How easy is it to spot a lesbian?

I don't know, I usually can't tell.. But sometimes I can.

The thing is, I pay attention to my gaydar more because I'm a (mostly) gay guy too. If I see an attractive guy it all of a sudden turns on and I can usually tell if they have "the vibes" or not. Haha

All the guys I'm attracted to are feminine men, but even among them I can tell who's straight or not. But of course, you can never truely completely rely on instinct.

 

Not easy! I wish it were easier!
Now, having said that, it seems that most of the time when I am attracted to someone, even from across the room, they do turn out to be lesbian. I have no idea how that works, but it seems to.

 

I've never seen anyone who I was sure was a lesbian. It's not as easy (in my opinion) because there's quite a few guys who are obviously gay because they act like "queens". However, like you said, if women are more masculine I do not assume that they are a lesbian.

 

It's really easy to guess who's lesbian or not at my school. They tend to be badasses that will fight you if you insult them or their friends(which is me). Everyone leaves them alone.

 

Very easy if they had been sprouting homoerotic tattoos.

 

It is not easy.

 

Next to impossible in my opinion

 

I'm not sure, myself. There are a lot of girls/women around here who appear to be very "queer," and so I think sometimes they might be gay, but I have no confirmation of the fact, and it may just be their stylistic preference. Heck, one of my best friends is very androgynous and if I saw her on the street I'd guess she might be a lesbian, but she is totally straight.

Some gay guys do indeed have particular mannerisms that make them stand out. I've not really observed anything like that in lesbians, with the exception perhaps of very very masculine women.

 

They wear Crocs.

 

I'm the same way. I can almost always tell if a guy is gay (even if they're not a 'queen') but I've never seen a girl on the straight and thot "she's for sure a lesbian." Could be because I'm the only lesbian I've ever known so I don't have much to base off of.

 

It's hard, and it drives me insane. (I have good "gaydar" for guys but it does not have any effect with women.) Life would be so much less stressful if it were easier to tell.

 

it is most definatly harder to sence if a female is lesbian, but like many others i end up crushing on a girl and it turns out that girl is lesbian. its less of a radar notion, more of a heartfelt one

 

My gaydar for lesbian gals.....is really bad. For me to be able to tell....I don't want to stereotype but.....if a girl had really short hair....and boyish clothes. Or if they are really masculine or 'butch'....I don't like the word butch though. I feel it might be offensive?

 

Really easy. If I think someone is a lesbian, there is a high chance of her actually being one. But then again, some of the girls that I do not suspect of being lesbian may actually be one.

 

I've never really bothered, it just turns out a lot of girls I was into turned out to be later! I can't remember if it was here or on another forum, but someone said they basically refuse to accommodate men, and are more direct with them, compared to straight women - basically there's no sexual tension, so if someone knows and is looking for the signs, they're there.

Except I don't think too many do, and are. Women are given a lot more leeway when it comes to expression, so some things that would send huge red flags for a gay man don't. Unless they're extremely butch, or have never shown interest in the opposite sex, I don't make assumptions.

There's a certain way of speaking, I've noticed, but this is more of a pet hypothesis at this point...

 

my gaydar is awful. Or maybe I've just met a lot of exceptional people.

 

For me it's easy to spot them, though I was wrong once I think.
Pay attention to the "talking" - even the lipstick lesbians have one or more traits in their dictionary/voice temper that can "expose" them. Also, tomboys are always at least slightly bi so this will rule out the straight part at least.
btw - the people I've met have bad gaydar about me...most people think I am either 100% straight or 100% gay.

 

I can't tell a lesbian girl from a hetero one. Unless they do something totally obvious. Sometimes I can't tell a gay man from a hetero one either. Unless, I listen to him talk. But sometimes that doesn't always work either.

I mean, you just don't know anymore in this city. A guy can be leading the gay parade and I would be like "You twirl a hell of a baton, sir!" :roflmao: