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How long have you lived in the closet?

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  1. gamerguy

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    Just wondering. Time you were in denial doesn't count (so when you think "No, I'm not gay, of course not!"), however, the time you didn't accept it, but 'knew it' ("I hate being gay. I'm miserable" kind of thoughts) do. I'm not out yet, but plan to be soon, and then I'll be at about 1 year in the closet.
     
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    I'm not fully out, but I was in the closet for ~1 year until I came out to my friend.
     
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    I still consider myself to be in the closet, so I'd say 2 and a half years.
     
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    I've been Closeted for a long time, I knew I was Gay at a young age and didn't really deny it. I just hid it. Although there was a very short period when I tried to deny my sexuality.
    I still Haven't came out so I'd say somewhere around 5 Years+.
     
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    Only about 6 months. That's when I first realized I was gay and I'm just starting to come out.
     
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    4 years.
     
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    Ermm... About two months... Sort of...
     
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    ive lived in the closet half my life. im only out to my gay friends
     
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    I may be out to a few people but I still consider myself closeted. Going on 11 years.
     
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    My dad: 10 years and still counting...
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    Other people don't really matter...But females, I always tell them...With sttaight boys, I stay in the closet...
     
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    Since being aware of said attraction? Well there was probably a brief moment of denial(it pretty much added up more than anything), so it'd be somewhere between 2-2½(?) years and counting as of now.

    Even not being out to anyone, I can get you there, unfortunately... :l
     
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    Ever since I really realized that I was into women, well I didn't tell anyone except a few friends for over a year. And the last month I've been dating a woman and that's been more difficult to keep on the down low than I expected. It's easier to stay in the closet if you're not dating or seeing anyone of the same sex, at least for me it was.
     
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    Two or three months but I'm not out to everyone. I only decided to come out to one person because I was confused about it and I knew he was gay plus we were already pretty close (he's one of my teachers). Now I'm out to quite a few friends, another teacher, and the guidance counselor all because he pushed me to tell certain people haha. I'm thankful for that, though. He's basically a mentor for me now, which is great
     
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    Like 10 or so. I am mostly straight and don't feel the need to come out. Like...some times I guess I have the desire to say to friends or relatives: 'I've had sex with a guy and liked it' lol, but....still only girls/women can turn me on - both sexually and romantically, and so not really in a need to come out as bisexual.

    But yeah I kinda feel/guess how terribly bad feels if you're really into your own sex and can't come out :frowning2:.

    But, cheer up - better be who you are rather than caring what others think about you.
     
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    I've never lived in a closet.........but some of the apartments I have lived in are about the size of one.
     
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    Up until now. I havent come out to anyone yet, except to my best friend and 2 of my online friends.
     
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    Until I was in my early 20s, I didn't really consider myself gay so it's hard to say it I was "in the closet" before that time. It took me a few years of being in denial/figuring out who I was. So maybe 2-3 years between the time I had an inkling I was gay to full-on coming out.
     
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    Well its only been a few years since I really came to accept that I'm some kind of "bisexual", despite knowing full well that I had sexual activity with two male friends as a teenager, and can recall a few distinct male crushes during my college years. I guess that should have tipped me off that something was "different"--aka, not fully "straight".

    Certainly haven't "come out" to anyone yet--though my brother might have some inkling. How the heck would I explain to people that I feel about 70% straight and 30% gay?

    I'm not at all confused anymore about my own sexual orientation, but I do still get confused regarding the labels. I hesitate to tell someone I am "bisexual" given how crude that label or category feels to me.