What if you found out your partner was Asexual and may not want sex?

There is very much the aspect of compromise in there.
For some people sexual compatability is very important and sex is in an important part of the relationship, and so discussion needs to take place to reach a compromise.
If the asexual person is sex repulsed and really does not want sex whilst the other person requires it, then perhaps the relationship won't work out. In the case that the asexual person does not mind, then perhaps sex could continue, if at least for the benefit of the sexual person.

And just before anyone says anything, I'm fully aware that what I just said was completely unrelated to the question, but I feel it may come up later in discussion, so I thought I should mention it.

For me, sex sounds pleasurable as hell, and I wouldn't mind it in the least, but I could probably live in a sexless relationship quite well.

 

Probably wouldn't work out. I want to be with someone who would really enjoy having sex with me. If they wouldn't have sex with me, or didn't enjoy it as much as me, I think I'd be upset.

 

No, that's not how I work I'm afraid.

I simply couldn't have a real relationship with any asexual person.
I am much too sexual a person myself.

Better be open and honest about it, to not raise any hopes.
No, I could not be with an asexual. Fact.

If they came out to me as asexual I would probably go "And I wondered why we didn't have sex yet!"

 

I would be very quite happy with it honestly

I'm looking forward to dating an asexual :'D

 

Please, go for it, you can have them all.

 

Not that I would like it, but I could deal with it. I need an emotional companion, just as much as I need sex, if not more.

 

I'm ace, but not sex repulsed. I would have sex with a partner but it wouldn't be like I'd want to jump into bed every night.

 

I don't think it would work very well for me. I enjoy sex and would like to have a partner who does too.

 

I like to think that if someone I had been with for a long time for some reason was suddenly unable to perform sexually that I could manage without it. But I would never consider starting a relationship with someone who was not interested in sex. Plus, actually now that I think about it when I think of scenarios where I would end up in a sexless relationship they always involve a long time partner being unable to have sex, never simply losing interest in sex--I think even in a longstanding relationship that might be the bridge too far. No, I'm afraid at the beginning of a relationship that would be one of the ultimate deal breakers for me.

 

Ehh, if I loved them I'd probably be able to deal with it.

 

I'd be trying to slap myself to wake up from the dream, honestly, because it would damn sure seem like one; I'd be relieved beyond belief.

I understand how it can be an important/healthy aspect to a relationship but it gets really old having to endlessly listen to the notion that it is the end all, be all to one and that it is important to everybody - *discussion cut off*(as if those of us who would rather not bother with it have some serious mental issue).

This is actually one of the things I dread running into, should I ever even get in a relationship, but the opposite. I feel like I wouldn't be able to satisfy anyone in this regard and they'd be better off without me so I won't be a burden to their needs(also a reason why an open/poly relationship wouldn't ever work).

We're just so invisible(or at least those like myself) that sometimes it seems a situation like this is inevitable...makes you wonder if bothering is even worth it...

 

You assumptions about people who DO like sex tire me, to an ever increasing extent.
I have no quarrel with you being asexual, or anyone being asexual.
I am merely being honest and open about not being able to be with an asexual.

But I fucking need sex.
I fucking love sex. It's a very vital part of MY life and well-being.
And I need partners who do as well.

You need to STOP insinuating that sex isn't as important as people think it is, and that everyone who loves sex thinks people who don't are daft and have mental issues.

I don't give a rat's arse about how frustrated you are, but I'd appreciate if you'd stop rambling about sex and people who enjoy it so much!

 

(*hug*) I was kinda happy when I saw you joined EC because asexuals seem to be a complete minority. That must be really frustrating to you. >.<

 

Are asexuals generally repulsed by sex or is it an activity that might be thought of something they aren't exactly interested in but don't mind? Now that I think about it, I assume it varies per person but I've thought it was the prior.

In either case, it wouldn't be an issue for me as long as we could still be intimate in other ways. It would be nice if he could meet me halfway every now and then, though. Sure, I'm not a very sexual person, but I am, undeniably, still sexual.

 

If I loved that person, I would talk with them and see where we could compromise. I have a very high sex drive and sex is a big need for me. It would not matter if I masturbated and she watched and touched me in key spots, or if she always gave and I received, or we chose to bring in another person to our relationship for just sexual purposes, but something would have to be worked out for me to have my emotional and physical needs met. Of course I would want her needs met also, and if we could not happily do this for both of us, it would not work out. It would tear my heart out to let her go, but it would be hell for both of us trying to make something work that was doomed to fail. That is why I think it is important to talk about your needs before your relationship gets to far going, because it's better to just remain friends than hurt each other.

If something happened now after being together for 11 years like I have been with my wife, I would want to know what and how to fix it. If it could not be fixed, then I would not throw away a 11 year relationship unless there was no intimacy involved at all. Not kisses or hugs or cuddling, etc. So I guess it would really depend on the reasons for being asexual, and when did I find out about it. Lots of variables.

 

Considering that I seem to be gray ace myself, I wouldn't mind it at all.

Wouldn't mind having sex once every blue moon though.

It varies from person to person.