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Cis men, would you get pregnant if you could?

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  1. RainbowGreen

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    So, I've been getting curious about trans men who get pregnant to have kids. I've seen arguments both for and against it. The arguments against it were mostly saying that if trans men wanted to get pregnant, they weren't ''really'' men (low blow), that instead of doing that, they could adopt, that it went against their goals of transitioning ect. The arguments for were mostly that adoption is difficult and biaised towards hetero-cis couples, making a trans man far in the list. Then, they went on to say that ''If cis men could get pregnant, a lot of them would.''.

    Now, that last statement brought my attention. In the case of an infertile female partner, a gay relationship, or any other reason, would a cis man resort to it if the possibility was there?

    Obviously, if one doesn't want kids, they'll answer no. But, those of you who do want kids, would you do it?
     
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    I think yes i would love to ^__^
    But only as a man and without changing a thing about my nature
    Which i dont think is possible
     
    #2 joshy the queen, Jan 23, 2015
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    not a fucking chance.
     
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  4. NingyoBroken

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    Sorry, I'm trans so I shouldn't be answering this.

    I personally find pregnancy to be a distinctly female thing. Even if I wanted kids (which I absolutely do NOT), I would never, since it's a thing that females do, that men can't do, and an indicator of a female body. It even feminizes you.

    However, a good friend of mine is a trans man who has a biological child, and he's a man just like any other.

    I definitely wouldn't judge guys who would do it, but I don't understand how they could without going suicidal.
     
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    Why so .....:lol:
     
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    No, not at all interested.
     
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    I understand why transguys wouldn't want to get pregnant, seeing as it's seen as something exclusively female, but I'm mostly interested in seeing if this argument is founded :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I'd rather not haha, I would feel really awkward. Besides, pregnancy is such a pain.
     
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    After hearing how much pain women go through in pregnancy and giving birth can be one of the most painful things in your life? I don't want to ever get pregnant!
     
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    Well it doesn't sound like fun. Also I don't want children anyway
     
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    I'll pass. Though, it would be awesome if we were hermaphodites like some fish and lizards. Then we could be like bonobos: having sex with any and everyone.
     
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    I'm sure whatever process created to make it anatomically possible would be fascinating, but I think I'd give carrying a child around for a few months in my body a pass.
     
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    That would be hilarious though.

    Not that pregnancy is hilarious. I grew up with four young siblings. Being around a perpetually pregnant lady and a bunch of kids is the best damn birth control/rubber persuasion ever.

    But do I see pregnancy as a "female" thing? Well, it's a typically feminine thing. But I know a lot of trans guys who have families (most of them had kids before transition though). And I have a lot of trouble seeing them as feminine even with a damn eight month gut.

    I would NEVER be able to go through with it. Ever. I don't really like young kids and I would be a bitch if I were a pregnant guy.

    If my boyfriend and I want kids later on (we both agreed that while the idea of being daddies was nice, we weren't gonna be ready for it in a long time), we'll adopt an eight year old or something.
     
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    Alien has forever turned me off to the idea of things growing inside me.

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    In all fairness, Xenomorphs are better behaved than most 2 year olds I know.
     
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    I'd do it in a hot second! From an early age, I always wanted to have a baby - then realized it couldn't work... Haha.
     
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    Pregnancy sounds unpleasant and painful; no.
     
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    This is weird because without bringing up this topic at all, my boyfriend and I had this discussion earlier. He wants to have kids one day (biologically, unlike me, I want to adopt) and when I said I wouldn't want to do it, he said he'd do it if he could! He said that it would be an endurance and strength challenge that he wouldn't mind accepting.

    I suppose I should mention that he's straighter than a line.
     
    #19 CJliving, Jan 23, 2015
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    My boyfriend and I would love to have kids. We don't know how the adoption process will go. =] If I could get pregnant, I'm sure I would get pregnant at some point (or my boyfriend, if he could). But we would love to adopt kids, so I don't know whether we'll have biological children, or adopted children. Perhaps both. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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