How did you find out you were gay or bi?

I knew I was gay when I caught myself staring at other guys and kept thinking about guys but not girls. I came out because I didn't want to lie to anyone I know. So I told my friends because I knew they would be fine with.

 

I was looking at a picture of Liam Hemsworth and then I was like

"Maybe I like guys"

And I freaked out lol

 

Well, I got crushes or girls since I was little, which sometimes scared me and made me feel embarrassed, so I denied it repeatedly. Being gay or bi was out of question. I realised it when I started fantasizing and having sexual dreams about girls. That was about the time I was in high school and I had become more open-minded. I suddenly put the pieces together and wondered why I hadn't realized it before.

I came out to mother because I was overwhelmed by my realization. I wanted to talk to somebody and I knew she would easily accept the idea. She also reminded me that I had short of come out to her when I was 7. Then I came out to a childhood friend who is almost like my sister, just because she brought up the issue. She's an ally.

 

It was kind of backwards. I grew concerned when I realized girls didn't interest me.

Being gay was just the next logical conclusion I guess.

 

I think, at least for me, it wasn't much about finding out that I was gay, but acknowledging that I always have been. I can go back and think when I was around 10 and having feelings for guys instead of girls. I didn't knew what it meant back then, and it didn't felt abnormal. It was through the following years due to social pressure that I hide those feelings until I came to terms with my sexuality.

 

I don't know that there was ever a time that I just knew.... I can remember as far back as I remember liking girls more than boys, when I was close to middle school and a bunch of friends & I were playing around on the monkey bars, and I recall watching the way that my friends body swayed back and forth and feeling really excited inside about her. That same year a boy snuck a kiss from me and I ran home crying lol! I think I dated men over women because it was expected of me, and not acceptable to be lesbian in a small rural town in the 80's. I always knew who I was, it was just hard to let others know. I told my brother first right after my senior year and we had a good time cruising and checking out girls... I told my 2nd brother next and he didn't have a lot to say at first, but then condemned me. I waited almost 20 yrs more before taking a stand last year and coming out again to everyone... and I did it because I will not live a lie, I will not deny that side of me that deserves to be loved, I will not be ashamed of who I am, and I will live my life to the fullest.

 

Porn.

 

It was when I was talking to some lesbian and bi girls while I was in the hospital. I knew something was up before that and I was always looking at girls, but I was deeply in denial.
Technically I first came out to them, but it was for about a week long period before I was right back in denial like before. Just not as deeply, and if this makes sense, I was aware that I was lying to myself, so it didn't last for too long before I came out properly to my mom and a few other people.

 

In Middle School, I started liking a boy in the school's football team...
Also, I felt "strange" whenever I saw pictures of hot guys modeling...

 

I had a sexual encounter and then later in life it came up again for me and reoccured often so I knew. Mainly when I looked at women after having been dating men.

 

I was questioning since eleven Came out at 21 or 22. But my rue discovery was when I seen another boy naked in school locker room and I got aroused. I was in high school. I was 16. Even then I was confused, so I decided to test my confusion again why looking up gay XXX stuff... and well... same result.

 

Teen years ... right around puberty.
Saw some R-rated movies with female nudity ... got aroused.
Saw a hot male centerfold in a magazine ... got aroused.
Thought about it ... got confused!

 

I've always been attracted to women as well, but never really thought it meant anything. Now that I'm with a woman I'm leaning more towards being gay than bisexual. I can't even look at a man and get aroused anymore.

 

I fell in love with my best friend. It was an absolute disaster. She cheated on me with a guy and they're married now, but, ahem.

I thought I was bi then, because I convinced myself (at my moms instruction) that I could find men attractive. Then I dated a guy. And, well, nope. Nuh uh. Not my thing!

Accepted I was gay a few months after breaking up with the guy. ^-^;

 

It is more like it found me. I always interested in boys as long as I can remember.

Probably Gay Fairy regret the day it found me, I am the worst gay ever.

 

See, it's questions like this, where I wish I wasn't a virgin and could say:

"How did I find out I was gay/bisexual? Probably when I was orally making that sexy lady scream in ecstasy, while that hot fellow was gettin' it in, during that wicked awesome threesome... where we were all dressed in clown costumes."​

But no! I have to settle for this:

There was inklings here and there. Being bisexual, it was harder to detect at first, because you're kind of expected, by society, to be heterosexual. So, as long as I liked women (when I identified as a male), then it was okay, and I was being a good little heterosexual. All those feelings for men, well, that was just something that came and went.

But it never went, they lingered around.

One day, I just thought, I like girls and guys. Reflective pause. Hell yeah!

No super-sad sob story, no overcoming the greatest obstacle tale. Just... a fairly dull realization, really.

 

Pretty simple I never got turned on being around girls or seeing "hot" pictures of girls, but guys oh yeahhhhh