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Looking back, were there signs pre-puberty?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by JoeBloggs, Oct 25, 2008.

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Have you "always known" you were gay, even partially?

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  2. No

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  1. JoeBloggs

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    Hi,

    Just a little query really.

    I've read quite a lot on here about people who "always knew" that they were gay, or at least that they sub-consciously "always were" gay, it just didn't occur to them until they came out to themselves.

    But my story is a little different. Up until I was *about* 12, I wasn't physically attracted to anyone. There wasn't any things which make me think I was gay back then, and I even had a non-sexual crush on a girl when I was about 9 or 10 (though this was obviously pre-puberty so I had no sexual feelings whatsoever).

    But when I was about 12, an attraction to guys kicked in - I was aware that for "everyone else" a similar attraction to girls was occuring. I suppose from that point on until about 2 years ago (when I was 16), I was just hoping it was a phase and that it would go away and be replaced by an attraction to girls.

    Therefore the "coming out" to myself wasn't a kind of "bam!" that hit me that I must be gay... it was simply my loss of faith of it being a phase. Which happened 4 years on from when it started.

    So there's my (life) story, and I just wanted to know the proportion of people on here that "always knew" (at least partially), or whether, like me, the first signs of being gay were during puberty.
     
  2. berileos

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    I kinda felt it when I was very little,but it stopped for a period of time...few years ago it started again and this time it won't fade...:confused:
     
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    I selected yes.

    I didn't admit to myself until 3 years ago or so, however looking at the signs, yes there were signs.

    For starters I had a major crush on my grade 5/6 teacher.
     
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    Yep. Certainly were. Even from a verrrry young age (4 or 5) I could sense I was different. I maybe wasn't sure just how at that age, but I could tell.
     
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    Yes. A lot of my elementary friends were girls, and I always thought the classic Disney movies with princesses were more interesting than Aladdin or Hercules. At one point, in third grade, I was flipping through a magazine in class as part of a project, saw a picture of this attractive guy, and said out loud, "He's cute". I quickly realized what I had just said, but it was a very loud classroom and I don't think anyone noticed.
     
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    I didn't know till I hit puberty. But I guess iv always been a little different...
     
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    Not really for me, I only had the first indications that I might not be straight when I was about 16.
     
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    For sure. At the age of 5 I was telling everyone I wanted to be a girl. The signs have always been there.
     
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    Definately - I had a crush on my female teacher in grade 3. XD
    I got emotional crushes on girls before puberty, and when i hit puberty around 11 it hit me full-on. XD
     
  10. I selected no. There were no signs at all pre puberty that's why I think when I found out it hit me like a ton of bricks and I didn't take it well.
     
  11. Swamp56

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    I had a crush on a boy in third grade lol.
     
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    Yeeeup. I had a huge crush on Shania Twain from her Man! I Feel Like A Woman video :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I always looked great in a pair of heals. From the age of 2 and up.
     
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    The signs were there. I had pretty much only girls for friends in elementary school, and I played a lot of jump rope. haha. I had no interest in any of the sports we played. xD
    I did have crushes on girls though... I didn't even look at guys until the 7th grade....
     
  15. Master Hade

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    it happened in puberty.. we got the internet and i serched for gay pporn... like sub conciously
     
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    Looking back yeah there was several signs.I just never realized it until reccently.I was in High School and I had what I now know was my first girl crush on one of my classmates.Well two of them really.I didn't realize that they were actually crushes until I realized that I was bisexual 2 years ago.It really stunned me when I realized it though because I really had no idea.

    Now that I realize I am bisexual I remember that I had what I called "strange feelings" for a girl in my 2nd/3rd grade class.I cried for days when she moved away.
     
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    i once told my teacher that a certain male actor was very hot when i was in fifth grade. i had no idea what 'gay' was then but i can still remember the look she had on her face when she heard that... it was priceless. :grin:

    otherwise, i always had an attraction for guys ever since i was younger and even women when i was younger.
     
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    i didnt always know. the first time i actually thought 'whoa hang on', was when i got my first crush on a girl, and that was only a couple of years back. when i do think back before her, all i recall is confusion, however looking back there were signs yeah.
     
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    Yeah I've always known. A shitless guy always did something for me that a girl in a bikini didn't. :grin: In the first grade I told my friends that I wished I was girl and they never let me live it down.
     
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    Hm, well I had a nonsexual crush on a girl in 1st grade (or maybe it was Kindergarten), but I also remember that whenever I saw a hot guy (advertisement, irl) I got a fuzzy feeling in my stomach. After that first crush (which probably wasn't a crush...), it's been 100% boys.