6 soulcatcher, Dec 30, 2014
  7. ccdd

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    I never used to sexually fantasise about my same-sex crushes until I acknowledged I was largely gay. As a teenager I had crush after crush but barely any of them had a sexual content.

    Even now, crushes are more about wanting to spend time with the person, and wanting them to text me, meet up with me, and compliment me etc, rather than me sexually fantasising about them.

    I think that some people are just more sexual in their crushes than others.
     
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    I find it strange to sexually fantasise about people I know unless I've already slept with them. I know it's probably a social awkwardness thing but I never want to associate that kind of feeling with a person unless they've made me feel it. When I'm really crushing on someone I have more romantic fantasies, but it's still more of a day dream type thing and not usually sexual.

    As for being asexual/repressed because you get bored of certain fantasies/material, I think that's just part of human nature. Even when you're 'flying solo' it's nice to spice things up every so often.
     
    #8 Haim, Dec 30, 2014
  9. Sepulse

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    That's good. I often get turned on by gross stuff just because it's new. A lot of the stuff I read and fantasize about is stuff I probably won't do in real life.
     
    #9 Sepulse, Dec 30, 2014
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    My crushes have been more about wanting to be near someone when I wasn't, wishing they were around to experience things with me, wanting to spend time with them and be physically close. Also other things, like wanting to do for them and take care of them, make them happy, and impress them. Sexually fantasizing about someone I know in reality makes me pretty uncomfortable unless I knew they reciprocated my feelings, anyway. I wouldn't say it never happens but it's less about that than just wanting to be with that person.
     
    #10 TheStormInside, Dec 30, 2014
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    I have a few times but not much, usually it's just about spending time with them/being close etc
     
    #11 Mickz, Dec 30, 2014
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    I don't know about most people but for me the answer is definitely yes.
     
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    I'm ace so no.
     
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    If I've got a crush on them, fantasizing about them sexually doesn't do anything for me. Which is strange because I usually find them very attractive. Physically.
     
    #14 Notlad, Dec 30, 2014
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    Hell ya i fantasize about my crushes in a romantic way and a dirty way...hehe well hell even a few ec members but thats another story...
     
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    Yep. I'm a very sexual person :wink:
     
    #17 MintberryCrunch, Dec 30, 2014
  18. Acm

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    I don't do it because I feel guilty and weird about it because it's someone I know, even though I obviously find them attractive. I've tried but it just makes me uncomfortable
     
    #18 Acm, Dec 30, 2014
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    I rarely sexually fantasized about my crush.
     
    #19 Skaros, Dec 30, 2014
  20. NingyoBroken

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    I did. Haha.
     
    #20 NingyoBroken, Dec 30, 2014
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