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Friend in the Sex industry... What should I do?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Steam Mecha, Jan 6, 2015.

  1. Steam Mecha

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    Alright, So long story short is that this girl I'm dating wants Life experience, And she is looking into doing things for the adult Industry. At first this raised red flags from me, But I tried to be open minded, So I told her it's her life and she can do what she wants. Keep in mind, I'm not the kind of person that gets jealous or controlling. But now I'm really worried, I want her to be safe, And the people she is talking to seem shady, And she might end up living with other sex industry workers in a house that one of the shady guys runs up in Los Angeles. On top of that, She wants me to drive/go with her to some of these places for support, Witch I wouldn't feel safe with her or I even being to there. I've talked to her best friends and they feel the same way I do. I'd like to get other people's perspective on this. Thank you for reading.

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    Keep in mind this is the first time I've ever been put in a situation like this.
     
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    Porn is a very deep end industry and more than likely you'll be treading water than going with the flow. My ex-wife was a porn star but she did porn long before we met, and I've tried putting that past me but it was really hard and I know two people who are in the industry right now. There are definitely shady people in the adult film business, it's not even about who's gonna "steal" your girlfriend but how easily she's gonna be used and manipulated. One friend that I still talk tells me how much she hates porn but she does it cause it's easy money. My advice to you is get her away from the idea of it, let her know how it makes you feel.
     
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    I would be very wary if I was you or your friend. And if a situation feels dangerous then don't do it, trust your instincts.
     
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    Well, now's the time you communicate with her exactly how you feel.

    That's a tough industry. She would be better off starting her own website, her own endowed partner, and running her own business as opposed to ... well... There is also such a thing as having a pay site for solo videos.

    She will get STD's multiple times. Maybe not the big ones, but she will get her life experience and not the good kind.

    Look, it's a bad call. If she wants life experience, get a job, go skydiving, buy a fast car, race it at a track, buy guns, shoot guns, go hunting, but for cheesey chester's sake don't go to porn to get life experience, the only thing you get will be f***ed. Literally and figuratively.
     
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    Thank you for the replys so far, I've told her that I'd be fine with her modeling and having her own website, But she still wants to meet with these people. I already have an idea how me and her best friends are going to handle this. Her safety our 100% concern.
     
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    She can do what SHE wants.

    My opinion is that YOU should stay the hell away from any of that. Driving her to these functions puts you some 50 feet from the door and that sounds like being ensnared. Sorry, but I don't like what I'm reading, either straight up or between the lines.

    Again, she can do what SHE wants. Also, if she starts pushing the wrong buttons (for you), you are also entitled to push the eject button on the friendship.

    Stay safe ... both sexually and emotionally.