Apparently Gay Guys Can't JUST Be Friends? -.-;

[Tim]

Ok, so I'm just logging onto Myspace, as usual, and a friend I haven't talked to for a while ended up sending me a message, so I end up responding back, and now I have her blocked >_>:

Her: "So, you're friends with (insert gay guy friend name here)?"
Me: "Yea, why?"
Her: "Are you two dating? Since you both are gay I mean?"
Me: "Why would we be? We're just friends"
Her: "Sure, I get it, you are, and hiding it."
Me: "Um... ok, think whatever you want." "I have a question for you."
Her: "Yes?"
Me: "Do you have any straight guy friends?"
Her: "Yes, tons."
Me: "Are you going out with any of them?"
Her: "Heck no, we're just friends. Why would you even ask that?"
Me: "Exactly."

>_> So yea, apparently 2 gay guys can't be friends without going out. Can anyone enlighten me as to why she would even think that? ._. I know I'm not the only one this has happened to before (or I hope I'm not >_>)

EDIT: She saw I was friends with him because he's on my top 8 friends ~.~

[Janvier]

I dunno, my gay friends are like that too:
"Hey Janvier, we should have sex sometime"
"No"
"Why? You're gay, I'm gay, we should have sex"
"Whatever.."

[Mikeyy]

Yes, unfortunately, some straight people are like that. But your retort was great - I may steal it and use it sometime.

:P

[Wander]

Yes, I've seen situations like that a time or two. Fortunately, I'm not bothering with dating myself and I don't have any out gay friends, so it's never actually happened to me.

[George]

This is so similar to the thing of "oh are you sure you're gay? How do you know? You should date a girl to see"

As much as I'd love to experience sex, I'd only give up my virginity after the sixth date with a guy. And even then, I'd only go out with a guy I would be compatible with.

[musican]

It was really awkward for because people say that my best friend and I should date, but she's a girl and Im gay, so thats not going to happen. Sometimes I just want to yell at them and say, umm hello Im gay, theres zero chance that we're going to go out. but i never do.

lol thats funny

[BlueRose]

We once had a discussion in my literature class about whether a guy and a girl could be "just friends." The general consensus of the class was no. I said: "Yes. A gay guy and a lesbian." Laughter ensued. Note: I'm not sure whether I was officially out at that point.

But, yeah. Two gay people can definitely be "just friends."

On a slightly related not: does anyone else get annoyed when the first question somebody asks once they find out you're gay is who your boyfriend/girlfriend is? Because if you're gay, you definitely can't be single, can you?

[Miaplacidus]

Here it actually seems to be like that.

No one gay wants to be friends with me... they just want sex I wish I had more gay friends.

haha everyone thinks that me and a good friend of mine are dating who is a girl.
She said that she's my beard. And after some explain, it kind of made sense.

[littledinosaurs]

Originally Posted by Myke

haha everyone thinks that me and a good friend of mine are dating who is a girl.
She said that she's my beard. And after some explain, it kind of made sense.

wanna exlpain that one to me O.o

[-Michael-]

I adore the much loved.
"I know this gay guy, you two should hook up."

Makes me laugh everytime.

[kh23172]

Haha, good comeback. It's true, however, most people do think that. The stereotype once again prevails in having people assume that all gay people are sluts. Which, is true for majority of them, sadly. That is one thing I don't appreciate about being gay, even though I am proud -- it is that, even though we despise the stereotypes, 9 out of 10 gay guys fulfill them completely. I'm not even joking. People might ridicule me for being cynical, but I'm outspoken and I am entitled to my beliefs, and it is a belief that I have confided in.

[BlueRose]

It's not really that gay guys are whores so much that, in gay relationships, you have to deal with the libidos of two men. Thus, more sex. Besides, last time I checked straight guys were just as much whores as gay guys.

[panda]

Originally Posted by littledinosaurs

wanna exlpain that one to me O.o

http://lesbianlife.about.com/od/herstory/g/Beard.htm

[Owen]

I think it's because that people assume that two members of any minority can go out since they share their minority-ness and have at least that much in common. It happens for race too; just look at the ending of National Lampoon's Van Wilder.

Originally Posted by panda

http://lesbianlife.about.com/od/herstory/g/Beard.htm

Yes that, except for the whole marrying thing.

[George]

Originally Posted by Gamer am I

I think it's because that people assume that two members of any minority can go out since they share their minority-ness and have at least that much in common.

A prime example of this is the movie Adam and Steve. They're just two random gay guys who fall "in love" with no similarities at all.

"OMG YOU'RE PART OF MY MINORITY! LET'S HAVE EACH OTHERS' MAN BABIES"

[Derek the Wolf]

Yeah, you can just be friends. You handled the situation really well. I woulda gotten really pissed off, and when that happens I lose the ability to come up with well-reasoned arguments.

Of course they can be friends. They just need to have some self control