The Talk

I know that there have been threads about this before but, I wanted to know how many of you actually got "The Talk" from your parents/guardian.

I never actually got "The Talk" from my parents. When I was like 5 or whatever, I think I asked that age-old question "where do babies come from?" They told me ya know the generic "when two people love each other and blah blah blah," but that was it. I got nothing around the time I hit puberty or anything like that. So what were your experiences, did you have "The Talk"?

 

I have no recollection of this but mum insists that when I was like 10 or 11, she came to me with the intention of giving me "the talk" and she swears I cut her off and bluntly told her "I don't need this, I know more about it than you do." Mum was like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ ("looks like we got a bad-ass over here" I bet is what she was thinking) and never brought the subject up again.

Yep, looks like being an uncouth little prick is something I've always had in me

 

Its sad that I never got The Talk from adults. Just a horror stories or fairy tales from peers. Really I think its important to educate our kids. I talked to my son when the signs of puberty started to show on him. I thought that his father should do the talking and explain to him but that never happened. So it was on me.

 

"Well, there's a book there, you can read it if you want"

I never read it.

 

never had the talk. the subject of sex never even came up. wasn't exactly hard to figure out myself.

 

Never had it.

This little girl at school (who was obsessed with it and is probably a nympho now), told me what sex is.

 

I find it actually kind of alarming that no one's parents were open enough with them to have a talk. My talk consisted of me asking about it and then my mom being completely honest. I was like. Oh. Okay. And I moved on. I don't see why it has to be this huge awkward thing. I think it's more dangerous to shelter your child than to provide them with safe knowledge and make them feel okay with it. I am thankful that my mom was secure and open with it.

 

I knew what sex was from the age of 5 or so. I remember thinking I was a badass telling all the other kindergarteners what it was.

I did ask my mom the "where do babies come from?" question when I was 9 or so. She asked me if I knew what sex was, I said yes, she told me that's how babies are made. Pretty short talk. My mom never hid anything from me and was a really open parent, though I learned from other people's dumb little stories and gossip.

 

Didn't have it and I'm glad. School taught me everything in sex ed.

 

I had the real, detailed thing when I asked questions. I was glad my Mom answered them, because sex ed was terrible in high school.

 

I have to wonder about everyone's experience actually learning from sex ed? Or maybe my experience was just untypically frivolous?
No explanation of what sex was, just how the different body parts worked. And of course the whole "if you have sex you will get pregnant and have quintuplets and lose your job and be a failure in life and get every STD and die" deal. :rolle:

 

I like to read, so they gave me a book.

I think it's funnier that I didn't know what masturbation was until I was 12, and that was only after I got bored and Googled it.

 

I just got a lecture about periods.

 

Growing up, my parents had those black cable boxes, the ones that picked up everything illegally -- and this included porn. Between that and R-rated movies, I got an idea, and grade school gossip filled in the rest.

The closest my parents came to having "The Talk", was something like this, when I was about 8:

Father: You ever going to have a girlfriend?
Me: Don't know. Don't really care.
Father: Well, when you do, don't do anything with your pants off. I'm not in the mood to have some girl's parents on my ass.
Me: Right.
*everybody goes their separate ways*

But I pretty much knew what he meant, by that.

As for Sex Education, the year we had it, I was usually always in detention or skipping class. The few times I was able to go, it was all pretty tame and boring. Basic worksheets with some images of the human body.

 

The first introduction to puberty and periods I got was probably when I read Are You There, God? It's Me, Margaret. I think I was less than 8 at the time, so before any Talk.
Then I got into fanfiction and fell across more than my share of explicit content, so had a good idea of how the physical aspect of sex went.
Then I must have read a book on biology, and then in school I must have been 13 or so when we officially studied How Babies Are Made, and that was the scientific, chromosomy, spermy aspect of things done with.

I think my mother just never had the time to give me the Talk, because by the time we had our first discussion about sexuality, I already (thought I) knew all about it. We're pretty open with each other, though; we sometimes talk about my relationships, safety, etc. So I don't feel like I missed out on anything by not having The Talk. She trusts I know how it works, and I feel comfortable talking to her if I have any concerns.

 

Learned everything from school and TV.

 

Never had the Talk, we never talked about sex.
I did have sex ed in school but everything about Gay Sex I had to learn on the Internet.

 

Being as my mother is a doctor, I knew names of parts at a very young age. I remember being two and knowing I had a penis. I learned about the biological part of reproduction, the sperm meeting the egg, from medical books that my mom had left over from college.

As for the whole emotional, relationship side of sex, I'm not sure where I learned about that, but I got that lesson first-hand from entering into a relationship at 16. I learned pretty quickly what an ejaculation was when I was 11...

 

My dad taught me everything when I was 10 yknow the basics. However this was my grandmothers "the talk" to my dad when he was 16 and his friends were around. She said "don't touch girls in certain places"

 

I never had 'The Talk" I just learned on my own.