When your sexuality is casually acknowledged

This happens to me all the time now with my close friends. It was a nice surprise the first few times it happened and now it's something that just naturally comes up when talking about or noticing cute people.

 

Yep..This happens with me on a posotive way too...Maybe because the people who aknowledge it are female...They ask me when I plan on getting a boyfriend, which (male)co-workers do I think are cute, and if it's painful being a bottom...

 

Yeah. My friends always say "do you like him" or "Do you think hes cute" and "you should ask him out".

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They act like its normal now. I like that they are used to it.

 

My sexuality is usually made fun of right in front of me by those who don't see me as the gender I am.

 

People say it....


Jokingly.

 

When I joked with my mom about finding her a boyfriend, she responded that it was I who needed to find a man, woman, or who ever I liked.

 

I have one about my gender. One of my friends today asked what pronouns I preferred, knowing that I'm genderfluid.

 

I've been out for a few years now, but I still get a little happy, warm feeling when it's casually mentioned.

 

It's not so much my sexuality as it is my gender, but similar feelings. I recently realized I identify as agender, and hearing people using "they/them" pronouns to describe makes me feel happy, especially because most of my friends identify as cis heterosexuals. It makes me happy that so many are that accepting.

 

I agree! Hearing my pronouns and preferred name feels so good! I am agender and use they/them pronouns as well. The support of my friends and some teachers is great.

 

Well, when mine is casually acknowledged by one of the few people who know About me I resist the urge to do the PeePee Dance in excitement. I still do it in my head.

 

I think I'll be pretty happy/amused when this day comes.

I'm content with how I currently am acknowledged, but I await the day to see my own reaction when someone speaks about me with the above. Though I think it goes mostly unnoticed, I can't help but wonder if it's crossed a mind or two why I tend to refer to myself in neutral terms(ex: I've said before that I'll end up being an old cat person). I only recall having one guy noticing and asking why I referred to myself that way, but at the time I said it was another story, heh.


P.S. I find it amusing to have seen both of you post here about this. We should be the three amigops. :la:

 

I agree! We should become the three amigos! ^^^ (I'm not sure how to directly reply like you both did...)

 

About a year. My family was pretty okay with it but whenever I would try to talk about it, I was hushed and told not to say anything, especially in public. It hurt me because I thought that they where so worried about being judged by what I was saying instead of defending me if anyone did. Now I realize that it was probably just because they didn't want me to get hurt again.

 

Awwww that is so sweet, it must be a lovely feeling! Good for you and your friends <3

It hasn't happened to me yet, as I am not out (though I think it is pretty obvious) but I have said it/heard it being done around me at school or at the gym.

 

Congrats. that would've been a welcoming relief for me. But I'm not brave enough to make it that far lol .

 

Awe, what a great thing to experience. Only 3 people out of the dozen or so people that know about who I am are comfortable in talking about it, well 2 of the 3 I converse with more than the 3rd one. I had mentioned that there is someone I have noticed, and my confidante responded as naturally as it could be and that made my day.

 

if i get on my friend's nerves, he says "hey, i&w, whats to stop me from telling everyone you're sanpexual? huh?"
I think another thing I got was
"we need to find you a man-man"

 

It happened to me the other day in school. My friends were talking about how they thought this kid in my class might be gay (Not in a mean way. We were only speculating and he acts VERY camp...) and then one of them says "I think you shouldn't have to hide it. The amount of respect I have for you for coming out is unreal." I actually felt like crying :')